Homo Sapiens, Nerd Edition

My mother was one of the no-junk-food moms. But parenting has an expiry date, and do you know what I did as soon as I was no longer supervised?

I ate potato chips for lunch at work every day for all of my first job. And all of my first year of trade school. Not potato chips with lunch; potato chips and nothing else for lunch.

Banning kids from something that's not always good for them:

Has a time limit. Your kid will grow up. You won't be able to enforce the ban on an adult.

Gives them no practical experience on how to manage their relationship with that thing when they get unrestricted access to it.

Makes that thing incredibly attractive to them. Even if it kinda sucks.

Makes them sneaky about it, meaning they won't come to you for help if it becomes a problem for them.

My mother wanted healthy kids who didn't eat junk food. What she ended up with in the short term was little goblins who stole baking chocolate from the top cupboard and kept bags of chips they bought off friends hidden under their beds. What she got in the long term was adults with no idea how to regulate their own diets and a mountain of shame about eating anything that tastes good.

If I ask you for help then I demonstrate you can ask me for help.

That.

help then I demonstrate you

can ask me for help.

Video id: A cropped instagram video of two bobcats being introduced to one another. Clips show them cuddling, pouncing on each other, and rubbing against each other. End video id. (src)

two bobcats (Lynx rufus), Jasper & Sur, being introduced to one another at the Wildlife Learning Center in Sylmar, CA! Jasper is the skinnier, browner one who comes through the gate at the beginning with the very dark striping, and Sur is the wider, greyer one with the facial scarring.

Jasper is a non-releasable habituated bobcat who was likely kept as an illegal pet before being released into the wild and found rubbing up against people's legs. Sur was hit by a car and has permanent facial injuries that require him to have lifetime care.

Donate to WLC and the bobcat's care here!

typically, bobcats are quite solitary and only spend time together when mating or mothers raising young; however in some captive situations males can cohabitate! this center also actually cohabs a habituated canada lynx with a habituated bobcat.

she got angry and said "then they need to pick a different word". and so you need to pick a different word.

don't think this is exclusive to public spaces like the mall or the park or whatever either. she has a tablet and access to the internet, just the same as you do. she can read, write, and make her own decisions. she has a husband.

1. Does OP mention an obligation on victims to forgive abusers who have learned from their past actions?

2. Does OP mention any work on the part of victims to educate their abusers?