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For anxiety/depression:

7cupsoftea

Anxiety coping methods

Breath control for anxiety ( 1 // 2 )

The Quiet Place

reasons to live

free hugs

zen garden

managing stress

chillout

thought journal

natural anti-depressants

calming sites

anti anxiety self care masterpost

self-help masterpost

a giant self care masterpost

magick self care masterpost

another self help one

another self care masterpost (it’s so amazing)

for those w/ anxiety

pixel thoughts

HALT

tip for anxiety attacks

Insomnia:

sleep cycles

sleep tips

tips to beating insomnia

Eating disorders:

EDs explained

why choose recovery

recovering from bulimia

why you need to eat

relapse prevention

Self-harm:

alternatives

butterfly project

care for injuries

tips for stopping

if you need to see blood

if you relapsed

how to cover scars

For body love:

receive compliments

reminders ( 1 // 2 // 3 //

reminder art ( 1 //

learning to love it

don’t put yourself down

self love

how to boost your confidence

Suicide:

100 reasons not to

how to help

hotlines

online suicide prevention

blahtherapy

Sounds:

rainymood

simplynoise (white noise)

nature

jazz (duke silverton)

rainy cafe

noisli

beach

classical music

studying music

If you’ve just had a bad day:

advice for a bad day

triangle rotation

emotional baggage check

Things to do:

musical squares

Thisissand

Build a nebula

learn a new language

make your own mind palace

make your own font

freerice

lucid dreaming

fun sites

weavesilk

French YouTube

Writing master post

things to do when sad, anxious, scared, etc

hobbies masterpost

learn things! for free

learning languages masterpost

creative activities masterpost

Abusive relationships:

HOTLINES HOTLINES HOTLINES AF:

so many

people

love

you

and

want

you

alive (even staff)

School:

college

AP cram

how to pull an all nighter

learning to study

help applying for college

how to write an essay

giant ass school master posts ( 1 // 2 // 3 // 4

guide to kicking ass on exams

best grades in college

guide to study guides

improve your vocab

high school tips

ap psychology

essay writing tips

note taking methods

planning for a deadline

surviving finals

organization masterpost

study tips

general college tips

lazy kid’s guide to studying

youtubes for studying

history studying tips

why your cute ass should study

school help masterpost

ultimate school masterpost

Healthy Weight Loss:

Yoga 101

Booty exercises

workout masterpost

online yoga for beginners

anime workout

fun themed workouts

Etc.:

Hair styles

hair tips

makeup masterlist

art

gigantic

ass

master

post

guides to life

plus size!!

writing masterpost

hygiene masterpost

creatures and more

writing about money

100 books to read before you die

how to grow tf up

ultimate writing resource list

masterlist of AU prompts

hoe tips

so you want to make a character

kiara’s ultimate guide to writing

kiara’s ultimate guide to sex

neil gaiman’s 8 rules of writing

more adult shit

drawing tips!!

young adult books about LGBTQIA+ characters

badass trip on a not-so-badass budget

tips for people with vaginas

vegan indie makeup brands

molding plastic

sockdreams for thicc ppl

drawing frills

Food: 

recipes for your little

NYC grad student releases cookbooks for free

vegan thanksgiving turkey

vegan gravy

vegan thanksgiving ideas

carrot soup w/ crispy tofu strips

vegan burger

charred roasted broccoli w/ peanuts & scallions

butternut squash lasagna

vegan revel bars

tomato & basil soba noodles

We Live in a World of Storms

After my teacher introduced us to this theory, she asked us, “is love a feeling? Or is it a choice?” We were all a bunch of teenagers. Naturally we said it was a feeling. She said that if we clung to that belief, we’d never have a lasting relationship of any sort.

She made us interview a dozen adults who were or had been married and we asked them about their marriages and why it lasted or why it failed. At the end, I asked every single person if love was an emotion or a choice.

Everybody said that it was a choice. It was a conscious commitment. It was something you choose to make work every day with a person who has chosen the same thing. They all said that at one point in their marriage, the “feeling of love” had vanished or faded and they weren’t happy. They said feelings are always changing and you cannot build something that will last on such a shaky foundation.

The married ones said that when things were bad, they chose to open the communication, chose to identify what broke and how to fix it, and chose to recreate something worth falling in love with.

The divorced ones said they chose to walk away.

Ever since that class, since that project, I never looked at relationships the same way. I understood why arranged marriages were successful. I discovered the difference in feelings and commitments. I’ve never gone for the person who makes my heart flutter or my head spin. I’ve chosen the people who were committed to choosing me, dedicated to finding something to adore even on the ugliest days.