it is not my job to please you. It is not my job to make your life as easy as it can be. It is not my job, to make sure everyday is sunshine and rainbows. It is not my job to say yes.
Here on tumblr we tend to get into only the positive side of bdsm too much, and even I have focused a bit too much on those things as well. We tend to always see the sunshine and orgasms. We never talk about the other side of it. The side that takes time, effort and commitment.
As a Dom, my job is to bring peace and stability to your life. That means telling you no. That means telling you to get up, even if you don’t want to. That means telling you not to do that fun activity you love. I don’t mean every second of every day will always be like that, but it will be more often than you like to think.
While being a sadist that enjoys hurting you, denying you and tormenting you, I do love to give you what you want. I do want you to be happy. But true happiness comes with peace. How are you at peace if you splurged and spent more than you should have and now finances are tight for the month? How are you at peace if you’re trying to diet and I allow you that sweet dessert? How are you at peace if you have a chore looming over you and I let you do something else as you try to ignore it?
As a Dom, it is my job to bring you peace and stability. Those things have to be earned though. You can’t just have them. We have to work together and achieve them.
So as your Dom, it is my job to tell you no and to make you do the things you don’t want to do.
And as a sub, it is your job to understand that I am doing what is best for you.
