Woof

I'm almost 30 years old but I'm still having to deal with the fallout of my parents' relationship. What am I supposed to do when my mom gets me alone and starts accusing my dad of leaving me out of his will? Do I just agree with her so that she doesn't lash out at me? Or do I defend my dad even though he'll never know about the conversation? I can't convince her that he cares about me. My mom will always assume that my dad hates me. She assumes he hates everyonne.

She's convinced that his wife is manipulating him into hating me. But I know his wife and I know she would never do that. She loves me. I know she does.

The fact that my mom assumes that anyone my dad is married to is manipulating him is really telling. She manipulated and abused my dad throughout their entire marriage. Of course she would think his new wife is doing the same thing.

She manipulated me too, and I let her ruin my relationship with my dad. He's moving away soon, and our relationship will always be strained because my mom convinced me that he was conspiring against me. Now it's at a point where repairing the relationship would take a lot of work that I just don't have the energy for. I have a mental illness that makes talking to anyone a monumental task. Now I have to choose between my sanity and my relationship with my dad, all because my mom couldn't stand the idea of me loving him.