How did you feel comfortable meeting someone from online fandoms if you want to be anonymous?
This is a fair question!
I will say, the in-person friendship started as anonymous DMs for a long time. We found out we had some commonalities in our history, but generally didn't know who the other was. We didn't ask for identifying information or press the other to give it. We just got along.
We didn't meet in-person until I had a last minute ticket to an event, and I offered them to join me with the understanding that we could just as easily stay anonymous. Honestly, I can't remember what we had already shared at that point. First names and vague details, I think. Before we met in person, we used other social media to confirm that we were who we said we were (wouldn't meet in person without doing so!) and we met for the first time in a crowded, public place (also wouldn't meet in person without doing so!)
I can't say what made me feel comfortable. For a while, we joked that we were that spiderman meme with the pointing. You know the one. Basically, neither of us were gonna expose the other because we didn't want to be exposed ourselves. It was a joke. Mostly.
Sometimes you just kind of know who you can trust, then take the steps I mentioned above to keep everyone honest and to meet as comfortably as possible.














