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but there's another closet. there's the closet where on paper you're out and you're proud and maybe this is even a huge part of your identity--but you fear acting the way you'd like so much that you refuse it. this type of closet is used by the trans person who wants hrt or to wear clothing that would fit their gender or another act of transition, but fears it so much that they never allow themselves to do so. this closet is used by the out LGB person who fears so much being called a fag or a dyke that they refuse to dress how they want or engage in any intimacy--including friendship--with other gays.

this second kind of closet is common now. while straight society has the pretense of acceptance for LGBTQ people, it doesn't have acceptance for living LGBTQ lives. therefore, someone can be out, but never act like it.

stay in this closet as long as you like. there's a point to being closeted. but this closet is not for you. the point I'm making here is not that some people aren't "gay enough."

the point is that people are denying what they want for themselves. and they do this out of fear of cisgender, straight society.

it's not about what you "should" be doing.

it's about what you want but are too afraid for.