FADEDMAGIC

hey fellas is it gay to be gay?

hey fellas is it gay to be gay?

hey fellas is it gay to be gay?

hey fellas is it gay to be gay?

hey fellas is it gay to be gay?

hey fellas is it gay to be gay?

1. Your feelings

2. Wanting something good for your life

3. Having your own point of view

4. Making your own choices and decisions

5. Walking away from distressing relationships

6. Protecting your heart

7. Setting and enforcing boundaries

8. Making mistakes

9. Taking time for yourself

1. My self worth does not depend on what others think and say about me.

2. My self worth does not depend on how I look or what I weigh.

3. My self worth does not depend on my marks or performance.

4. My self worth does not depend on my number of followers.

5. I am enough just as I am.

6. I can succeed despite a bad day.

Need to talk/vent?

blahtherapy - anonymously vent (or listen, if you want)

7 cups of tea - free, anonymous chatting with trained listeners, online therapists & counselors

Player2 - an online computerized chat to help deal with interpersonal conflict, just a place to talk and sort out your feelings.

disintegratedsanity - Mental Health Support blog

Or… - you could talk to me! if you don’t want to use any of the resources above but still want to vent to someone, i’m here. I am by no means a professional or trained counselor, but i’m always here for you guys if you need it.

Need to calm down/are overwhelmed?

Soothing things:

the thoughts room - one of my personal favorites, beautiful soothing graphics, relaxing music, you type out your thoughts and watch them drift into the stars. 

Calming Manatee - literally just pictures of supportive manatees.

Stress Ball V1.1 - online stress ball you can throw around 

Headspace - simple guided meditation sessions of 10 minutes

Stress Analyst - interactive page that helps you try and figure out why you’re stressed, and assures you that it’s okay if you don’t know why

Things to make you smile:

The Nicest Place On The Internet - RECEIVE LOVE FROM RANDOM STRANGERS. okay that sounded wrong but trust me it’s lovely and incredibly hard not to smile at.

GoodNewsNetwork - this is literally just all the good news happening in the world, heartwarming and just …positivity is cool guys.

LIVESTREAM PUPPY CAM

Cute Little Animal Gifs - exactly what it sounds like

Pusheen The Cat - comics of a really freaking cute cat

Need to keep your mind off something? (or just really hate being bored)

Free-Rice - you answer simple questions and learn new things, and every right answer donates 10 grains of rice to end world hunger!

Looking At Something - a website with awesome graphics that lets you control the weather by simply moving the mouse

Weave Silk - drag around your mouse and leave a lovely and calming display in it’s wake, in soothing colors of your choice

Musical Squares - really simple calming music-making game

Games:

Flow - a gorgeously designed really simple game that’s insanely calming

Neon Flames - you just choose a color, drag your mouse around, click and hold, and beautiful nebulae start forming on your screen

Auralux - the most relaxing strategy game in the world

A Masterlist of 30 websites that make sure you’re never bored

Noise:

Simply Noise - just some white noise

Soundrown - audio mixer that let’s you combine and listen to your choice of relaxing ambient noises

NatureSoundsForMe - for if you prefer nature noises!

Harry Potter Noises - for if you want ambient noises and are also a gigantic nerd like me

Madeon’s Adventure Machine - you don’t need to have a launchpad or be professional in any sense to have fun with this, you just press buttons and combine and mix music samples, it’s fun and distracting!

Resources:

Erasing the Distance - a list of mental health resources and locations for specific mental illnesses

Here To Help - for if you want to learn more about various mental illnesses, eg. anxiety problems, schizophrenia, psychosis, eating disorders

Mental Health Helpline - dozens of phone numbers for specific problems (Canadian version, the helplines for other countries are further down!)

National Institute of Mental Health - assorted phone numbers that connect you to the nearest crisis center, where a trained crisis worker is waiting. Also has information for Health Care Providers and Treatment, about former service members, various publications about mental illnesses, and a live online chat.

Mental Health Association - has tons of information on mental illness, including counselling and support, relapse prevention, how to help a loved one suffering, etc.

Nothing working? (please, please call one of these if you need it darling)

Suicide Hotlines:

KidsHelpPhone.ca - where you can talk to trained counselors

A post listing the specific suicide prevention numbers for every country

IMAlive - another support/crisis network, but this one is text based, just in case you are uncomfortable with phone calls but still need to talk!

Crisis Center - 1 (800) 668-6868

I know that a lot of people are terrified of calling because of anxiety or just generally don’t know how the person on the other line is going to react, which is why i’m going to add in that i have personally called one of those numbers, the Crisis Center, when i needed to, and the woman was so nice, and helpful and calming and please lovelies i beg you, if you feel like you are going to do something, call one of these numbers

some of the things that are now lost forever: the largest collection of egyptian artefacts in latin america; the skeleton of the largest flying reptile ever found in Brazil; the oldest human fossil ever found in the country, named “Luzia” (over 11.000 y.o) and other 20 million extremely important relics and researches just burned to the ground. never to be seen again.

thanks to our government, of course, who didn’t want to pay the museum the necessary funds to make the essencial maintenances since 2014 (which by the way, costed less than a supreme federal court judge’s sallary: R$520 in a year).

another sad instance where the state’s indifference towards culture and history becomes painfully obvious. this is a massive blow to our cultural legacy.

this is what it looks like now:

here is a thread of wonderful pictures taken before the fire started, so you can see details of the museum that now is lost forever.

here is some of the international news saying on this, because most articles and videos are all in portuguese, u can check some of the news in english: (here *new york times*) (here *bbc news*) (here *le monde* for french speaking readers) (here *shorouk news* for people who speak arabian) (here *azteca news* for spanish) (here *corriere della sera* for italian).

it was a natural science and historic museum, there were all sorts of important researches and relics. all burned. this was our culture. our history. the first human fossil found in brazil (mentioned above, Luzia) was so important for science, since it proved that way before indigenous tribes existed in Brazil, there were black people.

This is not a “representative” government.

❤ More Self-Care Articles Here ❤ Share This With Your Friends Or Reblog This So You Can Read It Later

5 Ways to Achieve Your Dreams

5 Ways to Deal with an Inferiority Complex

5 Habits of Highly Successful People

5 Effective Ways You Can Self-Actualize

7 Signs You May Be Self-Actualized

7 Habits to Nurture a Positive Mindset

5 Things to Give Up to Live the Life You Want

7 Ways You Can Start Over

8 Ways to Counteract Negative Self-Talk

Make Yourself Happy

8 Ways to Take Care of Your Mental Health

7 Signs You May Be a People Pleaser

7 Ways to Stop Being a People Pleaser

10 Ways to Spot a Toxic Person in Your Life

10 Ways to Deal with Toxic People

7 Habits of Highly Successful Introverts

5 Ways Mindfulness Can Improve Your Life

5 Ways to Stop Apologizing for Everything that You Do

10 Steps for Overcoming the Need for Approval

10 Ways to Build Your Emotional Resilience

Love Yourself: Recognizing When It’s Time to Give Up

6 Ways to Deal with Inferiority Complex

5 Helpful Self Care Tips for Empaths

Healing from Repressed Anger

How Channeling Your Pain Leads to Happiness

11 Tips To Cope With Negative Thoughts

If you like to read topics about Self-Love, visit our website psych2go.net

1. Is this a person who always puts you down? A friend is someone who accepts you as you are – and allows you to be different, and to think for yourself, and to make your own decisions – without an explanation. However, if a person is demeaning or always puts you down, criticises your opinions, or the way you dress or look, then that’s someone to avoid as they’re a toxic friend.

2. Do they gossip about you? A friend is someone you can totally trust. You can share your deepest secrets, and say what’s on your mind – and they won’t tell a person or betray your trust. However, if you always have to watch what you say around a friend, as they’re likely to gossip or let a secret slip, then it’s likely that this person is a toxic friend.

3. Do they constantly mock and make fun of you? A bit of gentle ribbing shows affection between friends. But if they’re always making fun of you, or highlighting your faults, or attacking you in public, then they’re not a genuine friend.

4. How do you feel after being with your friend? Think about your answers to the following:

- Do you feel defensive when you spend time with them?

Do you feel hurt or upset after spending time with them?

- Do you feel as if you always have to justify yourself instead of being “natural” around your friend?

- Do you enjoy their company or do you feel ambivalent?

- Do they undermine your confidence and self-esteem?

- Do you feel attacked and used after spending time with them?

- Does the friendship feel unbalanced and require a lot of work?

- Is it more a competition than a genuine friendship?

What I wish I’d been told is that good people will think it's awesome that you enforce your boundaries, that there are people who will respect the hell out of you for it, that there are people who will admire you not despite you telling them no, but because of it. That most people don’t want to make you do something you don’t enjoy,and so they’ll actively be happier and more relaxed around you if they know they can trust you to decline to do things you don’t enjoy and to ask them to stop things that bother you.

It helped me a lot, personally, to stop thinking of ‘enforcing my boundaries’ as something I did for me and more as something I did to empower the people I was close with, to build a situation where they and I felt sure everything that was going on was something we all wanted.