Processing
Why did the trauma occur? -because I couldn’t stop it
-because immense pain or despair was felt by him
-because he couldn’t ask for help
-because they were fighting
-because no one saw the signs, because no one knew what they were in his life maybe
-because he was drunk and he never drank
-maybe because he forgot about me
-maybe because he thought I’d be better off without him
Safety
-yelling/arguing = people dying -getting too drunk isn’t good for me
Trust
-people I love can leave suddenly
power/control
-I need to protect people from harming themselves. I have to take action when others can’t or won’t. -I can’t stop people from dying or leaving me
esteem
-that even in conflict, we need to know we are still loved
intimacy
-getting close to others isn’t worth it when they might leave -even someone you hold in such high esteem may be unfaithful


















