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and then i think of how young and innocent they are and how nothing bad has happened yet and i get upset

the torture and the joy are inseparable

your trauma, illnesses, or deep-rooted self worth issues

any come-ons or sexual content

over-familiar playful rudeness

information about your dnd characters/ocs

disagreements with their harmless subjective opinions

Listen. Having the ability to see and respond to something doesn’t mean that any concept of etiquette should go out the window.

A. When you walk down the street you are also in a public space where anyone can see you and talk to you. This doesn’t mean you should have to deal with sexual harassment, trauma dumping, or other rude behavior from strangers. You can respond to the post, but you are still responding to a human, even if you’ve decided they’re too popular to notice your response. If you wouldn’t behave that way to someone’s face, it’s probably a good idea not to do it online. A lot of people take the relative anonymity of the internet as an excuse to be shittier than they’re comfortable with being IRL.

B. To reiterate, “popular tumblr users” are people. They are not brands, and most of them are not being paid to produce content. They think and feel and want to have fun interactions with people online, without being bombarded by the kind of shit OP described, just like the rest of us. Like it sucks that they should miss out on notifications about the fun parts of being online because their notifications are full of people who feel entitled to be dicks.

C. Something that happens on tumblr in particular is that you can be an average user and just happen to have one or two posts that get popular, and people assume that you’re too big of a blogger to possibly see their unhinged tirade show up in your notes.

Trauma/illness/etc. and sex are deeply personal subjects that many people prefer to only engage with in private, with people they feel safe with. Playful rudeness and criticism can really easily cause hurt feelings and so again, people often prefer to keep this to relationships with people they already feel safe and comfortable with. Listening to someone talk about something that interests only them is a timesink and something people do for people they want to sink time into. In summary the list consists of things that many people only want to talk about with their friends, not with strangers.

Internet is more like… Recording a speech, putting it on a speaker at full volume (or only connected to the headphone of selected people in some case) with a micro to record people’s (of all age, there is 15 yo in the mix and 15 yo don’t have great filter) comments on it.

Sure like I’m not defending people that say overly sexual stuff to you but complaining about people reacting to the things you are yourself making EXTREMELY public is, while less strange, still strange. Please remember this is not a private chat with you bestie, this is a open chat where you are talking directly to everyone and nobody at all. Including weirdos, including teen, including nice people, including adult,…

How did you find that person to be comfortable with?

By being uncomfortable at first.

And by uncomfortable, I mean, “Discussing certain themes in one’s life you’re not used to hear, for your relationship to grow stronger, in order to trust your loved one/s with something that has happened/happens to you”.

That’s a normal as fuck interaction.

How do you even build a relationship, bad and not bad, with people? Do you go outside and not interact with a single person?

Internet as we know it today was born from forums, forums were born for people who wanted to build a community. If someone take about a fictional character bothers you, but that doesn’t include any sexual harassment/bullying or both towards yourself, but you don’t wish to see it, you can use a very nice machine tool called, “block.” If you wish to “teach” (and I’m using this word in a broad sense) how to “behave” (because apparently, we all like to think we’re better than the majority of these “fools”) on the internet, next time, instead of making a long ass list of… things that happen in people’s lives, you could advocate for yourself directly and say, “Hey, next time, it would be great to use a TW, I easily get triggered by this/these subject/s”).

Then, if you get a response where someone doesn’t genuinely care, you block them :). Because, yes, truly, not everyone is the same and preaching about, “the majority of people”, or, like others did, “everyone”, in this context, as if we all want you ill, it’s not doing anyone good.

I just want a quieter, less judgemental and calmer internet space, but in order to do that, we should get less judgemental too.

Internet is a public space, because people in public can see you but not necessarily know you. Does that excuse sexual assault and violence of any kind? No. Does that excuse you from judging and “punishing” people (they’re strangers too) who happen to have a relative who is dead, whose favourite fictional character reminds them of? No.

As simple as that. So what if you feel people could avoid saying something that… well, that can be avoided? Why should we avoid stuff? That doesn’t excuse us from telling everyone to stop saying these things, because it might come from or mean a different thing for another stranger who happened to see our posts about a fictional character you both like.

That’s how I met my best friend, just saying.

Think twice about what you say, which is another societal rule people have taught us to follow. Words can hurt you, and your words can hurt others as well. This isn’t a game of who’s got it worse, this is not a one sided situation, this is real life and that’s how interactions go. Sometimes, I get awful takes or stupid takes too on my blog because I (meaning, me, myself and I) think they’re stupid, but I just block these people or start an interaction by discussing the same topic. Just an addition I wanted to make.

finished my thesis, and now I have time to finish the illustration of Merlin

really love the interactions between these two idiots

The only rule is, there are no rules.

ANTHONY HEAD as UTHER PENDRAGON.

Then Merlin says he is willing to die for Arthur, who's "more important than anything."