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My First Time: Explained in Images

Tinder: These are the Options

Sometimes a text really matters because we’re lonely – it’s when we feel emotionally adrift from what we regard as key people in our life. A text can, in that moment, help us to feel less alone, less whatever it is that we’ve been telling ourselves that day. The danger is of course that while sometimes a text at the right moment or with a heartfelt sentiment can bring a smile to our face because we know that someone is thinking of us, the danger is that if we are reliant on texts because they are less ‘risky’ than putting ourselves out there and we are in fact using texts as our form of ‘emotional connection’, it will exacerbate any loneliness we already feel by increasing that emotional distance. We’ll find ourselves increasingly reliant on texting and will use it as a measure of our worth. We may even find ourselves accepting (and inflating) crumbs from certain people and over-responding, or even slipping into a fantasy relationship because these texts are providing a distraction from other aspects of our life that we’re avoiding.

On Long Distance Flings...

OKCUPID MESSAGES: A REAL POET

It’s all just one big rush. When you get involved with an asshole, the both of you are put in a very vulnerable state, which is what makes this whole situation so zesty and invigorating; it’s like a spicy hummus-yum! Basically, assholes are scared of experiencing feelings while girls are scared of getting hurt. It’s a toxic sequence that both parties are ruthlessly participating in. Whether you recognize it or not, it’s happening around us all of the time. When a guy checks out a girl at the bar and thinks, “Mmm I could hit that”; that girl is looking right back at him thinking, “Oh I could TOTALLY fix that.” Doesn’t matter how you slice it, it’s most likely not going to end well but it’s definitely going to be one hell of a ride while it lasts.

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