How are you? Hope you're doing good. I wanted to ask for your opinion on something that happened to me.
So, to make a long story short, I had a friend since my first year of high-school and we stayed friends after I moved at the end of the year. I always knew he had feelings for me, but i made it clear as fuck that I was not interested in dating him, and made the friendzone clear as fucking day. Last firday, before my trip back, we hung out together. He told me that he couldn't do it anymore because of his feelings and even suggested that if I stayed that he would have been able to change my mind. When I offered to cut down or completely cut contact, he said that it wasn't necessary and that we could still be friends.
Well, for four days now, he hasn't even opened my snap. He used to send me snaps daily before this. And now, he unfollowed me on Instagram and removed me from his followers.
I feel like it is my fault for this. I feel like I'm wrong for saying no.
What do you think about this from a guys perspective? Am I at fault here?
And to clarify, he cut contact without even talking to me about it. And he knows that I overthink about things like this.
I hope your week was better than mine and so so sorry for this long ask.
Hi sweetie! I'm doing ok :)
It does seem like communication here is completely all over the place. You offered to cut contact and he declined, but later he decided to cut contact himself. So I guess something happened for him to change his mind.
I don't think it's your fault. You didn't do anything wrong but people are allowed to change their minds. It's just frustrating he didn't tell you before he did. That would be the respectful thing to do.
I can understand your confusion and perhaps, anger but maybe it's best that he cut contact if you're not interested in pursuing anything further. And yeah, with the lack of communication, it's easy to overthink about this and it sucks.
It's easier said than done ofc, but it's best to accept what happened and move on. It seems like he has and it's no good to dwell on these things.
Thanks for your ask 💙 anon! I hope you're doing ok and no need for the apology. Things will get better 🫶