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calling the legitimate anger of oppressed people “drama” or “hate”

referring to allocation of human rights as simply “politics”

referring to basic human empathy as “political correctness”

the childlike refusal to admit mistakes and throwing a literal tantrum

I don’t care if you think “this is just how Degeneres/Kimmel does comedy”, I don’t care if they did it for laughs. The overall tone of their segment is to show their reaction; to show how ridiculous and childish they find the KonMari method. We get it, white liberals don’t have time for wishy-washy Japanese mindfulness woo-woo and their enlightened views make them too rational to take seriously any other cultures that are based in spirituality and animism

Kimmel made a long, over-winded joke that deliberately put both Marie and her translator into an embarrassing situation, deliberately highlighting and mocking Marie’s lack of English, and then mocked the Shinto cultural background that Marie’s methods come from. Ellen’s writer acted as if Marie was going to overturn his office, then shoves Kim Kardashian’s ass into Marie’s face, then admit that he’s going “put everything back anyway” after Maries leaves. Both of them act as if her “greeting ritual” was some form of Weird Hokey Japanese Gimmick. 

White “progressive liberal voices” are turning non-white cultures either into a commodity or into a joke without any self-reflection or foresight into the damage they’re potentially doing. They take no care in the hurt that they as white comedians are sowing; in turning Marie’s traditional Japanese cultural values and contexts into a joke, they’re making the act of othering and disrespecting non-white cultures more normative and easier to do. Their activism and political commentary is nothing but performative white bullshit.

Last week, Elle Stanger photographed and shared an image of my friend’s nude body on her blog without consent or credit.  When called out, she blamed the woman at first for “not knowing the rules”, and then refused to issue an authentic apology when it turned out she was in the wrong.

I should mention how she purports to be a feminist, anti-rape activist but defended (and continues to defend) her male friend when he sexually assaulted someone in our community.

She once physically shoved a fellow dancer who tried to interject when Elle was bullying a coworker.

She has used words like f****t,  r****d and the n-word casually and mocked fat women when she doesn’t think anyone who cares is around.

She attacked my friend’s (non-sexual) interest in lolita fashion, called her lotlia dresses “items of pedophilia”, and claimed those clothes could endanger and traumatize children. All this while claiming to be a sex-positive feminist.  She also kink-shames other women’s kinks but brags about her own.

Or how she claims to be a sex work activist but inexplicably disagrees with and has lobbied against the only dancers in town who are suing their club for sexually violating and financially exploiting them.

There are so many other stories like these.  There are too many small, private moments of personalized attacks and bullying to even list.

Trust me, we aren’t the bad guys in this situation.  I am not one to share my drama or interpersonal issues with someone publicly, so this a testament to how bad it’s gotten.  Every single one of us was her friend until she lied, backstabbed, and bullied us out of her life.  She has literally isolated herself from every close friend who used to trust and care about her by acting this way.  After a solid 5 years, I and many others are just sick of it and we’re finally speaking out.  

And let me say, everyone does hypocritical things. We all like to see ourselves as a better person than our actions sometimes reflect.  Most people are continuously working towards being a better version of themselves but it’s a learning process.  Hypocrisy is human.  But this is a whole different level.  She is actively hurting people in my community and then claiming simultaneous sainthood and victimhood.

She is a master manipulator and plays up this angelic public persona so she can make it look like anyone who calls her out is a jealous bully.  She is skilled at making herself appear as the victim of any interaction, and I don’t blame anyone outside of our social group, yourself included, for buying into it.  But those of us who’ve experienced this side of her for years are tired of keeping it private and letting her get away with the way she treats us.  The nude photo she took and shared without the subject’s consent is just the straw that broke the camel’s back.  Someone this privately toxic and publicly adored needs to be held accountable for the horrific way they treat people behind closed doors.

For anyone interested in the history and reasoning behind the legislation, what BOLI’s powers actually are, what employee rights actually are and cover, and what the legislation will actually DO, for anyone who would like to know what needs to change and who needs to change it for us to ACTUALLY be independent contractors, or for anyone who would like to get involved in the struggle for stripper and sex worker rights–including Elle!– there’s a panel meeting on September 9th at 2pm, at the Graduate School of Social Work at PSU.

https://www.facebook.com/events/744641728991732/

There will be the original members of the NASW whose idea the bills were, labour lawyers, and a representative from BOLI.  

And for anyone facing the new Deja Vu-style contracts that Elle and the cadre of club managers [claude da corsi, johnny, frank, deja vu] are trying to threaten people with, one of my lawyers says she would be happy to take on a case against them.  That’s how flimsy and illegal they are.  

I’m not a tactful person, and this isn’t a tactful post. I care passionately that Elle has been so involved in keeping information from people, I don’t understand it and trying to understand why someone would do any of this makes me obsessive and frustrated to obnoxiousness, I know this.

But this is important information.  And it needs to be known.  We need to be able to trust each other as a community, trust our intelligence and information as much as we need to have each other’s backs. We’re hated, feared, discriminated against, and murdered.  We need each other.  

In case you need background about why she’s a bully, not a credible source of information, and just generally not someone you should support, here’s another example http://malbell.tumblr.com/post/130727328589/today-i-was-fired-from-a-club-because-elle-stanger

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