I’m just tired

"Japan’s longest-running rape crisis center has been declared ineligible to receive public funding following statements made by the facility’s director which were deemed by government officials to be discriminatory against males who identify as transgender.

"You're not allowed to change your mind, you're obligated to have non-consensual s*x with me now, sorry" 🤡 says every R*PIST ever.

This is the kind of stuff trans women say.

If you are a woman you are one mistake or misspoken word or one boundary away from being labeled a TERF.

thought i’d share SOME of the points:

• maintenance sex

• patriarchal sex and lack of orgasm

• constantly shaving their body hair

• disproportionate domestic/emotional/mental labour while claiming the relationship is “50/50”

• subsidising his lifestyle (i.e. splitting the groceries when he’s the one who eats way more, being the only reason his apartment is clean and there’s not pubes on the bathroom floor)

• dealing with his porn addiction (where he’s watching teens and rape and misogynistic acts)

• dealing with his secret porn addiction while he claims he doesn’t watch it

• high chance of him being a pedo, misogynist, abuser, narcissistic, manipulative, etc.

• male ego and general lack of personality and accountability

• constantly having your nervous system dysregulated

• lack of meaningful care and conversation in general, especially in comparison to an average female friendship

• women having to use intrusive birth control methods because the male would rather risk her health than wrap it up

• him bonding with other men over misogyny and not having pro-social behaviours where he pro-actively stands up for women, minorities, etc.

• having to accept him checking out other women in real life, on social media, etc. and being micro-cheated on constantly, while being told it’s not cheating and that you’re insecure and crazy and a controlling bitch actually

• spending hours and hundreds on beauty maintenance while he… looks like that

• being rushed while getting ready

• never being allowed to be ugly in her own space

• total loss of bodily autonomy (i.e. being groped while doing the dishes)

• doing his laundry and cooking for him

• sharing a bed with a man (especially one who snores and is unhygienic)

• skid marks and piss and hair left in YOUR bathroom

• dealing with someone else’s trauma, from a sex that is averse to therapy and developing emotional intelligence

• a male shit-talking their past female exes (what did he do to her?)

• most males being okay with casually lying to their partner

• most males only being as loyal as their options and cheating on her if another woman ever expressed interest in him

• playing the role of a mother and a wife to a manchild

• no empathy or meaningful additional support while on your period

• having to tip toe around mantrums

• constant yeast infections and UTIs

• constantly being belittled, gaslighted, psychologically micro-abused on a daily basis

• male insecurity and jealousy, especially if you’re accomplished and attractive

• manage all the logistics and mental load (grocery lists, doctors appointments, “oh, we should go on a date” and subsequently planning the date)

• having to overlook their problematic opinions on most things

• general lack of empathy

• most men aren’t cut out to be romantic partners or platonic friends so how could they possibly be cut out for fatherhood

• having to take interest in his hobbies (sport, video games, anime) while he don’t give a flying fuck about yours

• dealing with male body hair and fat men

• man sweat, armpit hair, asshole hair, balding

• constant objectification

• constantly being reminded that no matter how progressive he is, he is fundamentally a man

• heterosexual relationships being rooted entirely in chance (i.e. of him not being a pedo, misogynistic, abuser)

what strikes me is the fact that you could have the most “feminist” man on the planet yet most of the above still apply lmao

imagine time traveling and speaking to a young lesbian in the 1990s. maybe she escaped her conservative hometown and moved to a big city with a thriving but underground lesbian community. she feels like things aren't perfect, but more and more people are becoming accepting. when she's in the city, she can generally be herself. her and her lesbian friends can always hang out at the lesbian bar if they want a respite from the outside world, and to be around people like themselves, who understand them.

imagine telling her that in 2026, we have the right to get married, and we're protected in law from discrimination. but all the lesbian bars have closed and shuttered their windows, or tacked on footnotes that say "all are welcome", and the bar goers are mainly non-lesbians. and it's considered offensive to outwardly define lesbianism as female homosexuality, or to talk about your same-sex attraction without including a disclaimer that of course you think males can be lesbians, it's just your own personal genital preference keeping you back from dating them. and history has been rewritten, to make it so that lesbian has always meant a mixed-sex group, attracted to a mixed-sex group, on the basis of internal identity, and lesbianism has always included both sexes. and males fought for your lesbian rights, so you kind of owe it to them to pretend that they're lesbians. and history has been rewritten to exclude and erase all of the gays and lesbians that played key roles in gay and lesbian history, to make it so everything was done for us, by transgender people. and don't mention anything about not being attracted to male genitalia, that's offensive to males. and don't say anything about lesbians being women, that's offensive to the women that don't want to be women, but want to be lesbians. and you see women married to men suddenly calling themselves lesbians and claiming to be in lesbian relationships because their husband put on a dress. oh and if you can't accept that males can be lesbians, you'll be outcast from your former community, and labeled a bigot. and if you mention your homosexuality, people will insist that you actually already have been attracted to a male who looked convincingly female, and question that if you're attracted to females, you could be attracted to a female who looks like a male? and really, you're so bigoted that you wouldn't even date a male who had gotten genital surgery and been on female hormones? and don't even mention that sexuality is based on sex. don't be shallow, come on don't you know it's what's on the inside that counts. you'd seriously discount someone just because of what's in their pants? and all of this comes from your alleged community. not conservatives or bigots, other people calling themselves lesbians say these things to you. actual other lesbians also say these things to you.