Ellen von Unwerth - Naomi Campbell (Vogue Italia 1990)

Ralph Lauren Spr/Sum 2011

Shinjuku, Japan; 1980s

Bella Hadid x About You SS23 collection BTS photos

Zinnia Kumar as a Runaway Bride. Vogue China October 2023 by Zhong Lin

It's not hard to attract a man, and even the ones women are calling "high value" these days (which really just means high-earning) are just as likely, if not more, to deceive you and discard you the moment they believe something better has come along - and until that moment they'll use you in every possible way until you don't even recognize yourself anymore. Most women would have been better off if a man had never looked their way at all, and I wish they'd stop acting as if attracting them is some sort of achievement.

Many of the women who call themselves asexual actually mean celibate (or wish they could be celibate), but that word carries baggage that they understandably don't want. If we want the word "asexual" to have meaning, it's important to focus on telling women that their pleasure DOES matter and it's okay to have standards that no one is meeting.