also semi relatedly is people really fucking go for the throat when they see especially a young trans girl saying the incredibly common "i wish i was born a girl :( things would have been easier if i was born a girl" and like immediately rushing to accuse her of being misogynistic or something and it's like fucking no cunt, she's just expressing dysphoria leave her the fuck alone.
yes some people definitely do genuinely have a simplified idea of what it's like growing up being gendered as female but like fucking christ you don't need to jump on the "male outsider who could never understand our pain" bullshit.
like it'd be easier if she was born a girl" because she's a girl and constantly made to not feel like a girl, it'd be easier for her because she wouldn't be feeling her current dysphoria like why the fuck are people so vicious about that?
idk you just see it sometimes like this idea that trans women more than any other group of people have massive internalised misogyny that means they can't possibly understand how restrictive gender is and they're like fetishising or whatever the experience that people find opressive. as if that's even slightly fair and also like fuck you it's not your relationship with gender now is it. "trans women are just reinforcing gender roles" is like genuinely one of the oldest transmisogynistic lines in the book. like it fucking always comes with that implication of "you're a man so you can't understand this" to incredibly vulnerable women
just fucking do better jesus christ.
