⬆️ this cat is autistic

I think that it's really important for people to realize that being disabled is traumatic. genuinely. your body and brain feel like they are breaking down and wrong. you are in constant heavy stress from stuff like chronic pain. most disabled people i know have a somewhat regular emotional break down from the trauma of it all. and we are expected to just smile through it by society, to not be in the way, to not be an issue.

hello to my fellow cluster b folks! happy disability pride month to narcissists, borderlines, histrionics and antisocials! your struggles are real and i see you. i wish you a month of hope and healing and wellness.

Reblog to save a life

Like "go exercise, you'll feel so much better once you move your body" doesn't apply to a lot of physically disabled people. And "just force yourself to socialize, you will have fun once you're there" doesn't apply to a lot of autistic people. And "your intuition will always tell you the truth" doesn't apply to a lot of psychotic people. And so on. And I'm not saying that this means that you can't or shouldn't promote these things, but they aren't universal solutions for everyone

If you tell someone directly "that behavior makes me uncomfortable, please stop doing that to/around me" and the person keeps doing it and anyone tries to excuse it with "they're autistic, they can't help that they're bad at social clues", know that it's bullshit. Once you have verbally articulated a boundary directly to someone's face it is no longer a complex social clue, it's a direct request. And you don't get to ignore direct communication of boundaries because you're autistic.

healing involves a lot more grieving than you’d expect. progress hurts. you’re moving on from things that happened but also things you wished would happen and never did. mourning does not mean you are not getting better.

If you are super duper tired and need rest, but don’t know why, I’m here to tell you that it can be really good to know why, but you don’t need to know why in order to listen to what your body needs. Please rest and go easy on yourself. 🌸

Too mentally ill to be “normal,” too good at faking functionality for people to take my issues seriously.

It can be scary for some of us to feel angry at someone because some of our trauma came from other people’s anger. This is a reminder that you aren’t the people who hurt you. And you aren’t a bad person if you feel angry.