So you are now one of the millions of women who learned she has a husband with fantasies about you having sex with other men. Welcome to our club. Hopefully youāre past the shock. Maybe you have even reached that point where there is no need for me to tell you how lucky you are. If youāre not then you WILL reach that point if you follow what other wives like me have learned.
If youāre like most of us, you were unaware that your husband had these desires. You were living the married life thinking that you knew your husband better than he knew himself. Ha! Too funny.
Depending on how long youāve been married, things may or may not have cooled off in the bedroom. Face it. The rut comes to every bedroom. If it hasnāt donāt be lulled into thinking it wonāt happen to you. Some of you may have already had affairs or even had thoughts of leaving your husband out of sheer boredom. Then you somehow found out about his secret fantasy, and hopefully decided that there is a solution for the both of you. Lucky you, even if you donāt know it yet.
He wants you to have sex with another man. Wow. Unsure about it? Donāt feel alone. I did too. But take a moment and think about the potential. See all of those other unhappy women out there in boring, sexless marriages? See all those other women around you having affairs, lying to themselves and their husbands, and risking messy divorces? Donāt laugh at them. They were once you, or could have been you. But now you will end up different from them. If you read this and follow it youāre going to find yourself on a road that will return you to sexual fulfillment, feeling as confident as when you were first married, in love with your husband again and appreciating him more than ever.
You are on the way to becoming a Hot Wife.
A Hot Wife is a woman who is free to have sex with others with her husbandās knowledge, approval and encouragement. The level of her husbandās involvement can vary. In fact it will be up to YOU. Some wives play completely on their own, with no interaction with her husband. Others enjoy their husband watching or participating. However, in all these relationships the wife is free to play with others, while the husband remains completely monogamous and faithful only to her.
Sound crazy? Well believe me when I tell you it is easy to do and your sex life will be better than you imagine. In this new relationship the husband is often called a cuckold, which just means a man with a cheating wife. Of course cheating is a misnomer, since the wifeās actions are not hidden from the husband, and he is very aware of her activities. In fact his awareness and approval is one of the most important ingredients. It will turn him on like nothing youāve ever done before.
I assume youāre reading this because youāve finally found out about your husbandās desires and you are contemplating the Hot Wife lifestyle. Good for you, but you may want some advice.
First, go slowly. Do not rush it. Having a husband that enjoys this lifestyle is different, so you need to nurture the relationship first and foremost, while moving into the lifestyle slowly. It might take time before you are comfortable having full on sex in front of him, or he may take time to become accustomed to watching or knowing you are out being intimate with other men. What you want to do is encourage his desires for you to be with other men, and make it as pleasurable for him as it is for you.
If you go slowly and follow my advice, in time you will have a husband that will let you do anything sexually. Anything! And he will want you to do more. He will find himself anticipating it as much as you (maybe more than you). He will get his sexual satisfaction from YOUR encounters with other men, and most importantly he will be drawn to you like never before, and more in love with you than at any time in your marriage!
In the Hot Wife lifestyle there are three levels of involvement for your husband:
1. You meet other men alone with no involvement from your husband. He may never know them or meet the other men in your life. You meet them on your own, and make all arrangements without any approval from your husband. The other men may or may not know about your lifestyle, or be aware that your husband knows about them. They may not even know youāre married, if you choose to remove your rings and pretend to be single.
2. You meet other men together with your husband, with him knowing them, and them knowing of him. However any interaction between both men is more on a social or perhaps friendship level. Your husband is not involved in any sexual activities between you and the other man. Your husband could even be the one who finds other men or helps make arrangements for you to meet them (your ādatesā). But your husband is not included in your sexual encounters, except possibly left to hear them via an open phone call while they are happening.
3. Having sexual relations with other men in your husbandās presence, or even engaging in some sexual play that involves all three of you, mĆ©nage Ć trois style. In the classic cuckold arrangement you engage in sexual play with your lover while your husband watches, but he does not play at all.
As an extension of this situation, there can be involvement of the husband in the classic mƩnage-a-trois arrangement, or traditional three ways. This could involve any degree of sex, which all three agree upon. Some wives prefer their husband be involved sexually and that is your choice. As you will see this will all become about YOUR preferences.
Any of these levels can be appropriate, depending on the couple and what they prefer. Itās important to know where you, and to a lesser extent your husband, wish to take things, so open communication is important to establish your goals and boundaries. Just make sure that the āotherā man fully understands everything as well. Itās important for him to know upfront where he fits into the coupleās relationship. Itās also important that he respect any boundaries you set out (you set the boundaries, NOT your husband).
With proper techniques, a new Hot Wife can quickly learn how to get the most from her sexual encounters AND help her husband find new levels of pleasure from a more passive role than he is likely to have experienced earlier in your marriage. This takes time though, as most husbands are accustomed to being the spouse in charge.
As you begin, you MUST remember one very important fact. Hot Wife is not just about sex. Itās also about CONTROL. If you are like most women, your husband has been in control so far in your marriage. Right? Well, now you can change that.
Hot Wife is about what YOU want. YOUR sexual pleasure. YOUR sexual control. I know it sounds strange. But once youāve experienced it you WILL enjoy it immensely! Think YOU not HIM. As selfish as it may sound at first, doing so will turn him on more than anything youāve ever done yet! The change in you by itself will begin to arouse him.
Now, hereās what to do the first few times. After that, once youāve got a taste of it (and heās thirsty for more), you can do as you damn well please. After all, you are the Hot Wife! (You wonāt read stuff like this anywhere else.)
Remember rule #1 - The goal is for YOU to be in control of the sex, not him. You do what you want; when you want; and how you want; with whom you want and have him go along with it. Got it?
First, you have to set the groundwork from the beginning. If you do it right, he will be totally faithful and a perfect husband to you, as he learns to get his sexual satisfaction in the lifestyle as a result of YOUR being satisfied. Meanwhile you can have fun with your new freedom and let out the little slut thatās bottled up inside every woman.
DONāT let him decide what kind of sex or how much sex or who you should have sex with. Remember this - NO CHOICE and NO VOICE. He should have no say in whether or not you jack a man off, or if you chose to screw the entire staff of Starbucks. He should have no say in whether you go out to another mans home, or bring a man into your bedroom. He should have no say in when it happens, or whom you choose. Once you allow him to have a say, then you let the control slip back to him. Thatās NOT what you want. You want to be the one in control. Trust me, YOU will love it once it happens, and HE will too (even if he doesnāt know why).
When you decide youāre going to go out and meet someone, or have someone over, just tell your husband, in a very matter of fact tone. Donāt give him a choice in the matter. Say, āIām having someone over tomorrow evening and weāre going to spend some time in bed.ā Or say, āIām going out with someone Friday night and I plan to go home with him afterwardā. Thatās it. You can share as many details as you want (before and after) but donāt let him try to influence you or allow him to shape the event. Be firm. Make it clear that you are making the decision because itās what you want. Take control of your sexuality and control that aspect of your relationship for that night. Send the message that youāre in charge.
If you want, itās fine to tell him whatās going to happen before you do it. That is a big part of the excitement for many couples. Share all of the details you wish. But the idea is to show him that youāve made a decision based on YOUR needs and desires, and his needs are secondary to your needs right now. Show him that youāre a horny woman whoās taken charge of getting yourself satisfied without him. The idea that you will go to another man for your sexual fulfillment will drive him crazy with lust for you (trust me!).
Itās also important to keep him involved every step of the way. Share everything. Depending on your relationship level, you may want to keep him abreast of your discussions with the other man, share details of your plans, etc. Itās important to keep him involved, but as a SPECTATOR and NOT a participant.
This creates a sexually charged experience for him, even before you have ANY sex at all! If you are having thoughts about calling someone to meet this weekend, tell him. Let the suspense and excitement build. Itās a game. Share it with him and it will excite you BOTH.
When the big day arrives to meet a man, be deliberately aloof and distant from your husband the entire day. Give him some tasks to keep him busy, maybe something that helps prepare for your evening. Perhaps send him out to buy a nice bottle of wine, or tidy up around the household.
Many couples enjoy the ritual of the husband helping the wife prepare herself for a date. You can have him help you bathe or shower, and dry you off. Have him put on your panties and stockings. I talk to my husband and tease him, I tell him to get me ready for the other manās cock, etc.
Doing this lays the groundwork early on. It puts you in charge and creates an atmosphere where he begins to mentally relinquish his rights to you, as part of turning you over to another man. Doing this also reinforces the new power you have. It will also make the sex more intense between the two of you during the next few days, when he takes charge of you again. Itās an important part of the game that has powerful appeal, and helps bond you together.
If you are having a man over, have your husband arrange the areas where you will entertain (living room, bedroom, ect). Dim the lights. Light some candles and put on some quiet music as you wait. If he will be present in the bedroom, have him prepare an area off to the side from where he will watch.
When the man arrives, EVERYTHING should change. Discuss beforehand what your husbandās role will be. Assuming that he remains present, there are certain things you can do to set the tone, and create an unforgettable night for him AND you.
First, have it prearranged for him to sit somewhere out of the way, so that you and your lover can carry on as if your husband is NOT THERE AT ALL (this is VERY important). I usually tell the other man to ignore my husband. After the early pleasantries my husband seldom interacts with us at all. The excitement of experiencing a new man sexually, while at the same time turning on the man I love, is difficult to explain but incredibly exciting.
When the man arrives at your home, donāt be timid and make small talk for an hour. This is a common mistake. Itās too awkward to prolong things. Everyone knows heās there for sex. Thereās no reason to delay. Since itās all about sex, look for the first chance to break the ice and get started. This is part of your ātake chargeā persona that comes with the control youāve assumed. Show your desire for the other man by initiating intimacy while your husband watches.
If I know him from previous dates I often give a full kiss to my ādateā right in the doorway and linger, perhaps even lightly rub his crotch a bit, giving him a chance to return the grope.
Then I walk him into the living room, with my husband either following or already waiting for us. Depending on the man, I sometimes prefer to have an adult video playing on the TV with the volume turned down, and pleasant music playing lightly in the background. With a nice glass of wine this is a sure-fire way to get things going without much delay.
You can linger there if you want, or wildly strip off your clothes and jump on him, or lead him to the bedroom. Itās up to you. Youāre the Hot Wife. Some women like to tease their husbands for a while. Others just like to plop down in the doorway and start sucking within seconds. Itās up to you. Do what turns YOU on. YOU are in charge.
Some wives like to NOT look at or talk to their husband AT ALL, especially during the first few times he watches. But some husbands want their wives to look them in the eye while theyāre enjoying their new lover. It can be very exciting to tell your husband how GOOD it feels, how much BIGGER he is than your husband, and how much BETTER the sex feels. Cuckold husbands want their hotwives to have the BEST sexual experience of their lives, so let him know that is what you are getting. It can be extremely sexy either to ask if itās OK for your lover to cum inside of you, or for your husband to hear you TELL your lover to cum inside of you. And be sure to let your husband know each and every time you orgasm with your new lover. On the other hand, you can try to totally PRETEND HEāS NOT THERE. Some watching husbands love this. They like to think they are anonymously watching you have a secret sexual affair. But in any case, they want to see you lost with your lover, while they get a front row seat to the best live porn they will ever experience.
Hereās more advice for the first few times. ENJOY yourself! Donāt be shy or act inhibited. Donāt be afraid to moan and scream and cry out with passion. Pay attention to your lover exactly like you would if you were totally alone with him.
Many women feel inhibited and reserved with their husband watching, but this hinders what you want to accomplish. He wants to see you in the throes of wild passion, without a care in the world (least of all worrying about your husband). It may take you some time to do it, but putting him out of your mind should be your goal.
Hereās another tip - treat your lover like you treated your husband WHEN YOU WERE DATING. Ladies, you know what this means. Let your slut come out! Plenty of oral sex. Plenty of fucking. Multiple times if possible. Give him all he wants, until he canāt see straight and you canāt walk straight! When heās done, continue to pamper him EXACTLY as you would your husband, right up until the goodnight kiss at the door.
After he leaves, you think youāre done and now itās time for some sleep? Surprise girl! Itās not close to being over yet.
The next step is VERY important if you want to keep doing this. Itās important that your husband support your Hot Wife life, and that he be behind you all the way. So, even if youāre tired, you must immediately turn ALL your attention to your husband. Turn off the distant, sex-starved Hot Wife games you played earlier and become ALL HIS AGAIN!
Let him reclaim you as his own. Reassure him that youāre still his wife and that you love him even MORE for allowing you this night of pleasure! Depending on the couple, you may or may not have sex right away, or even for days after (this is up to you two). He may even have masturbated earlier, while watching you. I know some husbands who just watch without a hard-on but then end up fucking their wives like madmen for days after the date. Many husbands will want to perform CLEAN UP duty. This is where the husband licks the lovers cum from the wifeās pussy or off of her breasts. It can be EXTREMELY arousing for both involved! Itās a primal reaction serving to both reclaim the wife and show the husbandās subservience to her pleasure. But even though they desire this, most husbands will not do this on their own. Your husband may want you to ORDER HIM to perform clean up duty. This maintains the womanās sexual dominance in all areas of the Hot Wife lifestyle. But each relationship is different. Do whatās right for you two.
But as soon as the other man departs you must be right back in your husbandās arms and become his wife and lover again. Make sure he receives the love and pleasure and release he needs to REINFORCE his desire to watch you do it again.
Over the next few days, reassure him that you love him and care about him, that youāre his wife forever. Most importantly, remind him that you LOVE the fact that he lets enjoy this lifestyle. Tell him how much you enjoyed that night. Tease him while replaying the night over and over. Tell him you canāt wait to do it again. Tell him how self-assured and unique he is to be able to share you the way he does, and how you appreciate the freedom he gives you.
Chances are youāll be having great sex with your husband for weeks after he watches, and he will be more attentive and loving than he was before you started these games. Thatās just another benefit of the lifestyle. When that happens, youāll become hooked on the Hot Wife lifestyle, and so will he.
If you do this, the lifestyle will become an important part of your sexual relationship and it will grow into the most exciting sex life youāve ever enjoyed together. In time, his most intense sexual pleasure will come from you HAVING SEX WITH SOMEONE ELSE, as crazy as that might sound. And what could be better for you? You get to take charge of your sex life. You get to explore new sexual horizons most married women never experience. Your husband will love and adore you more than he ever has, and you BOTH stay sexually fulfilled.
There is so much to experience in this lifestyle that youāll never be bored. If you lay the right groundwork and do it correctly from the beginning, you can have a supportive, open-minded husband and the freedom to do whatever you want with his blessing. To me, there is no better marriage than one that is open and sexually permissive. Without my loving husband involved in my new life, I would probably have long ago been divorced and miserable by now. So get out there and get started.
