Bye bye, dears (for now!)
I know there have been a lot of rumours and some posts about me leaving, so here I am to set the record straight and say a quick âau revoirâ. This post is long, and I donât expect everyone to read the whole thingâif you just want information on how to keep in touch, or about access to my removed fics, scroll to the bottom. âŹď¸
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Why are you leaving?
Firstly, of course Iâm not leaving Freddie. This is just an ongoing hiatus from the social side of fandom, because while I have some incredible friends here, who have done all they can to support me and have made this experience wonderful in lots of waysâitâs also true that the social space has become more and more toxic for me.
I get a wild amount of hate. Despite never having my ask box enabled on here, people create new accounts just to message me and tell me all the problems in this fandom are my fault, that Iâm faking being sick, that I should kill myself, that Iâm fat, etc. I also very regularly get hateful comments on AO3.
Obviously I realise that Iâm not the only one who receives these cruel attacks, but itâs become increasingly hard to handle themâespecially as some people (ârealâ accounts, not faceless anons) do continue to blame me for wider problems in the fandom. It makes me feel consistently sad, anxious, and paranoid, so that I canât focus on anything Queen-related that I enjoy.
More pressingly, itâs affected my mental health, which isâimperfect at the best of times. As Iâve occasionally alluded to in older posts on this blog, I have a history of anorexia, OCD, PTSD, and some other overlapping issues. Most people who know me in the fandom are also aware that Iâm âclinically extremely vulnerableâ to Covid-19, significantly immunocompromised, and have been isolating at home for eleven months.
The combination of all of these things + the constant toxic messages has really been triggering me, and leading to an uptick in disordered behaviours, which my body cannot sustain. Every new instance of hate from an anonâevery time thereâs another indication of groups in the fandom wanting to ostracise me furtherâmy reaction is deeply self-punitive and unhealthy. Ultimately I need to be out of this environment for, at least, a protracted period. My therapist, my partner and my close friends in the fandom support this decision.
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So, what went wrong?
In 2019, I expected to be an absolutely tiny blog in the Queen Tumblr landscape. The fandom was already well-established, and I have never worked to âbuild a followingâ on hereâI think Iâve linked my own fic a maximum of three or four times!âin fact, more or less the opposite. As I mentioned above: ya girl is nutty as a fruitcake. As a result, I often avoid extremely niche things in daily life which cause severe anxiety for me, Relevant examples here: I never look at my timeline. I never intentionally look at my follower number. Yup, itâs strange, I fully admit it, but itâs best for me to go with these thingsâusually. In Queen fandom, however, this avoidance both of analytic stats and of most direct engagement led to some problems... My followers grew without me realising, and way more people were reading my blog than I was aware of. I was still in aââWow, this fandom is very frustrating, and rife with ableism, racism, etc., so how do we fix this???ââmindset, and I wanted to share my opinions, sure! but I also thought I was sharing them with 15-20 like-minded people.
Now, intent is not impact, and I recognise that I was brusque, didnât phrase things particularly sensitively, and absolutely did hurt some people by criticising the fandom so freely. I still regret thisâand I regret just as much the fact that some assholes have used my criticising the fandom on my own blog as implicit justification for attacking authors. I have said on here many times that I donât condone that behaviourâbut I also think thereâs some truth in the presumption that these anonymous malcontents felt my critiques somehow âpermittedâ them to engage in abuse. For the first few months, though, I genuinely had no idea there was a link at allâand so I was initially slow to condemn this abusive behaviour in public, because I was taking it for granted all authors agreed it was shitty. It took someone directly telling me (shoutout to @a-froger-epic) that people had identified a connection between my posts and the anons, before everything fell into place.
I would like to offer my apologies to the fandom at large for not being more quick on the uptake about this, because I feel that had I realised sooner that these people were taking âinspirationâ in some way from me, it might have been easier to put a stop to it. It does seem that there is still a lot of confusion about whether I support them and which of their views I agree with. Letâs be 100% clear on this: I do not support the anonymous commenters on AO3. At times there is some, limited overlap between parts of their views and parts of mine, but even that is less than you may thinkâI often see anonymous comments from so-called âFreddie fansâ that I substantially disagree with.
Perhaps even more importantly: I do not support anyone who sends anonymous hate on Tumblr.
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Whatâs all this about âoverlapâ with the anons?
Letâs do a mini-summary of the myths vs. the truth. There are views I hold which are genuinely unpopular in the fandomâbut which I own up to completely, and have never tried to hide in any way. Iâve never needed to use anonymous to share my opinions because Iâm completely open about them! What people who donât know me tend to have âheardâ about me, though, is usually a drastic distortion of my real opinions.
What people think I think:
- Freddie should never top.
- Itâs okay to send anon hate if someone writes Freddie âwrongâ.
- Itâs more important to correct âwrongâ portrayals than to respect other writers.
- Itâs inherently wrong to be more interested in band pairings than canon pairings.
- Freddie should be overtly written as a r*pe survivor/victim (and not doing this is wrong).
- Freddie should be overtly written as having an eating disorder (and not doing this is wrong).
- Kink fics are wrong.
What I actually think:
- I believe Freddie did have a strongly defined sexual identity with marked preferences, but I donât think Jim Hutton lied when he said that Freddie topped. I believe Freddie did top, but this isnât the time or place to get into my thoughts on why/when/how much. I do believe that my analysis of the sources relevant to this subject is as historically accurate as one can reasonably be in matters of sex (where historical accuracy will always be particularly limited and imperfect)âbut I donât think itâs morally wrong to write Freddie as topping more than he probably did.
- I donât believe thereâs only one ârightâ version of Freddie (all others being âwrongâ). I do believe it is possible to be more right or less rightâbut Iâm also conscious of the fact that this scale of value is not one by which everyone measures fanfiction. As a result, then, I donât think that any perceptions surrounding ârightâ or âwrongâ justify sending anonymous, non-constructive criticism, or outright hate.
- I do believe constructive criticism is a good thing. I welcome and appreciate it myself; I have received it on my fics in Queen fandom, and it has made them better. I have been in writing workshops which included very forceful criticisms, and the value of such feedback has been intimately and immediately part of my life as a writer for years. However: in this case, I have accepted that my opinion differs from the general community preference, and so I no longer offer any constructive criticism (outside private beta-reading). I havenât changed my view, but Iâve changed my practice to align with community norms.
- I do not think any single, individual writer has a personal responsibility to write about Freddie Mercury in any given way. That ranges from including the more distressing topics to which Iâve devoted attention (such as trauma)âto concentrating on âcanonâ pairings like Jimercuryâto, even, focusing on Freddie at all.
âNow, that doesnât sound like you, @freddieofhearts,â you might be thinking. And I know it doesnât; I think something Iâve done a poor job of articulating is the difference between how I view each individual fanânamely, as free to shape their creative experience at will, even in ways that I might find distressing or offensive; even in ways that you might find distressing or offensiveâand the way I view the Collective. I think people have interpreted some of my critiques of âQueen Fandomâ as meaning something like: âYou-in-particular, a specific Queen fan, are doing it wrong and should change everything about how you do it; also you donât really care about Freddie.â
Andâthatâs not it. What any given fan, as an individual, does, isnât a problem. And that can be true alongsideâconcurrently withâa multivalent critique of how the fandom is lacking in representation of Freddieâs life, with all that that (wonderful, deservedly celebrated, but also profoundly traumatic) life entailed. I still hold that view; I still have myriad problems with âthe fandomâ (structurally, collectively, historically and presentlyâfrom the 1990s to the 2020s). Some of what I want to work on (away from the social life of fandom) is expressing those critiques with greater nuance, in ways that canât be misinterpreted as shading any particular fanfiction author or subgenre of story.
In brief: I havenât changed my mind, but I think Tumblr is an untenable environment in which to discuss the things I want to analyse, especially as there is an ever-present danger of hurting someone.
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Can we keep in touch? Where is the fic?
I will drop by this account periodically to check out posts that friends have sent me, so you can always sent me a private message to ask for my contact details on the other app that Iâm using now for fandom friends. Multiple Freddie conversations and projects are going on over there, off-Tumblr, with a much âgentlerâ environment and no bad actorsâI personally love it!
All my fic has been downloaded and saved. I donât want to deal with constant harassment on AO3, but Iâm happy to share a copy with anyone who missed it and wants to read/re-read something. I also saved everyoneâs lovely comments and thoughtful con-crit, so none of that has been lost or erased.
Thank you to everyone who welcomed me to the fandom, made me think, taught me, shared with me, sent me into fits of the giggles, collaborated with me creatively, and otherwise made this one hell of a ride! Love you all. â¤ď¸















