uhmmmm what to post huh ;;;;)
anyway i realized i’m aromantic, that’s also the reason to why i never really understood what having feelings for someone feels like, not after a certain incident. I mean I don’t understand how people actually feel something for another person longterm.
But I’m probably not asexual, cuz I DO understand why people feel that, and I understand how that works and even though I didn’t really feel it for anyone much, not like I wanna touch people anyway… the thought of doing it with someone else is grossing me out. But I still enjoy seeing erotic media nonetheless. Even if I don’t really like the thought of sex with another person, I still like sexual media.
[ALT: a gif displaying annoyed masacrik sitting on a couch]
Congrats on figuring out you're aromantic [pt: aromantic]!
And there's probably some micro label for that, but I don't know if you want advice for that so I don't want to intrude,, either way, I think you should be whoever you want! I assume the annoyed GIF is because of things like,, hatred against alloaro people? Or the expectation that if you're aromantic you're also asexual,, well,,, I don't think you need to be >_< >_< >_<
ya u can give me advice if you want :D
Um >_< this took a long time. I actually realised, I'm not so adept at microterms anymore.
Anyways, alloaro / allosexual aromantic did come to mind first. Since you like media but not physical engagement, maybe aegosexual (+ aromantic)? I've seen those things mentioned together a lot. Maybe also orchidsexual (+ aromantic).
Also, I guess... I'm not sure how to define attraction, or if a single definition even makes sense, personally, I see it as a desire for something (regardless of if you act on it or not). So I'm not sure, if by understand, you mean that as in a understanding from a personal perspective, like you've experienced the same, or if it's merely (outside) logic. I can see some people making the distinction between those, that one can be attracted to something without understanding it (in other people), or not attracted to something while understanding it (in other people again). But that's not to say the logic definition is wrong, I think it's interesting and easy way of understanding attraction, I myself find it a bit hard to grasp more... nebulous emotional definitions, while something like logical understanding, I get. It's a useful potential indicator, anyways.
Also also,, I can see, how from a normal society perspective, it doesn't make sense to enjoy watching sex, without actually wanting sex, but I think it's perfectly sensible to exist separately. Thoughts aren't the same as actions, and especially when the thoughts differ from actions, in the sense it doesn't involve you (like,, even fictionally).
Since you like watching, I wonder if there is a voyeur sexuality? I suppose, it would probably be considered a paraphilia, but I don't see why a -sexual version can't exist. (Also unfortunate that is has an unconsensual connotation, but something something, fuck society, reclaim terms???) Hm, maybe you could add ficto- to it? If it's only in media... but then again,, ficto- is short for fiction,, maybe media- could be it's own label?
I feel like, terms like this must already exist, and I'm just not knowledgeable enough.
Well,,, sorry,,, I didn't end up having any advice. I hope it goes well for you though, figure yourself out, and not be dragged down by society, etc. etc... >_< >_< >_< >_< >_< >_< >_< >_< >_< >_<
















