I know this might make people mad, but absolutely refusing to even attempt to treat your mental illness, and instead just endlessly inflicting your unmitigated episodes on the people around you, is abusive. Your loved ones are not stress toys that you can just squeeze every time you feel bad. It is bad if someone says your repeated behavior is hurting them, and you take no steps to change. I know damn well that you canβt always help how your brain acts, but Iβve also spent a lot of years trying to stop my spiraling brain in its tracks, work on strategies to calm down, and consider the impact Iβm having on others, because I grew up in a household with people who have the attitude of, βI have the right to consume all the attention in the house and drain your energy every single day because I feel miserable, and youβre the bad guy if you say that Iβm making you feel bad and that I need to get help. I can treat you however I want because of my anxiety.β
