Ingenue

A 2015 teen movie starring Mae Whitman, Bella Thorne. It talks about love, popularity, friendship and accepting one self. This movie is a fresh breath of air from cheesy and crappy romantic chick flicks. But what does the duff means?

Duff is an acronym for "Designated Ugly Fat Friend". It does not necessarily means that you are ugly and fat but the duff is the less attractive friend, the one who makes the pretty friend pops out. The one people approaches to ask questions about the hotter friend.

It is pretty evident that in the hierarchy of friendships, there will be a friend who is on top of you, obviously because they are greater in some aspects. Unbeknownst to them, sometimes they are being treated as the duff by the people surrounding them, especially in the field of romance. These duffs are the one being used as a bridge to get inside information about the hotter friend being targeted by the hungry piranhas. A person that is being ran into when they got turned down from the girl that they court. Cruel as it may sound but it is the truth and no one could deny it.

I must admit that I am a duff. There were instances during high school even in college, that people used me to make a move to my friends. I remember, I have this friend who has a silky black wavy hair, fair skinned complexion, and a nice toned body. Obviously she is way prettier than me because as for my case, I have a very out of this world curls, chubby cheeks and darker complexion. I did not even knew that I was a duff then, but boys specifically kept asking me, questions about my friend. "What is her favorite color?" "What type of guy she likes?" "What does she prefer chocolate or flowers?" "What was her ulam for today?" And other questions related to her. Unknowingly I was giving them the information they needed and I was even rooting for them. Weird right? Then once they got the information. They will vanish like poof! Sometimes the saddest part about being the duff friend is that you thought they were befriending you because you are you but mainly it is because they needed something from you.

But that is life. You can't constantly keep on running from it. Yes, there will be people greater than you- who will be prettier, more talented, smarter, popular and etc. Some ads may say that "I don't care if she is prettier" because I'm telling you, no matter how much empowerment you read and see at the end of the day you will still care. You will still care why they were using you, why are you so ugly and fat, what made you his/her friend. And the answer for your questions is acceptance. Accept yourself, accept that these stuff happens because it is inevitable, it will keep on coming again and again, accept that your friend knows nothing about it, it is not their fault that they makes you feel less. Because always remember that everyone is going through a lot, they have their own fair share of insecurities just like you.

Sometimes the secret ingredient for awesomeness is being you. The word duff is just a label that people put on you but it does not necessarily mean that they can dictate what's your price. You are the one who puts your worth. The one who decides if she wants to be used over and over again. It is your choice.

I made this entry for a contest (for fusion) in Instagram and I thought na its nice din naman to share it to everyone. “Reasons why I love Nadine Lustre” : #THEBESTOFNADINE

I’ve been through a lot of rejections growing up. There are times where I asked myself kung bakit ba lagi akong narereject ng paulit ulit kasi nakakasawa na. Until last summer, I saw a trailer that caught my attention. Yes it was diary ng panget. As I watched it, the girl with a pimpled face was a nobody to me. James, yassi and andre were already known for their perspective paths. Napatanong ako sa sarili ko: sino ba itong babeng to? Curiosity strikes. I watched the movie. Tas nahook ako ng bongga. Kay Nadine Lustre. Inaabangan ko yung line niya. Yung make faces niya. In a span of 2 hrs she turned me into a fan. Magazine covers, mini tv series, DNP concert, 2 blockbuster movies, and a self titled album. From a nobody to a star.

Throughout the months na naging fangirl ako. Mas lalo ko siyang nakilala at mas lalo ko siyang minahal. What I love about Nadine Lustre is that she is very relatable. She jumps on couches, says weird things in a funniest way. She is very true to herself - iiyak siya kapag natouched siya sa act nung fans, Di ka niya papaasahin na kunware may sparks sila ni hayme. She laughs at her own jokes. Remember the “lat chritmat ~” in a #jadine episode? She is an Ice skater charot. HAHAHA. She possesses an undeniable charm that you can’t help but get fond of her.

I haven’t met Nadine. Pero siguro yung masasabi ko na tumatak sa akin is nung nalaman ko na normal siya.

Normal in a sense na alam niya yung feeling na mareject. Na-shelved si Nadine for years, Being compared to a certain actress, being told that she is not pretty enough to be a star. Ano pa ba? Mabash siya dahil sa imperfections niya.

Pero tignan mo na siya ngayon. Strong, mature, maganda in short BONGGA! It only shows that God has a reason for everything. She has been through a lot of heartaches and rejections to be the woman that she is today.

Baka ganun din sa akin. Baka narereject ako ngayon dahil ang gusto niya ay maging strong and mature enough ako kapag nakuha ko na yung gusto ko. Kaya everytime, I feel down or lose hope. Ilalabas ko lang phone ko at magplay ng song niya. Magiging okay na ako. Nadine is one of my daily dose of Happiness. We, jadines share a personal connection with her. A connection that only fans would understand.

1. All you need is one notebook, a black ball pen, a highlighter, USB and a correction fluid.

- Ditch those planners, fillers, bulky pencil cases, different shades of gel pens. Because believe me at the end of the semester you will realize that you were not able to use any of those things and besides those were just a waste of money. Sometimes there are profs who makes you write notes, there are those who gives handout,and some give notes through online  (oha iba na talaga di na mareach!) That is why you will be frustrated if some of the pages of your fillers/ notebooks are blank.  Nakaka-OC. For your pencil case that is heavier than your books. All you just need is a ball pen. Because I’m telling you at the end of the semester the stuffs inside your pencil case will vanish like poof! You need highlighter to highlight important details. You need a usb to save powerpoint presentations or pdf files from your professors and you need a correction fluid to remove erasures and corrections. Easy peasy.

2. Invest in a nice and pretty sweater.

- Because there will be classrooms where it is super cold - to the point na akala mo nakatira si Elsa doon charaught ang korni hahahaha. Multi-purpose din ang sweater lalo na kapag pumasok ka na lukot uniform mo, suot ka lang ng sweater BAM! Instant chicksilog ka na! Pumasok ka na may mantsa uniform mo, suot ka lang ng sweater BAM! Walang bakas nang ulam mong adobo kaninang tanghalian!

3. You’ll be drifted away from your high school friends.

- You and your hs friends made a promise na walang kalimutan, to always stay in contact. But yknow the saddest part abt college is that you’ll be drifted apart from your friends lalo na dahil sa malayo na kayo. Limited na din yung communication niyo, at since different program kayo ng kaibigan mo magiging iba na yung passion niyo, goals niyo, and yung mga taong nakapaligid sainyo.

4. But when you find that these friends are the people that you want to keep. Do something about it.

- Dude we are in the 21st century! You and your friends are only Skype away! You guys could stay updated with the use of twitter. They could still see an ugly selfie of yours in snapchat. You can still communicate with the use of Facebook group messenger. If you really love and cherish these people, time and distance are just numbers. Tandaan: “Kung ayaw may dahilan kung gusto maraming paraan.”

5. College is no joke.

- Once you enter in these brand new halls, always put your game face on. College is way different from high school. There are more paperworks, less gala, lot of all-nighter craps, 500 words essay about the homeostasis of human body and a lot computations that would make your soul bleed (just kidding) but the point is that responsibility and workload is much greater in college that is why you should be prepared and take all of these shit seriously.

6. Sipag + Tiyaga = Uno with nilaga.

- In college, you need these two ingredients to pass your semester. It is not like in high school, where you’ll just give an output  and your teacher will give you a high grade since effort is counted. But in college, if you want a grade of Uno. Dikdikin mo na lahat ng pwedeng dikdikin sa brain cells mo, ibigay mo na ang sipag at tiyaga mo. Kasi sinasabi ko sayo uno with nilaga ang magiging grado mo!

7. Be open minded and do not judge others.

- You will encounter a lot of people in your life (especially in college) but there will be instances where you’ll experience culture shock, coming from the people you’ll meet. There will be maarte people, there will be depressed people, people who smokes, who does not study, who says a lot of bad words in his or her daily basis. But no matter what happens do not judge him/her because everyone is going through a lot of things, even you. Sometimes the attitude that we need is to be open minded on a lot of stuffs that is happening and accept people just the way they are.

8. Always, always put yourself first.

- One problem that I encountered in college is putting myself behind the needs of others. I tend to care more about others than myself, Palagi kong binibigyan ng less na pagpapahalaga yung sarili ko na madalas sinisettle ko yung sarili ko below sa kakayahan ko para mag-give way sa iba. Nung una akala ko courtesy lang siya pero dumating yung time na akala ko na bibigyan nila (yung mga taong tinulungan ko) ako ng time and effort gaya nang ginagawa ko sa kanila. Pero mali pala ako kasi hindi pala ganun yun. Mas uunahin nila yung sarili nila kesa sayo.

This will serve as my first entry for my blog  because I feel obligated to post one so that this blog will not look so plain and sad. I would just like to share that I had a hard time making this baby because dude, learning tumblr from someone who just got out from her cave (that’s me)  is no easy task.  Ranting aside, I am so psych to post some craps soon. Hihi. I feel like I’m gonna pee because of kilig! HAHA

I will be posting some stuffs in here. Hoping you’ll learn something about it!