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The guy being dragged by a bird – part of an installation titled Hacienda Paradise – Utopia Experiment by Fredrik Raddum.

The balancing elephant – Balancing Elephant by Daniel Firman.

The tea splashes kissing – Kiss of Eternity by Johnson Tsang.

The figure emerging from the wall – Break Through From Your Mold by Zenos Frudakis

The meditating figure splitting apart – Expansion by Paige Bradley.

The horses running through water – Mustangs at Las Colinas by Robert Glen.

The giant peeking from under the lawn – Popped Up by Ervin Loránth Hervé

The man under the raining umbrella –  L’uomo della Pioggia (The Rain Man) by Jean-Michel Folon.

The huge bearded guy – The Appennnine Colossus by Giambologna.

The impossibly balanced stones on a beach – Untitled by Adrian Gray

The dragons with an egg – The Dragons in Love or The Varna Dragons by  Darin Lazarov.

The stairway to nowhere –  Diminish And Ascend by David McCracken

The underwater circle – Vicissitudes by Jason deCaires Taylor.

The epic warrior guy – General Guan Yu by Han Meilin

The sinking library –  Sinking Building Outside State Library, Melbourne, Australia.  I couldn’t find an artist’s name.

Don't stress yourself. All these feelings are normal. In fact, they're typical. I'd say these anxieties are more common than they are rare.

A lot of people talk in such a way (especially on Tumblr) where they're not clear that they're talking about their fantasies, rather than real and lived experiences.

They're not showing off to you. You're not bad at sex because you feel worried about things or haven't had the courage to try them or suggest them. They're just saying "I like the idea of this thing".

I've had a lot of experience. I've been in long term relationships. I've been promiscuous. Largely speaking, I'm very confident about my sexuality and my sexual prowess. However, the anxieties we have about sex are always there - I've just learned to manage them a little better.

The pressure to perform is a lot. The pressure to know everything and be up for everything is real. A lot of sexual fantasies don't translate into real life at all, but it's fun to fuck around and try. A two second gif of someone getting railed isn't someone getting railed for 3 hours - their hips and knees would give out first - it's all smoke and mirrors.

A three second quickie where you both laugh at the end is always better than some overly dramatic roleplay, trust me.

Just remember that everyone is in the same situation, it's just not very cool to say it out loud. I'm saying it out loud because I don't care if someone thinks I'm uncool because of it.

You're more beautiful than you think. You're better at sex than you think. You're allowed to learn on the job too.