Disabled Dating

they do exist and they are not unlovable at all

The spoiled millionaire brats in the NFL will never know what real sacrifice is.

God Bless our troops who protect our freedom, which also includes the freedom of the NFL thugs to act like the trash they are.

Able bodied person: well I know someone who works with them and she says they prefer differently abled. You’re offensive.

In my town there is only 1 bar that has wheelchair access and guess what?! It’s not the gay bar!

Gay bars are also not accessible (the vast majority of the time) to those who are sensitive to bright lights and loud sounds. Example; some people with epilepsy, autism, PTSD, Tourettes, social anxiety, ect.

The pride march I went to last year would not be accessible (reasonably) for someone in a wheelchair or let’s be real, anyone who can’t walk for an hour +. 

The local LGBT+ group I meet up at tries to be accessible but often forgets that if a location has to be changed then the same level of access will almost certainly not apply to the new location.

The LGBT+ friendly bookshop I visited while overseas had a tiny door which barely fit my small wheelchair. There was also a step halfway through the store which meant I only got to view half of the books that were aimed at me. 

A lot of LGBT+ resources online are not set out in a way that people with visual or learning disabilities can easily read, or read at all. 

The LGBT+ community as a whole (not just the disabled members)  need to make a conscious effort to include disabled people where-ever and whenever possible. 

We are just as much a part of the community as abled body/minded people. 

Also there is the one where the disabled person either uses or fakes disability to manipulate or trap their partner or family and you’ve got this evil disabled person who is abusing the poor abled victim (even though disabled people are more likely to be abused by abled people rather than the other way around). This makes people believe that a disabled person who needs a lot of care and rely “too much” on their loved ones as someone who is taking advantage and being a burden to their loved ones and maybe the big bad disabled person controlling, abusing and maybe even lying to their loved ones who then perceived as victims just because they care for a disabled family member/partner.

 It makes people think that these things are commonly done by disabled people. It’s also a very believable trope (unlike disabled supervillain for example) and people see it being used regularly (not just in fiction but in the media in general) and think “wow I can’t believe people do this so often, I better keep my eye out for these people.” 

I’m so glad it was helpful for you! I was also really excited about it. Healthcare is a really tricky subject for a lot of folx, especially disabled queer and trans people. It’s a huge topic of interest for me. I’m glad you got something out of it and were able to share it!