Sir Jeffrey Says...

I see many of you posting pictures of girls in very humiliating positions /outfits, with a description that says, “looking for a cunt to do this to. Taking applications.”

Being that you’re taking applications, I’m assuming you don’t have anyone with whom to live out your fantasies. So, let me see if I can help you out a little.

Most single women who are into degradation have been abused before and left for naught by their dominant… Or had to leave their dominant because of excessive abuse… The kind of abuse that crosses the boundaries of Sexuality into straight violence and torment.

They are fragile. They are broken. And they’re looking for someone that understands that FIRST.

It takes an insane amount of trust to let someone who is bigger and stronger than you to fucking tie you up and do what they want with you.

And posting under your picture that you’re “taking applications for a cunt to abuse” isn’t only counterproductive to your overall goal, but it’s offensive to the overall realm of BDSM.

So, might I recommend a change in approach?

Approach your search for a Submissive in the same way that you would approach general dating…

You know…

Normal conversation. General likes and dislikes. Family… The basic shit that one would learn about the person they’re dating.

Approach the sexual part of the process the same way that is done in “vanilla” relationships… 1st base, 2nd base, etc.

Granted, if there’s chemistry and you’ve already established that you’re both into BDSM, things will heat up very quickly and you’ll be home before you know it.

But the approach doesn’t change.

And don’t expect her to let you tie her up completely on your first fuck. Again… It takes a lot of trust.

You could be a serial killer for all she knows. 😌

I’m saying all this because I want you to find a beautiful toy to use and abuse to BOTH of your pleasures.

So, let it marinate a little. Read it over again. Maybe it’ll help.

And to ALL SUBMISSIVES…

Share this post. Let’s help these aspiring Doms that follow you so obsessively. Teach them what they need to learn to grow. It’s your responsibility as well as theirs.

With love and pain,

all text and layout by me

and to clarify:  i’m well aware that the women of tumblr are more than capable of speaking for themselves.

my hope was merely to take what I understand about their plight, 

and present it in a concise/humorous fashion with the hope of getting that message to more people.  

Do not message them and  harass them. Do not message me and harass me for their emails, their number, their names, etc.