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howtocreatehappy:

There is a really toxic side of the trans (masc. in particular) community where people are insanely nasty towards other’s surgeries and medical progress. 

You see way too many comments about penises being too “small” or “unrealistic” or “ugly”, and scars being “too obvious” or “too stretched”. 

Like.. you do realise that someone has made the decision to put something so personal online to provide education and help for us right? And you’re completely disrespecting them? 

Making the people in your own community feel like complete shit about their bodies which is.. you know.. what transphobic people do..? 

Are you aware that the information you’ve found online these days would not exist if it wasn’t for people sharing their experiences? 

Do you really expect people to continue being so open when they’re just going to be ridiculed for having a slightly wonky penis or bigger nipples? 

You need to stop being nasty to these kind brave people who are trying to help this community and start respecting them, and thanking them for it. 

We need to be kinder to each other.

you have to get yourself out of bad places. 

you need to resist the temptation to let everything slip and become apathetic & cynical toward yourself and your life. 

you need to accept that it takes time to change and it’s ok to fall over as long as u get back up. 

every morning is a new start and things don’t have to be this way forever.

ina-gartens-weave:

v1als:

ina-gartens-weave:

v1als:

v1als:

not to start drama in the history fandom but some of yall out there have really bad opinions and also no critical thinking skills

also while I’m here: 

historical figures aren’t your fandom faves. they’re real people who had profound and often terrible effects on other real people. 

you can’t apply fandom logic to them. you can’t fill in the blanks with no evidence other than you like the idea. you can’t vilify some of them while simultaneously stanning over “”misunderstood babies”” who committed equal atrocities. 

and perhaps most importantly of all, you can’t treat real history as “canon” and develop AUs where your fave is exactly how you want them to be with none of the nasty bits attached. 

that’s not how you read history. that’s how you get a painfully obvious bias which makes your conclusions and contributions useless.

it’s ok u can say hamilton

full disclosure i was talking about the soviet union idk what’s going on in the hamilton sphere and i wanna keep it that way

you’re talking about what

old people asking “what are you doing?” when you’re on your phone or 

laptop are the worst bc how do explain that i’m having three separate 

conversations, reading abt water vs milk in hot chocolate discourse, stalking 

someone on social media, and searching for a very specific meme all at 

Platonic love is not a runner up to romantic love. 

Platonic love isn’t second place. 

Platonic love isn’t less real, less valid or less powerful than romantic love.

sweetschizo:

Stop expecting autistic people to have some wild talent or skill to “outweigh” or “justify” their autism. 

because some of us don’t and we’re really tired of being asked what our “special autism talent” is.

Them: “And what’s YOUR special autism talent, Darla?”

Hey, if you happen to know a trans person’s deadname, for any reason— whether it’s because you knew them before they came out, you accidentally found out, or they trusted you enough to tell you: 

Don’t tell anyone else. 

It’s not your information to give out and literally nobody needs to know a trans person’s deadname. 

listen i’m just gonna say it. 

the way some of yall act towards pre-hrt trans people is really abhorrent. we’re always either a bad joke or we’re somehow not trans enough or we’d already be on hrt. 

there are a multitude of reasons trans people may not be on hrt and sometimes it’s just straight up out of their control. 

batmanisagatewaydrug:

wearywater:

batmanisagatewaydrug:

batmanisagatewaydrug:

gifted student™ brains are about as functional as horses when you get right down to it.

which sounds like a shit post but consider: 

horses? hypothetically made for running. 

look at this magnificent muscle beasts. look at those legs. they must be so good at running, right? wrong. horses are fragile as fuck. horses break their gotdamn legs so so easily, and if they break their legs you just have to fucking shoot them. 

if they run, the thing they are made for, too fast their lungs will start bleeding. I just googled horses to see if I was missing anything and apparently if they lie down for a day their organs start collapsing or something. 

they can’t rest from their One Horse Purpose even when they’re hurt. they’re made to do one thing but they can only do it under Very Specific Conditions and if a single thing changes they just die.

which, you know. gifted students™ get applauded for being naturally smart when we’re five (5) or whatever and then develop a terrible inflated sense of self that makes us highly averse to anything we’re not naturally good at because it challenges our fragile childbrain egos. 

and if we wait too long we’ll develop mental fences around entire subjects and skillsets (mine are math and studying) because we think we’re Bad at them, when in reality we just need to practice but are frustrated by that because it’s harder than being ~naturally talented~ was. 

we get applauded for doing One Thing but the second we run into slightly different things that our brains don’t comprehend as readily? it’s a Bad Time. 

I still have so much anxiety over things I don’t feel Naturally Talented at that I’ve been sitting here writing this post for like 10 minutes rather than read the feedback on my religion paper (I got a 100% on it, but I’m still That Scared of anything other than straight heaps of praise because that’s what my childbrain was acclimated to). 

just send me to the glue factory already. 

I…..I needed to hear this

that’s intriguing because this is not a particularly happy or uplifting post but I hope that whatever you got out of it was positive and that it could be a good thing for you.

kittymarx:

Stop reducing native issues to “they had their land taken”.

Our sisters are still murdered and missing.

Our children go hungry and cold.

Our elders can’t afford health care.

Our parents suffer from untreated mental illness and have addictions because they self medicate.

And thats not even on the reservations. Thats just in farming communities of the Lumbee. And we are doing well by comparison to other groups.

Stop reducing us to stolen land and erasing our real struggles.

Natives have the highest suicide rates. 

Natives have the most unsafe school conditions. 

75% of sex trafficking victims in Canada are First Nations. 

Natives are the most likely to be shot by police according to some studies and just as likely to be shot as Black brothers and sisters according to others. 

Half of the homes on reservations in the US are legally deemed “uninhabitable” despite families and children living in them. 

Non-native people can still commit crimes against us and not even be tried under native law, usually meaning not at all. 

Reservations flood often, they are stricken with drought. 

Most urban native kids carry the weight of being the only native their classmates and other townspeople will ever know. 

There are no college classes for us or about us. 

lurkdusoleil:

I am done with anti-medicine nuts who are like “God gave us all we need in nature.” 

Yup, he sure did. 

Wtf do you think scientists use to make their medicines? 

Where do you think they got all those chemicals? 

They didn’t summon them from the void. We haven’t outsourced to alien planets. Everything came from this earth. We just tweaked them into something more effective. 

Taking a long walk in the woods and chewing on plants never made me feel less like dying but taking prozac sure fucking did.

mercurydaze:

the real “problem with political correctness” is not that it’s considered offensive to use slurs, but that there are now many “progressive” environments where saying the right things is more important than doing the right thing. 

it’s why it’s so easy for abusers to gain traction in leftist circles (they learn the right words quickly and employ them to frame their own behavior as progressive). 

it’s why so much potential activist energy gets poured into fighting about language. 

it’s why moderate liberals didn’t believe fer/guson had a problem until the police emails with actual racist language were leaked (you can do racist things, you just can’t say racist things). 

i don’t have a neat conclusion here but a related point is that i’m so much happier since i started focusing on like being a good kind caring person instead of trying to remove the word “crazy” from the vocabulary of everyone in my family.

I’m gonna be blunt: 

You bring little worth to a friendship if you’re apathetic toward the good in your friends’ lives. If you shrug when they come to you with little things that they’re happy about, they will eventually stop coming to you with anything and you’ll wonder why that relationship feels stale. 

Practice genuine excitement with the people in your life. If you see a friend try to downplay how excited they are about something, just be like “Yoooo! This is a cool thing! You’re a lovely person and you deserve lovely things! I love you!”