Well, that was anticlimactic

Anyone who's dismissing a person for being self diagnosed has no idea what it's like to not have access to a diagnosis and eventual support. They're not going through life like "uwu. I'm so ✨neurospicy✨". Literally every day is a struggle but no one takes them seriously and they don't get access to support and medication that could help them, thereby the quality of their life is significantly reduced.

Also, as someone who has studied in this field, and spoken to multiple professors who have actively worked as therapists, you are hit, pretty quickly, with the gap in understanding that exists in many (especially but not limited to) non-western countries. I've legit had them tell me they don't usually "prefer" to give out diagnosis because they think the person is gonna use it only to access benefits and not to attend therapy sessions to 'cure their disability'

So what exactly is a person suspecting a disorder/disability to do in this situation? Medical neglect and gaslighting is a thing. And sadly, is pretty common.

So before judging someone for being self-diagnosed, please try to understand what it must be like for them...

They are entitled to a lovely date

Getting the diagnosis is a very slow process and/or very expensive as well. People who takes their own situation seriously aren't just taking two symptoms and calling it a day, we spent months, even years, studying about the subject before actually saying that they think they might have something. And with that process we also have the acceptance, the tips that slowly makes the life easier.