left-pawed boydog

does anyone want to see a really good picture of my kitty cat

not a cat, first off

snale

i feel like sociality is basically like. You can’t have your cake and eat it too!! You either have to put something on the table and everyone gets to react to it their own way or you don’t. people these days do a lot of maintenance to try to manipulate or curb how people will react to the thing they put on the table but the secret is…that’s not possible and we can’t ever truly control people, all we can do is put more stuff on the table

i think most people accept the idea of "you don't control who you're attracted to" in terms of being gay but imo it can go further. like if you're not attracted to men, but you happen to find a transmasc person attractive, i dont think thats inherently transphobic if you acknoweldge that your attraction is incongruent with their identity. you dont need to run yourself in circles creating qualifiers for your sexuality when we live in a world of infinite gender identites. it's not like you have an inbuilt radar that tells you whether that hot stranger at the bar is a woman or not. man who kissed a twink that turned out to be a butch lesbian that thought he was a butch lesbian. etc.