"Don't wear that, that's too short." "you are wearing too much make up." "You look tired whats wrong? go put some make up on it'll brighten you up." "You eat so much." "That's too revealing go change." "You are breaking out a lot on your face aren't you?" "You should stop eating sugar." "you eat so little." "You need to eat more." "Your thighs are getting bigger," "You've gained weight." "You've lost weight, look at how much you lost on your face," "Your legs are thinner" "That's not a ladylike thing to say," "I've never heard a girl express her opinion like you have,"
These are all things people have said to me: My family, 'friends', people I know....
And oh boy, let me tell you it ignites this anger inside of me.
This sharp, painful anger that screams at me to let my inner bitch out.
Let me share an experience I had in summer:
I standing outside near the beach, in shorts and a top (normal outfit btw), waiting for my friend. Suddenly this man (19-20 i reckon), approaches me on a bike and slows down, then he leans in to kiss me. Like I even heard the sound (EW). He didn't actually kiss me our lips never met, but the inetntion was clear.
...I was HORRIFIED. (Literal chills when I think of it again btw).
Well, my story just gets worse...
When I told my mum what happened, you will never guess what she said...
"take it as a compliment! He probably thought you were pretty."
This is exactly my point. As girls, we are told to "accept it". To take it as 'compliment.' To not, answer back, or rage or cry out when an injustice occurs.
What scares me is that there are still people in society that think that if a girl was 🍇 then they would ask, "Oh what was she wearing,"
I just want to scream!!!!!!
NO! educate your sons. Stop shifting all the blame onto us. Shift your mindest, its 2026 for crying out loud!!
We should be free to wear what we want and feel safe.
Also... (I'm not done yet I have more to talk abt),
A a girl, growing up, I have moticed that girls are constantly judged on our appearance. (sadly we are also judged on our thoughts too).
I hate it when people (usually 'loved' ones or friends), decide to comment on my appearance. I hate it. I hate it. I hate it.
I hate it when other people (my mum especially), comments on other women's body's: "Oh she's huge" "Oh she has so many tattoos" "Oh she not feminine" Etc etc
Its awful. i believe everyone woman is absolutely gorgeous in they own way.
If they decide they want a cute tattoo on their arm, then so be it. It doesn't make them "less pure" (yes I heard that from my own family and I got into an argument abt it).
You would think its only men criticising.
But no, unfortunatley its also some women, Older aunts, parents, 'friends', even strangers giving unwanted advice, backhanded comments or just straight up insults.
Like I don't need you to comment how much/little I eat. And no I don't need you to compare with me.
Please don't tell me what to do/what to wear/how to act because "men like it like that better." (my own mum and other people tell me stuff like that guys and I always explode in anger)
plus you're a man (most of the time)
That's my rant over now...if i were to write out all my thoughts on this, I would take forever.
I want to know what you guys think...
Do you experience female rage like me?
If so, how do you handle it?
