bigender bi-disaster (a sideblog treated like a main blog) (the main blog: mytimeinthesun) experimenting with nem/nems pronouns atm but they/she will also do
not long after folding ideas's mr. beast video came out, youtube recced me a stream interview dan did with somebody (i won't name him here but it's still up) about the video, and that somebody had also been taken on a tour of the beast studios and was doing the interview to push back on dan's video, bc the wining and dining 1000% worked on that guy.
and it's like. the guy is just your average middle aged white man. seems mild mannered and well meaning.
but it's EMBARRASSING watching him ineffectually try to argue that "jimmy's not that bad though!" when dan has receipts on receipts regarding the company's misconduct and the best this guy has is "well children's media can be bad though" and "jimmy's not trying to make art" and "he was nice to me and my family."
like enough people have (pretty rightly) dunked on the guy in the comments that i'm not putting this there but it is textbook white male privilege and ignorance. dan brings up the sexual harassment allegations and the guy entirely blows past that in his rebuttal and does not touch on it at all, and like...if he'd known about the allegations before, that omission feels suspiciously deliberate. if he didn't know about them before, the fact that he felt no need to immediately go "hold on, there are WHAT allegations now?!" and learn more is just...like....fuck dude, you've really never had to worry about that before, huh? willing to look past that for your bro jimmy who collabed with you on a video bc you have similar names?
like i can't help but wonder if he would be this invested in defending him if mr. beast was a black woman. if he (the guy interviewing dan, not mr. beast) is THIS naive about this stuff then i just can't imagine that he's done a lot of unpacking of internalized racism/misogyny.
and it's so disheartening, bc in the end this guy isn't even that bad. like, i'm sure he's fine as a dude and he does listen to dan even with his urge to pushback. and he's kept the stream up and made some comments to people saying that he's received said pushback and is taking it into consideration.
so i hope that means he's taking a good hard look at himself, which is SO much more than most do, but it's such a low bar. like that's the bare minimum and he's not even necessarily doing it with maximal grace, but the fact that he's doing it at all (seemingly) is so unusual.
and it makes it easier to want to hate on this guy bc his blatant naiveté and blasé attitude are there in your face and when you find someone who might listen it's easy to pour out your built up frustration and anger on them rather than the people who haven't listened before. so i'm angrier with him than maybe i should be, but it's just...exhausting.
his attitude is exactly the kind of general consensus that makes it hard for victims of abuse and bigotry to come forward and say anything. sure, he's not violent or openly angry, but he quietly avoids engaging with the subject and at the end when dan drops the bombshell that mr.beast follows ANDREW TATE on twitter, the guy's immediate reaction is "oh, i didn't want to know that" AND THAT'S THE WHOLE PROBLEM
just one snowflake (a literal one not the right-wing meaning lol) is whatever, but when that's the attitude SO MANY PEOPLE have, you're basically having to choose whether or not to present your wounds to a blizzard whenever you try to get help as a victim. or even just as someone who wants to point out when someone's saying something bigoted.
anyway this video came out two months ago and it just popped up again in my feed and i was still annoyed about it so i needed to get this out somewhere lol
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"Are you okay?" is so funny for the way it completely disarms people like, they want rage or shame or some other emotion and when you react with concern, they just like short circuit and run away lmao
The answer here is, obviously, that in the world of Cars there would be no such thing as 'car insurance' as we understand it because cars are people. However, they would refer to life insurance as 'car insurance' bcos it would be a solid goof. Ergo the wrong answer is winning.
Decided that since this is displayed in the shared office space we're all invited to participate and went through to add a vote, forgetting that one of the managers from a different office is working in there today, had to explain to him who Lightning McQueen is.
As you can see ultimately people voted in favour of Lightning McQueen having car insurance.
The biscuit world cup semi final has concluded. When I spoke to the finance team they were also a bit confused by the blandness of the results. My prediction is that the ultimate victor will be shortbread and I'm content with that.
Several people have reported a bug in the form, and it's something I can't fix, so I've reported it to the survey provider (Tally).
Some people are finding that the multiple-choice options are invisible. The page goes [Question], [Help text], ["Next" button], with no way to answer the question. It's not specific to a particular browser as far as I can tell.
The good news is, the fix is very easy: reload the page. The survey will bump you back to the beginning, but your responses will be saved so you won't have to type them in again. And generally that's enough to make the multiple-choice inputs reappear.
I've added an explanation on the pages where the bug can occur, with instructions for how to report the bug to Tally. Reports with screenshots will help get it fixed sooner rather than later, I hope.
Sorry about this, everyone! It didn't seem to come up at all during testing by several hundred excellent testers, so I'm wondering if it's exacerbated by high traffic or something.
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writing in english about characters that are not speaking it necessitates even though you're not translating per se a series of translational decisions that never feel quite correct
heyyyy so this is so random but in one of ur reblogs you mentioned ellipsus being untrustworthy... do you mind talking more about that? i know very little about it but use it frequently for little drabbles as opposed to google docs or word.
Hey, yeah of course.
So my problem with ellipsus is that it's very, very hum about how it finances itself. If you dig through the FAQ, you will eventually find this buried under "How can I support Ellipsus:"
This is not transparent. This does not tell me how it is financing itself right now. Now, when you dig a bit through google, you'll find that it's venture capital backed (which means through investments) as a start-up. It's not entirely clear who backs it, but it's listend on SpeedInvest, a venture capital fund. Further, PitchBook—which lists data on companies and startups— has this data on Ellipsus:
Now, none of this is inherently shady. But it tells you that this is a for-profit company, that together with its investors will eventually expect to, well, you know. Make Profit. And the aforementioned paid tier is, in my opinion, probably not going to cut that. Which too would be fine, but taken all this in the light of how they market incredibly aggressively to fandom, present themselves as just "writers and nerds" with "dachshunds" etc etc. is... not trustworthy, in my opinion. So—what if the paid tier does not pay off enough? What's the plan now? Why, if none of this is An Issue, do I not find any of this information transparently and easily on their own goddamn website? I'm not saying anyone should run a writing program for free. I'm saying if you pick your market in fandom, I don't think it's too much to expect very straight-up information beyond a lot of promises ("we won't sell your data/we won't use AI/we won't do anything weird just trust us broskis").
I said this various times before but: if you don't know how a service pays for itself, and you're not paying, then you're the product. And beyond a "oh we're so fandom family uwu" messaging with no substance or proof, Ellipsus has given me literal subzero indication to trust them of this not being the case.
Which isn't to say that gDocs or whatever is better. But I'd deeply, deeply recommend using LibreOffice for a free alternative, or Scrivener, which is a one-time/lifetime purchase. It's also not to say not to use Ellipsus at all; use something else as your main software, then use it if you need something for on-the-go, or for easy draft-sharing or whatever. Like, all I'm saying here really is: don't just trust it blindly. Historically, things marketing themselves this aggressively to fandom with any lack of transparency are. Well. yk. Pretty often Not That Great.
Also, minor addendum, but I do have two (2) drafts on Ellipsus for editing at work, and when amazon's servers were down I could no longer log in. You know what worked? Scrivener. Scrivener fucking worked. So you know.
Yeah Ellipsus quietly announced theyre limiting version history to 30 days unless you upgrade to a paid plan#After promising over and over they would not block current features behind a paywall#I wouldnt even mind buying the software *if it was actual software*#Its not. It's a website.#If you dont have internet access you dont have access to any of your work.#Even Google Docs stored natively on your device via @dustyforgotten
well, that happened much faster than even I anticipated, I hate being right about these things. Also frankly, I do not think that this is enough to financially sustain them long-term, although I suppose that remains to be seen.
(obligatory i am once again not telling people not to use ellipsus, I'm just saying don't believe the venture capital backed startup when it pretends to be your queer fandom bestie. back up your work elsewhere and keep an eye on the stuff they're doing before you lose access to things like, yk, your version history that's older than a month.)
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in response to people saying things like "men aren't allowed to cry in public, unlike women" other people will then say things like "women are penalized, not rewarded, for public displays of emotion—the fact that women are presumed to be overly emotional & irrational is misogyny, not a privilege"
which is often true but like, it's contextual innit. lest we discount the phenomenon of White Woman Tears
I've recently had white women in professional contexts tell me that they were quote "hurt" and "gutted" by what amounted to very minor professional faux pas on my part. I remember reading a white woman academic's essay on Jane Eyre that began with recounting her emotional upset upon having Jane Eyre "taken away from her" by postcolonial / anti-racist scholarship. white women's emotions do have currency in personal and professional spaces in selective contexts, i.e. when wielded against people of colour 🤷🏽♀️
same energy as your dad looking at your drawing and going 'oh what a nice... horse??'. I love that he's willing to entertain the possibility that they've gone with a bold avant garde approach he's just too old and staid to get
I've seen a bunch of "fandom etiquette" posts on my dash today and I'm going to say something that is maybe going to be unpopular but;
The absolutely pervasive mentality that unwanted criticism or critique shouldn't be given and should be ignored is why fans of color don't stay in fan spaces.
And I am not going to mince words here:
A lot of you are racist. A lot of your fan works are racist.
That might have been difficult to hear. And if it was, you should probably reflect on why that was.
"Fandom etiquette" has created a space where fans of color either bite our tongues and eventually leave or say something, get dogged on, and then eventually leave.
So much of "fandom etiquette" seems to be about insulating creatives from Feeling Bad and hostility to any kind of negative feedback is a pretty big contributor to why bigotry festers in these spaces.
#imo the potluck analogy applies- it would be rude to critique someone's icing technique at a potluck bc it wasn't as good as at the bakery #but if they had decorated their cupcakes w hate symbols it wouldn't be rude to tell them that's gross and gtfo #in fact it would be inappropriate to NOT say anything in that situation #or to complain that another guest who did point it out was 'ruining everyone's potluck' #and pointing out racism in fan works is 100% the second thing not the first! (via destructions-daughter)
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The 13th annual international gender census, collecting information about the language we use to refer to ourselves and each other, is now open until 13th August 2026.
It’s short and easy, for most participants it takes 5 minutes or less.
After the survey is closed I’ll process the results and publish a spreadsheet of the data and a report summarising the main findings. Then anyone can use them for academic or business purposes, self-advocacy, tracking the popularity of language over time, and just feeling like we’re part of a huge and diverse community.
If you think you might have friends and followers who’d be interested, please do reblog this blog post, and share the survey URL by email or at AFK social groups or on other social networks. Every share is extremely helpful!
Survey URL: https://survey.gendercensus.com
The survey is open to anyone anywhere who speaks English and feels that the gender binary doesn’t fully describe their experience of themselves and their gender(s) or lack thereof.
