hey y'all, i think i'm officially done with tumblr. my interest has been waning for some time, and i was mainly using it for hairspiration and fatdykespiration but i am feeling like it's ~over~ now. because it's all over my dash and i am having feelings, here is what i have to say about the grrlyman thing. 1. can't really believe that post about it all being about how she's black. i would say MOST things ARE because someone is black (and i will definitely never for one second believe that things wouldn't be COMPLETELY different if grrlyman were white or white passing), but this just proves to me beyond the shadow of a doubt that "transformative justice" and academic blahblah language can be used to excuse any behaviour from anyone under any circumstances, and i am SO FUCKING OVER IT! (Reminds me of Asam and probably every other "radical" dude who has ever said anything about anything ever). 2. for people who are claiming to care so much about the victim/survivor (not sure what wording she would prefer here) y'all are sure not letting her name what happened to her. SHE is not calling it rape, so why are y'all calling it rape? i can't imagine what not having power in even being able to name what your own assault was would feel like. we live in a world where women are taught to minimize everything, but not allowing a woman to label her own assault is some weirdo-anti-slash-second-wavey-feminism-masquerading-as-real-feminism-BS. (as i said before, i've been pretty absent from tumblr, so if grrlyman's ex has said something else about the issue, pls just disregard this point all together!) i feel like so many people are so upset and that makes sense, but i just don't get and definitely don't like how it has (d)evolved to this point. i kinda need space and time before i can decide what i want to do in terms of personal relationships, but i am definitely definitely definitely feeling like my energy in being able to trust men, or any "radical" person who isn't a fat weirdo brown or black lady is kind of on zero. so what this means from now on is that i'm gonna abandon this tumblr (can't delete it! it's too spectacular, if i do say so myself!) and maybe start a new one that is just for pictures of fat ladies and long curly hair! you're not really gonna wanna follow it, i bet, but that's ok! it's been fun meeting all of y'all, and you can find me on fb if you do some deep lez sleuthing... but i'm probably gonna delete that thing soonish anyway!Â
sending gay healing vibez to... most people who have been hurt by this <3 (ps: feel free to reblog this, but i'm totally not trying to start a conversation or debate or anything. this is just my goodbye cruel tumblr post so that y'all don't think i died or something. bye-bye!)
