So what I think is that there's this default belief in patriarchy that men are superior to women and therefore the "masculine" sphere is superior to the "feminine" sphere. And so, as feminists have fought to expand the number of allowable female activities, men (on the aggregate over generations) have retreated from those activities because they're now seen as "feminine", and so partaking in them is incommensurate with their belief in their own superiority. And, unfortunately, as this has progressed, this has resulted in a lot of men sectioning themselves off from, frankly, everything that actually makes being alive worthwhile. It's a misery spiral, and the only way out is to abandon male supremacy.
#god so many men cant have hobbies anymore#because of this fuckass mindset#cant paint cuz its girly#cant do pottery because its girly#all arts and crafts? girly#any musical instrument that isnt a guitar or drums? girly#like baby no this is literally killing you#your only hobby CANNOT be an impact sport#that shit will not keep you sane when you are sick or injured#or OLD#have you considered#that you will need to give up aggressive soccer when you get OLD#and they you'll have nothing to do because you refuse to do any arts#why do men#ugh
@capricorn-0mnikorn Possibly related to the mystery of where the horse guys are.
Yes. That's more or less the direction I was heading for.
Also, to have a rewarding and productive time in equestrian sports, you really need to establish an empathetic and compassionate relationship with a nonverbal creature, and that definitely goes against the grain of pop culture Masculinity (Though, unfortunately, the weight of Tradition™ means that much of organized Equestrian sports are still abusive, while there are individuals pushing back against said traditional practices).
I also suspect it's a power fantasy for tween girls (just beginning to be aware of how the patriarchy is stacked against them, as they are starting to be sexualized by default) to have a best friend who weighs half a ton, and gives them an opportunity to literally look down on adult men.
