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After @elzear-stims got some hate for elz body stims, I decided to draw some stim positivity! 

Text reads: Feel happy (leads to) happy stim (leads to) feel happy VS Feel happy (leads to) quiet hands (leads to) can’t express self (leads to) what am I even feeling?! (leads to) numb. 

Distressed (leads to) stim (leads to) feel soothed (leads to) communicate needs (leads to) calm/safe VS Distressed (leads to) quiet hands (leads to) mute (leads to) no help (leads to) distressed.

Stim ‘cause it feels good (leads to) feel good (leads to) have fun! VS Don’t stim ‘cause it’s ‘weird’ (leads to) feel lost (leads to) be unhappy. 

Respecting people’s body stims -

- costs 0 monies (money) 

- makes people feel accepted

- support’s people’s health and safety

- contributes to exciting changes in acceptable communication!!!

My therapist asked me to create something “motivating” so I made these.

It seemed like it didn’t need a response or I didn’t realise I was supposed to.

I didn’t know how to respond and I felt awkward saying that.

I only knew how to respond with something shitty like “lol” or “ok” and I thought you’d find it annoying

I spent too long trying to come up with an answer to your message and then I felt too awkward sending an answer after such a long time.

I didn’t know how to respond so I took some time to come up with one and ended up forgetting.

I didn’t have the spoons to pick up my phone when I heard it beep.

Here’s a sample email to a professor asking for an extension on a paper, and I’ll explain exactly how I scripted it.

Hi,

My name is Cameron [REDACTED] and I am in your 12:30 Tuesday/Thursday section of PSYC 230.

My disability has interfered with my ability to complete the paper due tomorrow at midnight, so I would need an extension to do my best work. I can probably finish it to the best of my ability by Tuesday. 

Thanks, Cameron [REDACTED]

“Hi” is a reasonable greeting to all but the most absurdly professional professors or to future employers or like, your boss’s boss. You can use their name like “Dr./Professor/Mr. Name:” instead of “Hi,” if you’re trying to impress someone. And if you’re addressing it to a general organization, you can use “To Whom It May Concern,” since there’s not a name to address to.

I only include the first line with who I am and what my relation to the person is if I have never talked to that person before. It’s good to add even if they’re expected to know who you are (but have never actually talked to you), since everyone forgets things.

The most important bit of the email is the actual asking what you need. I usually open with why I need something done, or why I’m asking for clarification. You never have to disclose your specific disability to professors or employers, just that you are disabled and need X accommodation. It might be as simple as “I lost my copy of the information sheet” or it might be “My disability prevented me from going to class for most of the past month”

Once I explain why I need it, I say in plain terms what I need (in this case an extension) and, if it’s an extension, when I think I can get the thing done by. Go with a date you can ACTUALLY do the thing by, not just a couple days because you don’t want to look bad. Saying you need a week and getting it done in four days looks AMAZING, whereas saying you need a day and getting it done in a week looks horrible. 

“Thanks” or “Thank you for your time” are both fine. The only time I’d use “Thank you for your time” is if I was talking to a potential employer, but it’s still handy to know.

Descendants of West African slaves in South Carolina are fighting to prevent their land from being confiscated and auctioned. Can they save a traditional way of life that has survived for the one and half centuries since emancipation?

The first Lillian Milton knew about it was when she arrived at the local council offices to settle her tax bill. She was told her home had been sold because she had not paid a $250 levy for a sewer service. She was shocked - at that point she had not even been connected to the sewer system.

“They had sold everything, the property, the house and all and when I offered to pay them with a cheque, they told me I couldn’t. I had to get cash money - 880 some dollars that I had to pay them to get my place back. It’s like they were saying if I didn’t get on the system I wouldn’t have no place to stay.”

Milton suspects the heart attack she suffered in January was brought on by the stress of trying to get her home back.In the end, she says, “my boss lady gave me the money,” and she was able to pay the court fees to redeem her property.

Many of her friends and neighbours in Jackson Village, one of three black communities in Plantersville, South Carolina, face losing their homes in a similar way if they don’t pay the tax for a sewer they say they didn’t want and don’t need.

Last week 20 homes were put up for auction.

Most residents are the direct descendants of West African slaves, who bought land on the former rice plantation, or were deeded it by the government, after emancipation in 1865. Property ownership had special meaning for these former slaves, known as Gullah Geechee, and the land has been proudly passed down through the generations, as a safe haven to raise families and farm.

But America’s seemingly insatiable appetite for coastal living and the money that can be made from buying up cheap former plantation land is a potential threat. The only people we see are the developers,“ says the Rev Ben Grate, gazing at the empty road that snakes through Jackson Village.

“We call them ‘strangers’ and we are afraid of them. Because they come to take your land. They are millionaires, in big cars, driving slow, staking out property, dreaming on what it would be like to have a motel on the river right here.”

With its neat brick-built bungalows, set back from the road in their own plots of land, and protected from the roar of Highway 701 by a dense forest, Jackson Village feels secure and cushioned against change.

But few residents here have deeds to their homes. The freed slaves who originally bought the land were mistrustful of the legal system, or excluded from it, and did not leave written wills.

The land is held in common. The families are entitled to live on it under “heir’s property rights” - but so are all of the descendants of the original owners. Ben Grate estimates that more than a million people, spread out across America, have a share of land in Plantersville, whether they know it or not.

If one of them decides to sell their share of their parents’ or grandparents’ home, a court can order the entire property to be sold at auction.

So although they are living on prime real estate, much sought after for holiday homes, golf courses or country clubs, they cannot simply sell up for a fat profit.

The residents can also have their home seized and sold off if they don’t pay their taxes.

Lillian Milton’s property, which was valued at $46,700 by the Georgetown county assessor, was sold at a delinquent tax sale to a real estate developer for $1,236, according to documents seen by the Georgetown Times. Residents who have their homes taken in this way have a year to redeem them, as Milton did.

Inner me @ me: Figure out the most relateable way to make it into a post that people will interact with. Profit off your misery for attention and validation.

If you have a personality disorder, it’s very likely you have several other disorders. Not only do many people with personality disorders have more than one personality disorder, they also have a higher risk of having any Axis I disorder (mood disorder, anxiety disorder, etc.) 

In this post, I’m going to talk about commonly co-morbid personality disorders specifically. If you have a PD, it’s possible to have any other PD, but I’m going to list some of the common ones so people can look into them, see if they are at risk, and hopefully learn a little in the process!

Cluster A Personality Disorders

Paranoid Personality Disorder: commonly diagnosed with Schizotypal, Schizoid, Narcissistic, Avoidant, and Borderline.

Schizoid Personality Disorder: commonly diagnosed with Schizotypal, Paranoid, and Avoidant.

Schizotypal Personality Disorder: commonly diagnosed with Schizoid, Paranoid, Avoidant, Obsessive-Compulsive, and Borderline.

Cluster B Personality Disorders

Antisocial Personality Disorder: commonly diagnosed with Borderline, Histrionic, Obsessive-Compulsive, and Narcissistic.

Borderline Personality Disorder: commonly diagnosed with Paranoid, Schizotypal, Histrionic, Antisocial, Narcissistic, Dependent, and Avoidant.

Histrionic Personality Disorder: commonly diagnosed with Borderline, Narcissistic, Antisocial, and Dependent.

Narcissistic Personality Disorder: commonly diagnosed with Histrionic, Borderline, Antisocial, and Paranoid.

Cluster C Personality Disorders

Avoidant Personality Disorder: commonly diagnosed with Borderline, Paranoid, Schizoid, and Schizotypal.

Dependent Personality Disorder: commonly diagnosed with Borderline, Avoidant, and Histrionic.

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