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can't take my eyes off you - ok a classic can't go wrong 9/10

you should be dancing - you should be dancing at this bbq 5/10

you can't hurry love - supremes version based 8/10

waterloo - everyone loves abba but not bbq vibes 6/10

one love - yes 10/10

help! - you might assume i was a beatles fan when i was younger but i'm 99% sure i put this on here because of the big time rush movie 4/10

dreadlock holiday - i don't like reggae... i love it 8/10

walking on sunshine - summer classic but overplayed (by me. i listened to this too much) 6/10

only yesterday - proof of me being an old man carpenters fan since birth but not the best one i could've chosen for a bbq 6/10

surfin usa - inside outside usa inside outside usa we get it 7/10

dancing in the street - martha reeves version okayyy classic 9/10

mamma mia - listen i was (am) obsessed with mamma mia and i will subject you to it. 7/10

i will survive - 🌈 7/10

it must be love - is it a uk summer without madness 8/10

mr blue sky - don't know how it took so long to get to this song 10/10

manic monday - why??? 3/10

supertrouper - see above 8/10

night fever - i think i got confused between a bbq and a disco 5/10

moonlight serenade - ok set the mood is this a VE-Day party???? 4/10

those lazy hazy crazy days of summer - literally so many other nat king cole songs to choose from 5/10

i love to boogie - i would like to point out i didn't choose ALL of the songs. not my favourite t-rex song 6/10

oh pretty woman - but i probably did choose this one. i still love it sorry 9/10

love me for a reason - i should also point out the average age of the bbq was 70 6/10

impossible - see that's better 7/10

sweet caroline - it had to be on here somewhere 10/10

i'm a believer - sure 7/10

walking back to happiness - not one of mine but i guess summery vibes 6/10

is this the way to amarillo - thankfully not the peter kay version but it did untold damage to british culture 6/10

i'm gonna be 500 miles - DADADADA 9/10

there's always something there to remind me - i'm getting whiplash 5/10

california dreaming - again just wild vibe changes but this is a banger so 8/10

i dreamed a dream - AT A BBQ????? susan boyle version of course it is 3/10

do wahh diddy diddy- i'm crying this is a MESS but at least it fits better 6/10

locomotion - ok getting back on track 7/10

he ain't heavy he's my brother - goddammit 5/10

in the summertime - i guess 8/10

ain't that a kick in the head - PICK A LANE 5/10

here comes the sun - obviously 10/10

haven't met you yet - it was 2010(?) okay i was contractually obliged to include this song 6/10

summertime blues - is it over yet 6/10

she - ffs 3/10

let's twist again - alright!!!! 8/10

crocodile rock - ended on a win at least 9/10

oh happy day - i suppose it is a church bbq? also it's the sister act version with the arpeggios lmaoo but his high note still hits 7/10

i gotta feeling - this HAS to stop 😭 7/10

we are family - nice 7/10

dancing queen - you know i had to 8/10

i want to break free - yes 8/10

all rise - guarantee none of the people at this bbq knew this song 5/10

set fire to the rain - is this bbq vibes idk 6/10

valerie - it's just never a bad song 8/10

i don't feel like dancing - i still don't know the lyrics but it won't stop me from singing 7/10

don't stop til you get enough - are we dancing now?? is it dance time?? 8/10

marry you - i guess not. i was obsessed with this album though 6/10

lego house - come on 3/10

dance with me tonight - i cannot stress enough that it was 2010(?) 5/10

what makes you beautiful - am i coming out as a directioner maybe maybe not who can say 10/10

one day like this - oh chippy minton you made it 8/10

rolling in the deep - again good song but not really the vibes 6/10

summer of 69 - first song i could play on the guitar and so obviously i played it as often as possible and annoyed everyone around me 7/10

paradise - i'm surprised this is the only coldplay song on here 6/10

jai ho - once again i can't explain how much the 2009 children in need medley informed my entire music taste 5/10

can't take my eyes off you - ok a classic can't go wrong 9/10

you should be dancing - you should be dancing at this bbq 5/10

you can't hurry love - supremes version based 8/10

waterloo - everyone loves abba but not bbq vibes 6/10

one love - yes 10/10

help! - you might assume i was a beatles fan when i was younger but i'm 99% sure i put this on here because of the big time rush movie 4/10

dreadlock holiday - i don't like reggae... i love it 8/10

walking on sunshine - summer classic but overplayed (by me. i listened to this too much) 6/10

only yesterday - proof of me being an old man carpenters fan since birth but not the best one i could've chosen for a bbq 6/10

surfin usa - inside outside usa inside outside usa we get it 7/10

dancing in the street - martha reeves version okayyy classic 9/10

mamma mia - listen i was (am) obsessed with mamma mia and i will subject you to it. 7/10

i will survive - 🌈 7/10

it must be love - is it a uk summer without madness 8/10

mr blue sky - don't know how it took so long to get to this song 10/10

manic monday - why??? 3/10

supertrouper - see above 8/10

night fever - i think i got confused between a bbq and a disco 5/10

moonlight serenade - ok set the mood is this a VE-Day party???? 4/10

those lazy hazy crazy days of summer - literally so many other nat king cole songs to choose from 5/10

i love to boogie - i would like to point out i didn't choose ALL of the songs. not my favourite t-rex song 6/10

oh pretty woman - but i probably did choose this one. i still love it sorry 9/10

love me for a reason - i should also point out the average age of the bbq was 70 6/10

impossible - see that's better 7/10

sweet caroline - it had to be on here somewhere 10/10

i'm a believer - sure 7/10

walking back to happiness - not one of mine but i guess summery vibes 6/10

is this the way to amarillo - thankfully not the peter kay version but it did untold damage to british culture 6/10

i'm gonna be 500 miles - DADADADA 9/10

there's always something there to remind me - i'm getting whiplash 5/10

california dreaming - again just wild vibe changes but this is a banger so 8/10

i dreamed a dream - AT A BBQ????? susan boyle version of course it is 3/10

do wahh diddy diddy- i'm crying this is a MESS but at least it fits better 6/10

locomotion - ok getting back on track 7/10

he ain't heavy he's my brother - goddammit 5/10

in the summertime - i guess 8/10

ain't that a kick in the head - PICK A LANE 5/10

here comes the sun - obviously 10/10

haven't met you yet - it was 2010(?) okay i was contractually obliged to include this song 6/10

summertime blues - is it over yet 6/10

she - ffs 3/10

let's twist again - alright!!!! 8/10

crocodile rock - ended on a win at least 9/10

can't take my eyes off you - ok a classic can't go wrong 9/10

you should be dancing - you should be dancing at this bbq 5/10

you can't hurry love - supremes version based 8/10

waterloo - everyone loves abba but not bbq vibes 6/10

one love - yes 10/10

help! - you might assume i was a beatles fan when i was younger but i'm 99% sure i put this on here because of the big time rush movie 4/10

dreadlock holiday - i don't like reggae... i love it 8/10

walking on sunshine - summer classic but overplayed (by me. i listened to this too much) 6/10

only yesterday - proof of me being an old man carpenters fan since birth but not the best one i could've chosen for a bbq 6/10

surfin usa - inside outside usa inside outside usa we get it 7/10

dancing in the street - martha reeves version okayyy classic 9/10

mamma mia - listen i was (am) obsessed with mamma mia and i will subject you to it. 7/10

i will survive - 🌈 7/10

it must be love - is it a uk summer without madness 8/10

mr blue sky - don't know how it took so long to get to this song 10/10

manic monday - why??? 3/10

supertrouper - see above 8/10

night fever - i think i got confused between a bbq and a disco 5/10

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And not one person thought to bring it up.

When I was talking about how horrifying puberty felt. When I was cutting myself. When I was in inpatient care. When I attempted suicide. When I talked for YEARS in therapy about how dissociated and trapped I felt in my body. When I felt like I never truly fixed something that was deeply wrong about me that started at puberty.

Not one person said it was a possibility. No one thought "hey, maybe this kid should go to someone trained to identify dysphoria". No one mentioned that trans people weren't some weird other group of people. It didn't have to be pressure. It didn't have to be "forcing" me. Just mentioning that trans people exist and it could be me. That it was possible and it was easy. No pushing, just laying the option out there.

HRT is treated like this last ditch option. This horrific, mutilating thing that I GUESS we can give to you if you have NO OTHER options. Because did you know it's permanent? Did you know you'll be on it for the rest of your life? Did you know the health risks? Did you know it'll make you infertile? Did you know that it's deviant? Did you know that it's an alternative lifestyle for other people?

No one said it was okay to WANT it to be permanent. Or noted that most people are reliant on the medical system in one way or the other anyways (and it's not even necessary for HRT). Or that the health risks are the normal parts of having that hormone, even in cis people of your gender. Or said it was okay to not want kids, or mention that you can just freeze gametes. Or acknowledged that the "deviant" people are just people, living their lives, that have been violently pushed out of "normal" society.

I grew up in an area that Republicans mock for being a kind of "woke central". And even then it's just. Not treated as an easy option. It was never on the table if you don't specifically already know you're going through gender stuff, and no one will help you get to that point. At which point, it's still treated like the last ditch option. Did you know you can be a feminine man? Did you know you can slap a "she/her" in your twitter bio and be done with it? Did you know that you're oh-so-valid without it? Did you know that you shouldn't take HRT? Maybe don't take HRT? Don't take HRT? Don't take HRT? Don't ta-

When you've been in it a while, HRT is the easiest, most casual thing in the world. Just pop a shot on a Saturday as part of your "everything shower" routine and you're done.

HUGE news in Sweden in the world of decolonialising museums!!

Sweden’s oldest museum and one of its largest have been granted 400 000kr (approx. €37k) to during 2026 begin the process of repatriating their Saami artefacts to Sàpmi

Chris Lowe is pointing at the cover and saying "This is where we invented the gay flag."