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After the events of Miroh, we have Double Knot as a way to link the events of Miroh to Yellow Wood. Miroh and Side Effects are clearly linked - Stray kids journey from Miroh to the yellow wood. But what’s missing in this puzzle is the reason why Stray Kids would flee to the Yellow Wood in the first place. At the end of Miroh, didn’t it seem like they were winning against the government? Why would they need to escape?

This is where Double Knot comes in to link the two together.

Imagine that your partner has been hitting you. Yelling at you. You’ve been married for a few years, you’re both in your 30s, you have a little daughter, and everything you do seems to be wrong. You’ve been made fun of, mocked and belittled by your partner. 

But you need them, because you can’t take another failed relationship. You can’t be alone again, and they’ve got you convinced that all the beatings and scratches and scrapes are your fault.

You tell your friends and they laugh. No matter how many bruises or cuts you show them, it’s still your fault, so you hide them. You feel trapped, but you don’t feel like you can escape. You’re convinced that you’re just locking yourself in.

And you see online one day an article. Someone else went through what you have. They got the cuts, the bruises, the scratches. You see that here is hope and freedom from these beatings. The physical and emotional pain can go away, there is someone there to help!

So you write down a list of 10 abuse victim hotlines, for people being abused. And you call them one by one.

If you were a man:

6 of those hotlines would refuse to help because of your gender.

3 of those hotlines would refer you to or give you a number to a hotline dealing with people that abuse and are looking to stop.

1 of those hotlines would help.

Out of those 10, 2 of those would also laugh at you or say you deserved it.

If you were a woman:

10 of those hotlines would help.

Abuse is very scary, but what seems scarier to you; being abused, reaching out and getting the help you need, or being abused, reaching out and getting laughed and turned away over 60% of the time because of who you are?

Only 8% of men who call abuse hotlines find them ‘very helpful’ and get the assistance they need.

Just to add some quotes found in the study from men who tried to seek help:

• They laughed at me and told me I must have done something to deserve it if it happened at all.

• They asked how much I weighed and how much she weighed and then hung up on me…I was told by this agency that I was full of BS.

• They accused me of trying to hide my “abuse” of her by claiming to be a victim, and they said that I was nothing more than a wimp.

• They didn’t really listen to what I said. They assumed that all abusers are men and said that I must accept that I was the abuser. They ridiculed me for not leaving my wife, ignoring the issues about what I would need to do to protect my six children and care for them.

So when I see posts like this I reblog them instantly.

New Face Minho:

for the taiwan version of CLE 1 + CLE 2, the members wrote messages in chinese to STAY on the back of their PCs! (will be updated as i find photos of the photocards)

chan: 不要生病！// don’t get sick!

woojin: 心裡有你 // you are in my heart + he also wrote 你 (you) inside of a heart

minho: 晚上吃什么？// what did you eat for dinner? (tn; the phrase more directly means “what’s for dinner” lol)

changbin: 我是你的 // i am yours

hyunjin: 乖～早点睡 // good~ sleep early

jisung: 夢里见 // see you in my dream

felix: 想快点见你♡ // i want to see you sooner

seungmin: ♡给你力量 // giving you power

Born This Way was, unequivocally, “You are beautiful for being YOU in a world that often tells you you’re not” while “You Need To Calm Down” is basically “Me, and The Gays™, have haters”.

Gaga was singing about celebrating herself with Born This Way. Taylor Swift comes off as comparing homophobia as equivocable the beef she had with Katy Perry.

I feel a better comparison from the early 10s is Same Love by Macklemore. While yeah, the song is clumsy and hokey, at least “I received a lot of misdirected homophobia growing up and I can only imagine how much worse it is for gay folks” is more tasteful than “homophobia is just like when critics say my songs aren’t good or I get snake emoji replies on Twitter.”

If someone is suffering and you want to help, instead of saying “let me know if there’s anything I can do,” offer a few options of things you know you can do.

“Can I do your dishes while you study for your exam?”

“Would it help if I came to the waiting room with you?”

“I can distract you if you like.”

i don't know how to feel about my squad 😂😂😂 i guess i'm surviving with them

@aliceteddybear @jaeyeolie @pastel-kpop @softkittyong @darlingdaedream @rumtelesovazena

i got wonho, my "husband" and my "fiancé", this'll be wild but we'll manage

Ig I'll die... die while dancing ajdbdjjd

yeah, im dying, I trust seungmin (and maybe jeongin) to stay alive and that's it

Im okay with this squad, Hyunjin may do something dumb,, 😂

oh man idek how to feel about this—

i'm surrounded by 4/5 certified crackheads and i'm one too so probably we all die within first hour or chan carries this team

uuugh we dying im tellin u right now

i — i think we're good???

who am i kidding i'm gonna die

yesterday i read this article and it just made me so happy

I particularly loved this quote: