The Feather Crown

 Me: *is trying to cook*

My alters: THUNDER BOLTS AND LIGHTNING VERY VERY FRIGHTENING GALILEO GALILEO GALILEO GALILEO GALILEO FIGARO MAGNIFICOOoOOoOoO im just a poor boy nobody loves me HES JUST A POOR BOY FROM A POOR FAMILY

I’ve seen a lot of posts saying what triggers do and do not do, and many times, I’ve seen it written that triggers do not make you angry, that they’re more likely to cause strong anxiety, panic, numbness, etc.

But coming from someone whose triggers invoke a gut-wrenching fury: Triggers CAN make you angry. They can remind you of the unfairness, trauma, and hurt of the past, and a normal human reaction to things like that is anger.

It’s not wrong for triggers to make you angry, and you’re not in the wrong for feeling it. Anger is an emotion that rarely gets addressed in relation to trauma, and I think that needs to change.

Your anger in response to triggers is valid.

Alright witches, we just got a new alter who showed up in our system! Brynn is now here and does witchcraft too, so she’ll contribute to the blog as well. Brynn is actually my best friend from childhood, so I know her pretty well. 

HOW IS THAT SO?? you ask? 

See, I, Robin, have memories that the body doesn’t have, meaning that… I remember things from inside rather than outside. So my life before an alter, essentially. Brynn is my friend from San Francisco with me and we’re both pretty close! 

Brynn doesn’t have her deck outside so won’t be doing readings yet. But, we’ll both probably do them or something. I’ll let her do her own introduction and tell you what she’s into. But she’s pretty cool!

If you want, I can talk about memories more later. Or just ask me questions about it! 

Ask box is always open!! 

Light unto you all! 

Our Inner World:

So many DID/OSDD systems have an “inner world” where you go when you don’t front. Not all systems have one since every system is different. Ours is not that elaborate, but the main part of the “Headspace” is a grassy field with forests on either side. We do have a house, which is pretty nice, where we sit around. 

There are other realms inside as well, where magic works a little differently. Only the Headspace really works well with the energy. 

That being said not all of the system members (alters) practice magic, are witches, etc. So, I respect people and their own beliefs as I would outside. 

Energy Magic:

Zelda practices quite a bit of Energy Magic inside. How does it work? Well see, our inner world seems to have quite a bit of energy around us that we can draw from. Since it’s inside, visualization is much easier inside since it’s not… outside. It’s not a physical world for us, so it’s much easier to imagine energy around us. 

So, barriers and wards you’re able to see them inside. Protection spells are more visual, just as you would see them on TV (not really though haha). 

As a witch who is connected with the energy around us, we feel the energy inside quite well. That being said, it might not work the same way for other systems, it really depends. 

Tarot: 

It honestly works the same as it would outside. I get a little dramatic about drawing cards and sometimes the energy just moves the card and I’m like “Alright, I’ll do it then.” That being said, I can’t really say much about it since I’m just getting back into it. 

Back in San Francisco, it would be just like it would be outside. The cards don’t move, you just go based on which one speaks to you, honestly. 

Charms: 

Zelda really likes using charms, I’ll have her talk more about it. She’s been a bit stressed so she’s been mostly putting her energy into Energy Magic and keeping everyone safe inside. 

It seems she made one charm to keep the House protected. I don’t know though… 

If anyone has any questions about the system or magic in general, feel free to drop me an ask! I’m happy to answer questions!

I cannot believe we’re still tearing Cinderella down! 2018 only has a few months left and we’re still doing this, we’re still painting her as the weakest Disney princess and we’re still painting her weakness as a bad thing?

Why?

Why are people so caught up on bashing this princess?

“The movie is so simplistic—”

In what way is it possibly simplistic?!

“She didn’t work hard—”

YES, SHE DID!

“Well, okay, but the fairy godmother still had to come in—”

Yep, I remember the movie too, and the countless stories on which it’s based.

“So the fairy godmother was the one who caused the happily ever after.”

She sure was, now, what’s your point?

No, really, what’s your point? Is the point that Cinderella is somehow weak because she wasn’t 100% in control of her own life? Seems like a pretty disgusting opinion to have when the whole movie is about an abuse victim finding a way out of her horrible situation. So Cinderella wasn’t the one who got herself out. So what? Instead of looking the movie at its bare surface, maybe try analyzing it with a bit more thought and tact. You might see something a little different. A magical transformation, if you will.

Because Cinderella did work hard.

And guess what we learned from that?

You can work

and work

and work

And there will still be people out there who will try to tear you apart:

Literally.

And that sucks. It’s a horrible lesson to learn but it is something we will all face in our lifetimes. There will always be people who will try to tear us down, there will always be people who will try to rip us apart, until we’re in a low place:

Until it seems like there’s no hope…

Until it seems like you’re too weak to get out on your own…

And maybe you are.

Maybe you are too weak to get out on your own. Maybe you’re not the strongest woman in the world. Maybe you’re not capable of screaming at the top of your lungs or brandishing a weapon or throwing a punch. Maybe you’re not able to get out of something on your own. Maybe you hit a low point and maybe you have no way out of it. Not alone. But that’s just it.

You’re not alone.

Even at your lowest point, someone will come help you.

You don’t have to do it all alone.

It’s okay to have a little help when you have nowhere else to turn.

Cinderella is the story about an abuse victim who is unable to get out of her toxic situation by herself and just when she begins to lose all hope, is able to get help from an unlikely source. It’s the story about a girl who needs help getting to her happily ever after and that’s okay. 

Give us advocates:

They deserve their happily ever afters!

Give us warriors:

They deserve their happily ever afters!

Give us fighters:

They deserve their happily ever afters!

Give us girls who are not advocates, girls who are not warriors, girls who are not fighters, girls who still deserves their happily ever afters: