Finally Speaking

When someone feels the need to blame you for everything, you have to remember it has nothing to do with you and everything with them. Their low self esteem and lack of confidence makes them miserable inside. Rather than them taking responsibility for their actions and changing, they want to blame shift in hopes to bring the other person down to their level. They want to make others miserable because it almost gives them a boost of confidence like “see I’m better than you”. In reality that is far from the truth. It’s a manipulation tactic abusers use to try and destroy someone so they have control over them. The worst form of this is when it is from a spouse or significant other. They are supposed to love you, build you up, be by your side, and help you through the ups and downs in life. Rather than them doing that they try to make you feel weak and small. They prey on your vulnerabilities and use it to have a hold on you. It is a weapon for them to use. When you find yourself in a situation like this you need to get out because every ounce of your self esteem will be taken from you. They will throw your past in your face to deflect from them being held accountable in that moment. You don’t deserve it! You are worthy of love!