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In her own opinion, curvier girls are the sexiest and she happy to be one of them. I could see the sheer arrogance and foolish expectations in herself, our neighborhood is drought stricken when it comes to blokes willing to engage popsies and the likes of me, its not even in the list of to do. What I scooped from the conversation was that things have changed. Back in the days, having a big bum attracted ridicule but seems not anymore. This woman sounded very confident and thinks her booties is all about female empowerment though unlike her burning-bras feminist forebears, exactly how having one's bottom oiled up and bouncing down the tight skirt is afeminist statement is not that clear to me, perhaps I’m too old to understand the new trends.Clearly, the objectification of flesh and body parts has long been one of the tenets of getting one's recognized. In a bigger picture, I could argue that bums have now become the new boobs. Yes, I am well aware that it is dangerous territory for a man to suggest that women's derrieres in the public eye have been elevated to the same status once held by their breasts, but if you watched any of the aforementioned models we used to read about on magazines before internet came, you will agree with on what I mean.Women don't need to have a big bum or big hips to feel womanly and they should be happy with the way they look. I have a childhood friend who lives and work in Brisbane, a couple of months she shared her images, she has a boyish figure because her bum is small, andalthough she don't have curvy hips, she feel just as sexy as someone who is shapely. She narrated how during her pregnancy, her hips widened, but her bum stayed small.Her younger sister is very petite as well.Having a small backside means she look better in skinny jeans, and short skirts make her legs look longer.I have to admit that gone are the days when a woman had to display her boobs to get attention, the bums are the new norm and are getting quite the same reaction as those with bib boobs for decades.When I sought the views of another childhood mate, she said the husband has made it tough for her curvy bum and she has to work hard at keeping it that way by doing pole dance, yoga as well as weights classes, meaning she put the time in. Her husband has hired a personal trainer twice a week. She’d considered surgery to make her bum pert, but the personal trainer convinced her she could get the same results in the gym. She has alwaysbeen curvy but before the training sessions, her bum was flat and saggy.Now it's bigger and more lifted….the husband is equally happy if you know what I mean.The Perth native also feel a lot sexier with a firm, round bum. She like her hourglass figure and is now a regular competitor in swimsuit competitions.It's great to look and feel good but life is too short to get hung up about it.Women who feel confident in themselves look amazing, regardless of their shape and they dont have to stop people on the streets to talk about themselves, what an indecorous new neighbor we have.

Next to the secure storage unit are shelves crammed with labelled jars containing preserved human tissue. The tissue is thinly sliced from parts of a body and studied for diseases and illnesses that can't be seen by the naked eye.In the words of my host who has worked as a mortuary technician for the last nine years, there is nothing he hasn’t seen or experienced. Nowadays, he doesn't get shocked at all. Sometimes it is his friends who remind him how freaky and gross some of his work stories he tells themare.Out of nowhere, he receives a brief call and suddenly started telling me a story of a body that had undergone three procedures and been stored in the mortuary for 9 weeks has finally been identified. Apparently the woman had been dead for a long time before she was discovered. She was found decomposing in her armchair, riddled with insects. Now identified and with any suspicion ruled out, she can be released to her family.There are masks to protect workers from the smell while they work with a decomposing body, but some pathologists insist on working without them to pick up telltale scents, such as sugar or alcohol.A strong mentality is vital.Surprisingly despite all that, he never has a problem eating on his lunch break. He now deals with more complex procedures and forensic cases. He sees his and other staff's work as part of a bigger picture.By helping to determine the cause of death, they can contribute to preventing other deaths. The mortuary also helps police with investigations, they can find evidence of damage to the body that is not visible, which helps to findwho or what is accountable. Sometimes change will be implemented to prevent similar deaths.The ripple effects can be fantastic, he noted. "The questions have got to be asked." If someone has died in a automobile crash, for example, mortuary technicians can find out exactly what killed the person so that organisations can evaluate and implement precautions. Assessing bodies from car crashes is harrowing. Little bits of glass and bone get stuck in the technician's latex gloves so that he must constantly change them for fresh ones.On the downside of working in the morgue, he told me he does not have many friends. When he tells people what he does for a living, they fall into one of two categories, morbid curiosity or frosty disgust. My job has driven, honestly, a lot of them away. People get freaked out, he pointed. As we concluded our chat and tour around the morgue, I asked him whether he goes to the cemetery for dwelling. He said those are just myths and contrary to widespread belief, he doesn’t have a colleague or anyone he knows who engages in cemetery-dwelling, which involves thosewho are always been fascinated by death.

Back to conversation, hornbag asked me what I connect most with and value most, of cause my answer was intelligence which wasn’t the exact reasons she considers herself as sapiosexual. I understand as an aging bloke in his 30s that identifying as sapiosexual has also become trendy on social media, with plenty of pages dedicated to it and countless memes describing the sexual pleasure that comes from intellectual stimulation.For me, I think it pretentious, and reductive approach for those considering themselves assapiosexuals without convincingly telling us what they stand for.Sound confusing? I certainly think so. If you’re the kind of person that sees intelligence as the trait of all traits, you could be a sapiosexual according to the hornbag. Or at least to some extent. While at first glance it can seem a little clinical, hornbag think that sapiosexuality is just about high IQ. But for me, I feel it’s about engaging in meaningful conversations, bonding over shared interests and sharing ou life with someone who enriches it for the better.Sapiosexuality has justifiably seen criticism for its label as a sexual orientation notably because part of attraction has always been about peoples minds. It's not rare or worth defining as a separate category. Of course many of us find ourselves drawn to people who are smart and quick-witted and motivated and driven, that's just a quintessential part of who we are. The crucial difference between definition and the widespreadunderstanding is that intelligence is a key source of arousal for sapiosexuals, rather than a sexuality. This isn’t to say their arousal hinges solely on intelligence, but it forms a significant part of what turns on a sapiosexual. It’s also not quite a kink. I think its a preference of arousal.What I saw in hornbag thinking is making it a sexual orientation and it’s not. Irrespective of differences in our definitions of what the word means, one of the main criticisms of sapiosexuality and the people that claim to identify as such is that it’s ableist and discriminating against people based on factors that are out of their control. Not everyone has the privilege of accessing quality education, or the kind of education that would result in the high levels of intelligence that most people associate with sapiosexuals.For me, when it comes to female friends, I believe intelligence manifests in lots of different ways and people using sapiosexuality as a selection criterion reinforces problematic hierarchies based in ableism andelitism. I told her that sapiosexuals are people who are genuinely turned on by intelligence that goes beyond traditional education but for the wannabe sapiosexual hornbag, the reality is using it as a filter like, ‘that you have to be really smart if you want to be with her’. It’s really like, she start to feel arousal in her body.” I was left with a question, how a hornbag like her measures intelligence of a bloke. Although am an aging tricenarian, I do know intelligence comes in lots of different forms, some people are whip brilliant, others are fantastic artists and awful with their communication skills, but they take such an intelligent approach to their profession and how they live. So if she were to pick a bloke, or rule them out because of their communication limitations, it is pretty ableist and it’s also a lost opportunity.My elementary teacher used to say that sex is more than just our genitals doing things, it’s a whole body thing. And the fact is, the physical stuff isn’t enough to get anyone aroused. One has to cultivate thatconnection. Listening to the hornbag it was clear just like so many youngsters who hardly reads books does not know that intelligence takes many forms across cultures and for her to simply understand it as a monolithic, easily measurable attribute is utter nonsense.The world we live in is diversified, there are those who understand intelligence as I do, but there are also those who understand it in the social media angle or the elitist side of it and like my neighbor whom I’m sure will read this article, end up using the term sapiosexual to signify superiority in social media sphere.

Although for other people they hold back their desires due to the culture they were brought up in, which considers sex as something sinful say before marriage, there is enormous scientific evidence out there that healthy humans like the priest are required to have a strong desire for sexual intercourse and it’s important for a healthy life.In fact, the lack of this desire can be a source of concern due to psychological or medical reasons. But when it crosses the boundaries and the individual starts feeling excessively high levels of sexual desire that start to impact their day-to-day life, then it might signify sexual addiction which is where the priest hasfound himself in. It's real, it's dangerous and it affects many people. Catholic priest aside, lust, infidelity, betrayal and the drive for sexual domination have always presented a challenge to a society's view of morality. However, the present confusion of a bad habit with a medical problem is symptomatic of the difficulty that contemporary societies have in making moral judgments about human behaviour. Sometimes even people who profess to possess religious convictions like the priest find it difficult to ascribe guilt to immoral behaviour. That is why behaviour that was once denounced as sinful is today discussed through the language of therapy rather than the language of morality. The old deadly sins tend to be looked on as personality disorders that require treatment rather than transgressions that deserve criticism. In other cases, sex addicts are portrayed as victims of circumstances beyond their control, they are literally counselled to accept powerlessness as the defining feature of their existence.The first step I told the priest to take on the road to sexualsobriety is to admit that he is powerless over lust.The promotion of the myth of human powerlessness has fostered a situation where addiction has become normalised. It is worth noting that any bad habit can be recast as an addiction. For generations, society has become accustomed to use terms such as smartphone addiction, internet addiction syndrome, love addition, workaholism, cybersex addiction, fitness addiction to mention but a few. The inability of individuals to control their lives assumes the character of a self-evident truth in the narrative of addiction. Addiction in my view plays the role of a cultural fetish through which society calls into question people's potential to exercise moral independence. The normalisation of this status of dependence is continually reinforced by constant exhortation to seek professional support. As a result, a new culture of dependency is constantly upheld and promoted.Those who attempt to deal with theirproblems through the exercise of self-control are castigated as being in denial and criticised for failing to come to terms with the gravity of their illness. As I told the priest, seeking help is mandatory, not an option because sooner or later his sex addiction will be out of control and chances are that he will be kicked out from the church which will only worsen his condition. The good news is that the priest can overcome his bad habits if he choose to do so. People who in one stage in their life became far too distracted by sex can learn to value and cultivate a disciplined life.And he just need to look at people who regularly quit drinking, smoking, drugs or lose weight. It is astonishing just how far an act of will can take him. Wish him luck in getting professional help.

One of my friends in Brisbane who struggled with depression for four years, was very lucky that he had some very good friends whom he could confide in when he started feeling depressed. He recently told me how will be forever thankful for their support and kindness. In light of that, it is great to be able to talk to people who have experienced depression as well and thats why I connected him with some friends who have gone through similar challenges. People with similar experience just know and that should make him feel normal and accepted.As I noted while we were talking, feeling depressed is such a hard thing to explain to someone.Another factor isnegative public response toward suicide and mental health in general.One of the biggest challenges is the public lack of awareness on mental health. Many people have a tendency to mock or even bully people who express their frustrations, labelling them weak or simply overreacting, exacerbating the situation and possibly their condition sometimes causing irreparable and harmful consequences. There are still many people who are not aware that severe depression can cause paranoia and other mental disorders, and provoke thoughts of ending one’s life like my neighbour thoughts were before our chat.Depression is an illness and like any illness, it does not discriminate. It does not care about age, race, nationality, gender or social status. This neighbour is fabulously wealthy and seemed to have everything but reality is that he is suffering from depression. Mental illness is a serious health condition of which awareness needs to be spread. To help yourself it is good to talk to a person you trust like the way my neighbour did. If you have friends or family members who will listen to you please reach out. Surround yourself with the people who love you, talk to them, tell themabout your thoughts and feelings like the way neighbour did, let them know that you need their support. As I noted with him, sometimes, all someone needs is a friendly ear. Just listen to them, and give advice only when they ask for it. Sometimes the issue is not about how difficult the problem is, but how badly it’s hurting them. Show that you are concerned, that you take them seriously, and that is fine for them to share their challenges with you.What I have learnt engaging depressed people is that being compassionate, patient, calm and accepting are key to them appreciating your views and guidance. Also don’t judge because one of the reason why some people might be reluctant to share their thoughts and feelings is because they are afraid of being judged.Suggesting professional help is always my number one advise. Everywhere in the world people around us face the reality of living with a mental health condition. Its good to keep informed and learn how to detect warning signs and know where you would go to for help if you suspect someone you know might be experiencingdepression.Mental health awareness is a major factor to creating an open and positive environment that could save many lives.

Many women, apparently bored by their own relationships try escorting just for sexual diversity. One thing that I can say is consistent is the woeful human ignorance of individual’s own sexuality. The ingenuous questions and divulged secrets, the mechanics, the etiquette, the dos and don'ts. What is real and what's made for porn is hard to comprehend but just like you, I’m clueless. Many happily married clients computer programmers, teachers, bankers, scientists, doctors, lawyers among other types of friends have in the past confessed to me that their wives would never understand or recoil in horror if they tried to act out harmless fantasies. Things asinnocuous as being stimulated by female feet. Actually I know of cases where women, married to the same bloke for decades at times, would not allow him to look at her genitals. At first, I too grappled when hearing some of their obscure stories but I came to understand that these desires were as deviant as smothering pasta with ketchup. When I was in my twenties I recall a friend who visited a high end brothel and used the services of escorts. He was first encouraged to visit sex workers by a female friend of mine. She knew he was going through a dry period and one of her friends was a sex worker. My friend thought it was sensible for a bloke like him, who was shy and crap at picking-up women, to visit sex workers in between being relationships.He narrated to me how his first visit to a brothel was scary. You may think it’s easy to walk into a brothel and ask for sex but it was one of the most intimidating things he had ever faced. Having workedup enough courage to ring the front doorbell and realising why many men need dutch-courage to do this and all the time hoping no one he knew would happen to walk past and see him, he was let inside by the resident Madam.Then he was confronted by a new level of intimidation, the line-up. Not all brothels are the same but the high end one he chose that day used the line-up method to introduce clients to the sex workers. All the available girls, dressed in their sexy outfits and stilettos, lined up in front of him and he was expected to choose who he wanted to have sex with. He then panicked and simply chose the first one who came out but by luck or chance, she proved to be a good choice. She took him to a room and seeing how nervous he was, she offered my friend some words of encouragement and helped him relax until the time for inspection. According to my friend, the inspection involves dropping dacks in front of the sex worker, who, with the aid of a lamp, inspects client genitals for signs of sexually transmitteddisease. Seeing he was fine, she took his money and left him to have a shower. The sex came next. The sex worker knew how to relax him, she knew how to arouse him and she knew how to make the experience pleasurable sexually, emotionally and felt for days afterwards. For my friend, it wasn’t just the sexual relief, it was also the boost to his self-esteem that made him feel good. Prostitution exists, always has, always will, let's protect those who provide the service. Isn't it great that with age sometimes comes wisdom? Perhaps I always knew that, but maybe the female friend leaving her husband because of his brothel visits made it an issue she has some strong feelings about. What she may not know is that there is a thriving trade in male escorts for busy professional women but it is very discreet.  Often as not, women are looking for a man who will pamper them and make them feel attractive, and the evening may or may not end in sex.  The key thing though is that the women knows she is completely in control. Sometimes too, women are just looking for vigorous sex.  Instead of treating people who pay for sex as desperate losers, let’s be honest with it. There is a chance that a friend or a relative, may at some point in their lives seek the services of a sex worker and therefore you should never be ashamed of making a trip to a brothel whether you are a female or male.

The part of the problems with illegal drug use is the lack of information about each batch and perception in society need to be changed to allow people to speak more openly. My neighbour said he feel a little nervous talking about taking illicit drugs but as I explained to him, in life you have to pick your battles and I think this is a battle worth fighting. Neighbour said he has good parents they are still together and three great siblings. He went to a private school, is well-educated and a professional but he know people from all walks of life who are drug addicts and also know people from all walks of life who aren’t drug addicts. In his own words, cocaine just ticked all the boxes, he explained to me. For the people who have a tendency to beaddicted, they find drug that ticks the boxes for them and then they are done. They don’t stop and thats where he is now. Before being hooked to cocaine, he took recreational drugs such as speed and ecstasy to party with mates on weekend nights. He also had a prescription medication addiction which he managed to shake off without help. But his addiction with cocaine started when he was introduced to it by someone at work when he had a lot of work to do. Cocaine allowed him to function at a higher level for a lot longer. He’d do seven, eight days on the trot with no sleep and very little food. His brain ran a bit faster and it meant he could make more money beyond his monthly income of US $160,000. It was a performance booster really.He soon became a daily user and started to get paranoia and his work productivity declined. The stigma attached with cocaine meant he couldn’t tell anyone about his addiction. So he has kept it hidden from his family who thought he was living with mental illness.In the last two weeks, he justfelt that he needs to seek help after seeing his workmate who introduced him to drugs pass away from drugs related overdose. It has been the perfect storm. He come close to losing his job and he told me how four years ago he split up with his partner and in recent weeks has become estranged from all of his family and lost most of his social network. He pretty much just live and breathe to go and score on a daily basis.His story left me gobsmacked on how he has been able to go through life without a conscience, without guilt, without remorse, and feel nothing. Well once you get to that point of daily dependence on cocaine, you shut down those parts of your brain.You can function and be an unscrupulous human being and do whatever you want. And it doesn’t matter.His cocaine addiction all came to a head earlier this week when he experienced hallucinations during his constant state of psychosis and went to the local private security company to report that he was being followed. The company took him to police station to record the statement but the police didn’t know if he was on substances or if he had a mental health issues and they let him leave. We agreed he should start byconfessing his cocaine addiction to his employer, whole family and close friends. Then he needs to accept to attend a rehabilitation in a private clinic and that way, his journey to recovery will begin.

In my trips around the country I have been able to meet the friendly locals, that work on the  outback stations mostly ranches and outback homestead.There’s nothing better than hitting the road or jumping in the chopper and getting away from all the people and city lights. I feel spoilt having waterfalls and open floodplains in my back yard.It’s so nice living simply and slowly.The outback has amazingly diverse wildlife, the birds, crocodiles and marine life. It’s hot all year round, so no need to get away for a European summer mates. For those who like fishing, they would love getting out on the boat for their hobby. Outback has everything from the rock, to beautiful tropical oases and natural hot springs.The characters and friendly people, everyone says g’day with a smile unlike the fake smiles ofMelbourne and Sydney folks. There is still such a strong sense of community and people coming together in outback something you can’t find in the cities.Lets not forget that Australia boasts the longest stretch of a straight railway track in the world at 487 kilometres that runs across from South Australian on the Nullarbor Plain through Western Australia. Where else can you get that? Outback also have the longest stretch of straight bitumen road, 147 kilometres a world record that offers a scenic view of the countryside.The outback takes up around 70% of the countries landmass and is populated by only 3%. More visitors go to the outback than people that reside there but that doesn’t mean the places aren’t super cool. The outback is often descried as a dry desolate place and some parts are occupied by spiders, snakes and the odd crocodile but it is not as hostile and forbidding as people portray nor is it entirely empty.In my trips over the years, I have found small and larger towns, with great facilities from bars, restaurants and when you are out in the bush a cold beer goes down well for those who take alcohol. The towns not all modern but many are and the bitumen roads and highways linking everything together are continually upgraded. The comforts of home can be part of the journey too, you could travel with a 4x4 Wheel drive tour or jump on an air-conditioned coach.For me, I will always go and enjoy a vacation and tour the outback in different parts of Australia because there is no match. From enjoying long sandygolden clean beaches, surfing, swimming, windsurfing, parasailing, 4x4 wheel driving through the outback, Seeing unique animals, play in the desert, snow ski the many famous ski runs, visiting the islands, mountain climbing, bushwalking etc. sleeping under the gleaming stars in the open air just to mention but a few, outback is my ultimate choice.

It’s been five months since she tried and don't want to ever bed the bloke again. Its a classic example of sexless marriage but she know her husband wouldn't handle that kind of inactivity. Apparently sex is very important to the bloke but the real challenge according to her isn't the sexual activity but the lack of connection between them. Bint no longer know how to feel connected to him anymore and doesn't think she want to, not in a million years. In short, her only wish is to go for divorce and as you’d expect from me, I didn’t hesitate to advise her to go for it but only after trying to work out using other methods and seeking professional help. If she gets divorces,she would not be the first or the last to go through such painful journey. Marriages and relationships are a source of unnecessary depression and endless shenanigans. Her immediate action is asking him for a separation. After all she is young, and if they can’t fix it, there is no point of saying in it. Thought it may sound too cruel to ask her husband to move out but unless someone is an illusionary buffoon there is no need to waste each others lives and parting ways is the ultimate solution. I have seen with other married or divorced friends that staying makes things worse adding more layers to resentment and in the end couples end up hating each other.Time has come for her to take some action because she can't stay in limbo. Her life is not about living but existing.Well, those friends of mine who are married always like to remind me that marriages are made in heaven but forthe case of my friend it seem like hers was made in hell. When things don’t as planned, they can become a living hell as she explained. There are bunch of half-knowledgeable folks who fantasise about marriage, about finding the perfect man or girl and living the perfect life but what I can tell such folks, that is just pure fantasy. Unfortunately, they are just fantasies that motivate such minds and not reality. While the conservative society often bemoans the end of traditional family structures, people needs to focus on improving bad engagements and marriages but if they fail, then healthy divorces should be the next step.The status should change from married to divorced in a span of a few months if the process is smooth. So much will change for those who get to live alone like I do, no bullocks business of relationships or marriages and for good and for ill, I love it. Asexual life is the ultimate life one can live. After our chat, I think she has more coherent idea of how she want her future life to be, but on the other hand, I told her such plans would be weak unless she takes in her agonising lessons from current marriage if it doesn’t work out. Perhaps she should be more flexible with expectations and less demanding when it comes to having a bloke ofher wish.Time heals everything and even if she separate from the husband, she will eventually emerge stronger and better. Me think it would be more painful for her to see her friends prosper in their careers while she spend her time fighting the battle to save marriage.

The stressed looking father explained that PCP works as an antagonist on the brain’s receptors which manage memory and synaptic activity and that police detectives specializing in the illegal drugs, PCP effectively functions by blocking dopamine reuptake leading to an elevated synaptic dopamine level and producing euphoria. In a diagram shared with him by the cops, PCP penetrates primarily in the brain’s cortex and limbic structures and disrupts the functioning of the neurotransmitter glutamate receptors, which regulate pain, learning, emotion and memory.The type of PCP dissolved in liquid is called ‘wet” and the liquid is used to saturate something like cigarette tobacco.He showed me several versions but one I saw was actually a yellow oily tincture in which organic material is dipped and the effects usually last about 6 hours minimum.It is well known that PCP affect users body in different ways, and the effects associated with it can vary from person to person. How a drug effects an individual is dependent on a variety of factors including body size, general health, the amount and strength of the PCP, and whether any other drugs are in the system at the same time.His father says his son doesn’t accept there are short-term and long-term effects, sone of them physical and psychological, and now he is dependent on them.The truth is, the father is doing enough to help the addicted son and but sadly the teenager seem to be disconnected from the realities of drug addiction.His primary goal of running treatment programs both residential and non-residential is a significant commitment that few addicts are privileged to get.His father is desperate to see his son stop using PCP before he either dies or go to jail and is working on rehab’s supervised PCP free environment that will offers some safety and security.As well know, substance dependence is usually a recurring chronic condition not easily fixed but this friend of mine is doing the best he can to get it fixed. How the son doesn’t see or appreciate his father’s efforts is yonder my perspicacity. This article first appeared here 

A Swedish female friend who every now and then shares a track for me to listen, always reminds me why heavy metal is different. She is a great listener of heavy metal, likes the loud and confronting sounds just like your blogger.It’s not like she’d have heavy metal playing gently in the background in the throes of passion like Danish female friend would with James Brown.Unlike pop music, heavy metal distorted guitars crunching and wailing is only perfected by talented types and not some computer enhanced singing. There’s no doubt I’m in awe of how rockers create such incredible sounds with a guitar, thats pure talent. Then combine that with their singing prowess,and if you think I’m plain stupid arguing, just try to do what heavy metal guys and girls do in metal bands and you will see how good they are and can bet my neck that your voice would be cut in few minutes. Being a heavy metal rockstar takes plenty of efforts, sacrifice, practice, training, correct technique and skill.Can you imagine a life where your not aggressive? End results are known from poverty to being hopeless. This world we live in demands aggression and heavy metal is aggressive by nature.That aggression speaks to me like any human being does. Heavy metal bands generates so much power, so much joy with their music that makes me move, just like any other kind of music does to different people. The skillset that heavy metal musicians have enables them to play any kind of sound that moves us the audience, that’s what drives me emotionally, through tough and rough times in my life.Heavy metal will never die because its the music of the people.Of cause not everyone likes it but unlike pop, reggae, soul, hip hop and the likes, heavy metal has no delusions of grandeur, it is not plastic or manufactured, it’s bluntly passionate, raw, honest, heartfelt. Metal rockers music is an indication of what’s inside them. Its bloody cool and I will always buy and listen to it until I’m a sepulchre resident. This article first appeared here 

Before then, the couple had never had a problem before and he said love life was very good, intuitive love-making, but largely without problems.When he began to lose erections, he was utterly shocked and didn't know how to talk to his partner about it.As we talked standing on the roadside in the neck of the woods, his former female partner drove past us and couldn’t say hello. He said, you see, thats my former fuckmate, she knows I’m just a bloke by name, a paper tiger, a blunt knife, he added. At that point, I sough to know why he couldn't discuss it with her.Shockingly, he revealed he stopped going near her and withdrew from his partner even though he wanted to make love to her but couldn't and only solution was to put up an emotional wall.The bloke dream was to be a good lover to her, but he didn't know how to do it without an erection. Instead of going to bed together, he stayed up later and later watching Netflix shows and detailed to me how he knows about house of cards like your blogger does with Formula One.Before the storm, partner would be in bed wondering why he wasn't fancying making love with her anymore and one days she confronted him an allegation that he having an affair outside hence his interest in her. In fact he acknowledged that caught up with him as he didn't give much thought to what his partner was feeling.The bloke genuinely was unaware of how deeply he was hurting his wonderful partner. After they broke up, he was devastated by the split in their relationship and since then he had cried himself to sleep on countless occasions.In the end, the female partner moved out and their relationship ended simply because they didn't know how to tackle the erection dysfunction problem.He underestimated the demoralizing effect of erection dysfunction on his confidence and masculinity.Even if he has lost the sexual functioning of his ‘gun,’ a range of effective treatments like viagra will enable him regain erections and definitely gonna be full of strength like a youngie. This article first appeared here

Several factors came into light as well like family factors such as family structure, sibling behavior and parent pro-violent attitudes, academic aspiration and achievement, neighborhood factors such as the availability of drugs and neighborhood kids in trouble which is well documented among the teens from Geelong. Like my father used to tell me, kids associated with friends who engage in illegal behavior and occupational attainment end up being wasted. This youngie is no different. Not surprisingly, in his late 20s he is cooking drugs and arranging security for the motorcycle club.He is a very skilled chemist which means he has the capacity to safely make the amphetamine products, which is the driving force of the bikie gangs’ business across Melbourne nowadays. Listening to his story, there’s every indication that fast growing drug trade is attracting lousy youngsters to bikie gangs.When I asked him how he was recruited, he didn’t reveal butsaid unlike ten years ago, recruitment is skills-based and that bikie clubs provide a structure of trust, brotherhood and loyalty, and are run like quasi-military operations which makes him enjoy it most. He has business interests that rakes him more than $300,000 monthly ranging from drug trade, tattoo parlors, brothels, car wash and debt collection businesses. His view is that bikie gangs will grow in popularity going forward because jobless and homeless youths feel protected being in those groups that they believe provide the structure to help them change their lives for the better.The youngie reminded me that gangs and violence go hand-in-hand, they are like twins. Being a gang members, violence is a necessary evil he has to love and live with as it helps him to build status and respect, and to exercise control over non members. Youngie doesn’t care being the likely victims of violence and uses crime to prove his loyalty to the gang by committing violence against others.Undoubtedly, he faces dealing with future bearing deep psychological scars and immutable memories. This article first appeared here 

His thoughts are not mistaken, back in the days when my father used to accompany me to the barber shop as a tween, it used to be the case that an accountant, banker or lawyer wouldn't have a long hair or beard for work, but now people don't feel they are something they have to shave off after few weeks or straight from their holidays.My barber believes men are more knowledgeable about what they want while haircuts have evolved and become more technical.He revealed how I’m only among the three men clients he has who are traditional and the rest 99% plus often bring pictures of sports and entertainment celebrities they want to emulate, such as Drake, Kanye West, George Clooney, Arnold Schwarzenegger, David Beckham among hundreds others, some of them are even in their 50s and were no longer embarrassed about it.Listening to him, its clear the industry has changed so much, it's gone from men getting a cheap cut at a basic barber shop to really high-quality cuts and styles.Clients come in his facility and have an experience as men's grooming is really at the top right now, he is a busy barber compared to even a year ago. Apart from the dinosaurian types like your blogger who don’t fancy such trends, his clients come in every two to three weeks. In fact his barber shop feel a bit like a bloke’s club but its impossible to get scared to go in there, it's a real place of community and that's how it should be. While my types go for basic cut, those going for trendy cuts he charges $150 for a cut and beard trims from $120, stunningly his one-hour appointment costs $400.Of cause his skills are top notch but some of those paying such fees can barely afford a decent life but we live in a strange world where how you look matters more than saving for the future and his annual income shows modern men are prepared to fork out any money to look superb.Clients are willing to pay more because they love the experience, this is not a traditional barber shop, the styles they want they can't get easily elsewhere. He said there are like 30 different men who drive down from about 75km away every three weeks. Although he has seen three new barber shops open in the neck of the woods suburbs in recent months, he is not concerned with competition as their staff have not had proper training. His allegories clearly made me understand the evolution of barber shops and incredible explosion in bloke’s grooming but I won’t be joining the bandwagon.This article first appeared here 

She might not like him right away, but at least he’ll have a fighting chance, and not treat him like a piece of garbage. Having interacted with the filly for close to five years, I can say with confidence she likes a good laugh, a few rounds of drinks, night time drives, clubbing and adventures.Her country is known for its very active and night lifestyles, the bloke should be prepared for that.She is not a judgemental filly but she has particular quirks, and mental and physical characteristics the bloke will find attractive or otherwise. The filly could have made up about the bloke during one on one chatting and as they say words are equally important to female species. My word of advise to her is that she shouldn’t go into something like that thinking she can change his mind and even if he’s being honest about the fact that he’s ready to commit, she should take the ‘exchange’ as we used to say in Melbourne.In the past she used to tell me that after a day’s hard work, she’ll cap it off with a few rounds of beer with a good company. Imagine the bloke will be having a girlfriend with no reservations for such things and if he fits in, he will be in for a lifetime of fun and happiness. Of cause she knows your blogger is the opposite of what she’s looking for but knows he always have analytical encephalon of such stuff, hence the sharing. I wouldn’t even have qualified to be the type of bloke she’s hunting, as I have no politeness and gentleness imbedded in me, I’m nephalist, libertarian, conservative and troglodyte by nature.One thing the chosen bloke will be lucky is that his culture won’t shock her at all, at least not that much.The thing is, she has been living in the city where she works with an international firm which has different foreign employees as per the last time we had a discussion about her employer. This makes her more accepting and accustomed to multi-cultural filly. Also, being a country at the center of migration further helps her mentality. She is also a natural traveler, so she won’t mind meeting and befriending the bloke who is of different ethnicity and culture. As she told me, it won’t matter where bloke came from. Her wish is for him to be polite and friendly and he will be  good with her.From the initial exchanges with the bloke, she said there have been clearly differences but those won’t deter her. One of them is that the bloke is habitually indoors most of them but she believes they both need to get out, discover the world, take the road and oh boy, the filly love to travel. Recently she was telling how Paris, France would be her first stop in fashion upgrade plans.Old enough to know chemistry is an elusive thing when it comes to relationships, I wish the filly friend all the best in her hunting mission.This article first appeared here 

Despite hiding it from those close to him, from our interaction I could see he never really thought it was a problem he should address.He has become dependent on it and as those figures of 40 cones indicate, he does overused it to a point where he would cancel work so he could smoke as much as he could. On several occasions, Rasta would wake up early in the morning before his Austrian girlfriend so he could smoke ganja and would stay up late to get a cone in before bed.It is staggering how he has mastered to sway things in a way that allow him a moment of time by himself just to smoke. I witnessed that first hand when we were talking, he asked for a few minutes to pee but time he came back after like five minutes, ganja smell was suffocating.He even admitted to smoking before taking his breakfast and by mid morning he could easily have a dozen cones puffed. Rasta has this awful perception that if nobody saw it, nobody would know and thinks he isn’tdoing any harm but it is clear he is basically killing himself slowly.To this point, he hasn’t realized how much ganja is controlling his life, with him confessing to me that he purchases a minimum of three ounces of ganja every month, which cost up to $1200 mostly funded by Austrian girlfriend, herself a native of Vienna, his reliance on ganja makes him have high risk of short-term memory impairment, mental health problems and respiratory disease. Being an addict, Rasta will find it very difficult to quit if he does think so. Before our chinwag was over, he got anxious and nervous and within a few minutes his mood swung but I could tell he was craving for ganja, no wonder he has sleep difficulties and a reduced appetite, he weighs 54kgs yet he is 5’9 tall.My ganja neighbor condition has reinforced the fact that heavy ganja use and addiction are very real issues, and its high time those facing similar challenges get help and advise from the community or neighbors. Before we parted, I told him to re-valuate his long held misconception ganja is a harmless, non-addictive drug as it has impacted on him physically and mentally. This article first appeared here 

The boyfriend would compare her to other fillies, insulted and emotionally broken every time they had a fight. This was all done out of spite, and the worst part is that, despite knowing that it was out of spite, she continued to accept the things that were being done to her because she convinced herself the good outweighed the bad.As we chatted, the Dockland beau said she kept telling herself that it is what she deserved because she loved him, it was better for him to do it to her than to anyone else in his future. No matter what happened, she stopped caring about how she felt. At that point, I was speechless as its hard for me to comprehend why such a young filly would persevere all that.Midway through their relationship, she had started putting weight, caring less and less about herself and her health. When her fellow fillies and some relatives asked why she had gained weight, she convinced herself that it was passing cloud and she would find the time to lose all what she had gained. Filly’s life revolved around him and never uttered anything as she had convinced herself that unconditional love meant that she could do anything to him and would stay no matter what. No matter what she did, she felt his grip on her throat and didn’t feel like a young woman anymore.She felt like half of what she was despite having gained weight but still continued to believe that everything was fine. That she now believes was the worst effect of being in an abusive relationship but thankfully its over. No matter how much time has passed since they parted way, or how I tried to console her, she seems to have lost so much of herself. Her message to all of those who are in a relationship like she was in, she pleads they should get out irrespective of how much it embarrasses or hurts.As we concluded, she admitted that living in limbo relationships can stop boyfriend and girlfriend from moving on and can create false hopes of a reconciliation. Such misguided moves, she says everything is unclear and parting ways becomes much harder.To her, half-hearted separations are a symptom of a buffoon individuals malaise, the suffering is intense and unworkable avoidance strategy of the inevitable. Docklands girl says she don’t don’t want dig over all that painful stuff yet again but will date in future. This article first appeared here