• feminism is not taken seriously as a sociopolitical movement with actual theories and intellectual writers. it exists as an aesthetic, a (defunct) dating strategy or a tiktok.
it’s why expressing any genuine feminist sentiment — being critical of marriage/heterosexual relationships, porn/sex/beauty industry, all religions (christianity, islam, etc.), surrogacy, and more — will have you walking on eggshells, even though these are basic feminist concepts.
• i have always hated the notion that women can “man hate” their way into better male partners.
AT LEAST 1 in 3 women will experience sexual violence in their lifetimes. a woman’s rapist is most likely to be her male partner (her boyfriend/husband, etc.). not that creepy stranger waiting in an alleyway, but rather the man that she trusts most. this is a simple empirical fact.
so, no. there is no woman on earth who can “outwoke” her way out of male violence. did millions of women around the world just not “pick” good enough partners? or, is male violence so deeply embedded, protected and enacted at large by men at a class?
• final thing, but how are we even defining a “sweet angel boyfriend”? do you mean a benevolent patriarch?
because, the amount of men who are true allies to women is extremely few. many men have no interest in standing up for women in front of other men, consume misogynistic pornography (either behind your back or to your face) where there is a high chance the woman (or teen — who can truly know?) has not consented, and do not pull their weight domestically, emotionally or mentally.
women are socialised to overlook these things and crave “love”, acceptance and validation from men. there’s a reason we’re groomed into this from a young age, and in general, why the patriarchy wants women to have as little self-esteem and independence as possible.