ComfortablyCrinkly

Also kink that's normalized in most of adult society: Hey can I pretend to be your teacher and we pretend you're in middle school and you wear this skirt with an actual school-emblemed outfit and we pretend I'm taking advantage of you in this dynamic and holding your academic future over your head over sex? it's all pretend though i would never do actually this to a child

1. I’m glad you’re home from work sweetie, why don’t you tell me about your day while I put you in your diapers.

2. Come over here little one, I thought I smelled something stinky and I need to check if it was your diaper!

3. Is your diaper squishy baby? It looks like you’ve already had an accident.

4. Behave baby, there’s only 2 ways that diaper is coming off: when mommy/daddy needs to change you, and when they need to spank you.

5. Let me check your diaper honey, I need to make sure I put enough powder on you so you don’t get a rash today.

6. I think this store has a family restroom, let’s go inside and do a quick diaper check to see if you’re going to leak prince/princess.

7. You can’t sit on the couch baby, sit on daddy/mommy’s lap. Your diaper has more than enough padding to keep you comfy.

8. I hope your hungry baby, because you’re not getting out of that diaper until you make stinkies for me.

9. Bend over baby, I need to check the leg cuffs of your diaper, otherwise you’re going to leak with how much pee pee you make!

10. I think you’re just too little for pull-ups baby, let’s try again later. For now, let mommy/daddy put your diaper on and we can forget about the potty for a while.

11. Uh-oh, I think I smell poopies! Did you make a messy in your diapies baby?

12. Up on the changing table little one, you know the rules, it’s either a padded bum or a paddled bum in this house.

13. Now that’s a thick diaper you’ve got on baby! I guess you’re just going to have to crawl around the house now.

14. Do you want daddy/mommy to hold you while you make a pushie baby? It’s okay, mommy/daddy will help you get comfortable.

15. Of course you need to wear a diaper to the park baby, a little one like you isn’t going to want to stop playing to go to the bathroom!

16. Let’s practice counting by seeing how many diapers we have left before we buy you new ones baby, I think we’re running low!

17. Well, I could put a plug in your bottom if you aren’t going to go poopoo, it’s your choice baby.

18. You’re waddling again prince/princess, mommy/daddy knows that means your diaper is full. Come over and let me check.

19. I’m putting a booster in your diaper baby, and don’t fuss over it, you know you can’t control yourself on long car rides.

20. Sit next to me baby, that way I can check your diaper under the table during dinner.

21. I can’t believe I have to change you in the backseat! You must be just a little baby if you can’t make it through a car ride without a diaper change.

22. I love how these jammies have a flap in the back baby, perfect for checking for stinkies before bedtime!

23. I think I’m gonna put you in the crib for nap time baby, but not before I put a nighttime diaper on you, you’re such a heavy wetter when you sleep.

24. Hold still for your diaper change little one, mommy/daddy needs to put cream on your bottom so you don’t get a rash from your stinkies.

25. Don’t make me tie you down during nap time baby, you know not to try and use the bathroom. Mommy/daddy will change you when they come to wake you up.

26. If you’re such a big girl/boy, why did mommy have to change your diaper when you woke up wet today?

27. Baby, you haven’t made poppies in nearly 2 days, does mommy/daddy need to give you medicine to make it better? Let’s go to the changing table and put a suppository in your bottom little one.

28. I think it’s time to go honey, you always get fussy right before you have an accident in your diapers.

29. It doesn’t matter that you don’t want to wear diapers baby, I want you to wear them and what mommy/daddy says goes.

30. Don’t hide from me baby, I can smell that stinky bum all the way from here!

31. Did you just leak through your diaper into your pants? Okay, come over my lap baby, you’re getting a spanking for not telling me you were already wet.

32. Now that your home let’s lock up all your big boy/girl clothes, I think you need baby time for this whole weekend. Changing table, now.

33. Look at how cute this onesie is baby! It’s for crotch snaps so mommy/daddy can clean up your messy bottom, and it would go great with your pink diapers!

34. Don’t pretend like you don’t like your diapers baby, mommy/daddy sees how excited you get down there when they change you.

35. It’s been almost 2 hours since I changed you baby, are you sure you aren’t wet yet? I think we need to do a diaper check.

36. Cry all you want baby, maybe that’ll make you feel better for having an accident in your panties yesterday. It’s diaper time for you from here on out.

37. Hush baby, daddy/mommy will change you when you fully use your diaper. One wetting doesn’t cut it when they’re that thick.

38. I love it when you wet your diapers baby, it’s so fun to squeeze and squish your soggy bottom!

39. That’s your third cup of juice today baby, you must really like wetting your diapers since you’re definitely not using the potty today.

40. Don’t touch your diaper baby, if you need something come to mommy/daddy first, they know how it needs to fit best.

41. I’ll check on you during the night to make sure you don’t leak baby, so don’t be afraid to have an accident while you sleep.

42. It’s too bad you can’t touch yourself like mommy/daddy, you’ll just have to rub the front of your diaper if you want to cum.

43. I love the way these tights fit you baby, they really show off the diaper you’re wearing!

44. Don’t move a muscle baby, I can smell that poppy diaper from a mile away! Let’s get you changed in the nursery right now.

45. Don’t you love your diapers baby? They’re so soft and thick, perfect for mommy/daddy to pat your bottom over.

46. You’re not leaving that bouncer until you wet your diaper baby, end of story.

47. Oops, I think I put too much baby powder on you little one, I can’t wait to see it poof out the back of your diaper when you sit down!

48. Shhhhhh it’s okay prince/princess, daddy/mommy knows you can’t control yourself, that’s why you had your diaper on. Come on, let’s check and see the damage.

49. Rise and shine baby, let’s get you on the changing table right now, mommy/daddy knows that you can’t wake up dry.

50. Mommy/daddy loves you little one, diapered bottom and all!

This evening, rnt and I were lucky enough to be joined on our front porch by three of our friends who happen to share our ABDL interests. As I sat, conversing with these four other magnificent souls, it struck me that there is a myth about ABDL folks that I believed as a young man which was wholly wrong, and the proof surrounded me on all sides… but I never named it. It’s time to do so, for my own sake if not others’.

ABDL folks are not stunted.

To my right sat one of my best friends in the world. He is an intellectual giant with an advanced degree and a seemingly endless compendium of knowledge at the ready. He is an emotionally mature man with deep loyalty to his friends, a healthy and ever-more connected relationship to his family, and a compassionate heart that knows no bounds. He works in the non-profit sector and gives his time and often his weekends to raise money for an issue that really matters.

To his right is a friend I have known for nearly seven years, and whose story gets richer and more amazing every year. He is polymathic, educated in healthcare *and* finance, and able to slip in between disciplines effortlessly. He is an entrepreneur who has assembled a remarkable business, and led both himself and others to very profitable careers. He is an adventurer, a hiker, an explorer, and a giver.

To his right sat his fiancé, a woman with a doctorate from an ivy-league institution who is dedicating her career to reform. She is adeptly conversant in music, art, politics, literature, history, and just about every topic we can seem to throw at her. She is fit, active, loving and beautiful, and leads future PhD candidates through the rigors of discovering their own mettle as they head out into the world.

And to her right sits my wife, the love of my life. She is an artist, a writer, an avid reader and the best poet I have ever known. My written word pales in comparison to hers, and I struggle to recall facts and literary tidbits that she can access with little thought. She is an intellectual, a lover, a devoted daughter, and an amazing mother to our child, and stunning.

ABDLs aren’t stunted or broken. We are every bit the mothers, brothers, bankers, teachers, lawyers, entrepreneurs, baristas, lovers, poets, rabbis and doctors that you place your trust in, and it is duly so. We are humans, and we come with all of the glory, weirdness, complexity, fracture and beauty that humanity does… no more, no less. Are there people among us who have bigger issues than others? Of course. We contain our angels and our assholes like every group, and most of us take turns being each.

A theme of questions I’ve been getting from partners is how can they can get more involved. Specifically, being that taking on the role of the person forcing their partner to wear/use diapers doesn’t come naturally and so they never seem to do it.

I can’t stress enough how important it is for you to be in control of your partner’s diaper wearing and babying. Being accepting is a great first step but they’ll never really feel accepted if you’re not actively involved.

The good news is it’s not that hard and using some of the ideas I’ve already shared I’ve put together this article as a guide to situations which you can leverage to take control.

This can be learned and become natural over time, I know as I wasn’t wired with a natural ABDL mommy role.

Scenario examples where you can get more involved:

Partner not currently diapered:

They come back from work

- Meet them at the door with a diaper in hand and take them straight to get changed.

- Check their underwear upon arriving home. Comment that it smells like they had an accident (even if a lie) and say you think it’s best you get them diapered to avoid any in the house.

You’re away

- If your partner is at home or will come home and you’ll be away, leave a diaper and maybe some ABDL clothes out with a note telling them to get changed into this.

- Leaving for a few days? Hide their underwear and replace it with a note saying diapers are their underwear while you’re away.

- Ask for a diaper check over a message or video call, if not diapered, tell them to put one on.

- Require them to ask before changing and deny it until it looks near leaking.

They ask not to be diapered

Maybe they’re embarrassed, just not feeling it today or it will be inconvenient for some reason, you have a few choices:

- Tell them that’s not an option and they’re getting diapered anyway (this should be the default)

- Tell them you’ll allow it but as a consequence they’ll get some form of punishment. This should make them think twice so might be something like “you can wear adult underwear today but you’ll be getting a smacking and suppository tonight” or “ok but you’ll be diapered 24/7 for the rest of the week”

- Tell them to prove they deserve adult underwear. (This one needs a few hours spare so is best when they’re resisting wearing as they’re bored of it, feel ashamed, etc.) Your goal here is to prove they need diapers = they have an accident. Make them drink 3-4 large glasses of water and then say that they can use the toilet in 3 hours time to prove they don’t need diapers. Most won’t make it near that and will either beg to use it or have an accident. If you’re feeling nice when they ask to use the toilet, say no and diaper them or alternatively make them wet their pants before diapering them.

- A variant of the above also works if they don’t want to mess their diapers. Swap the water for 1 or 2 suppositories and set a time of an hour. The consequence of resisting and then being proven to need diapers should be long term, e.g: “ok now we know you’re not a big girl you’ll be using you diaper for everything for the next few months and then maybe you can try again”

It’s bedtime

- Have a diaper and some cute ABDL clothing laid out waiting for them.

- Ask them if they’re ready for bed and if they say yes, tell them that it doesn’t look like it and babies need to be diapered for bedtime.

On the way to the toilet

Stop them and tell them babies don’t use that and to go put on a diaper or better still, diaper them yourself.

You notice the toilet isn’t clean

If you go to the toilet after them and notice some stray pee on the seat, toilet surround or floor (all common with boys) or if they’ve left skids, then tell them off for being messy. Most importantly tell them that if they’re not grown up to use the toilet you’ll put them back in diapers permanently.

The first time this can just be a threat but on the second time you should enforce this and diaper them 24/7 for at least a few days but ideally a few weeks.

Underwear Inspections

Another great way to trigger some diaper wearing time is to inspect their underwear. After peeing many males leak a small amount so checking their underwear after they used the toilet can yield a small wet patch. Equally check at the end of the day but this time focus on the rear, and tell them that you can smell poop (even if you can’t).

Then use these findings to tell them they’re obviously too little for adult underwear and take them to be diapered. Again as before, this should last a few days. You can also step things up more slowly by going to pull ups first and then diapers.

During Sex

Experiment with mentioning diapers or them being a baby during sex. You’ll likely find this turns them on more. Little things like saying:

- “Do you feel like a big boy/girl not wearing your diaper tonight”

- “I think I should diaper you after this”

- “I prefer you in diapers for this, maybe we’ll make that permanent”

- “Will you cum so we can get you back in your diapy”

- Etc

Going; on a drive, to see a movie, a day trip?

These should all be used as reasons for your partner to be diapered. Tell them that you want them diapered as it would be easier and pick an appropriate diaper for the occasion.

For long drives or movies I’d recommend a thick diaper. For day trips a thinner diaper, which can be changed, may be better. Remember they likely will object to wearing out of fear or it being inconvenient but this is exactly why this is a perfect opportunity to diaper them.

They’re already diapered:

They say they’re going to the toilet

- Stop them and tell them to use their diaper. Likely this means they need to a poop but don’t relent and tell them their diapers are for everything. This is one of the most powerful things you can do to show them you accept their diaper wearing and be actively forcing them to mess their diaper.

They walk past you

- Try give them a “diaper pat” when you’re nearby or if they pass you. This shows you know they’re diapered and that you accept it!

- Stop them and do a diaper check. You can do this by squeezing the front and back of their diaper through clothing but ideally get them to expose their diaper to you. This shows you accept them and are expecting them to have used their diaper.

You’re sitting together

- If their diaper is exposed, make a small comment about it, like “These diapers look cute on you”

- If the diaper is hidden by clothing, do a small diaper pat or squeeze it to show you know it’s there

- Make a comment on their diaper’s state, like “you’re already a bit wet”, “I might need to change you soon”, “it doesn’t look like you’ve used your diaper yet”

You’re about to head out of the house

- Quickly check they’re wearing a diaper either subtly by lifting a shirt to see the waistband or even better is to get them to show you their full exposed diaper by dropping their pants or lifting their skirt.

- If longer than an hour ask if they’ve got their diaper bag with them.

They need a change

If you notice their diaper is nearing capacity you have a few options:

- Tell them they need a change and guide them to the changing area to do the change.

- Say that it looks like their diaper is getting full but you’ll change them in a bit. Delay it an hour and if they do leak tell them how you might need to switch to thicker diapers

- Don’t mention it but just bring diaper supplies to where they are and without comment start the changing process. Make it as if this is the most normal thing in the world.

They’re smelly / messy

You notice that they’ve messed their diaper, this might be expected or a surprise but it’s very important you don’t react negatively.

Some options:

- Mention it in a teasing but not disgusted way; “oh, do I smelly a messy diaper”, “I think my baby might need a change”, “Is someone a messy baby”, etc

- Check their diaper by pulling back the waistband or if it’s not exposed, grab and squeeze the back of their diaper through their clothing.

- Ask them to come over and sit on your knee. This is one of the most embarrassing things as it will cause their mess to spread and they’ll feel very babyish. Cuddle and bounce them for maximum blushing.

- Tell them you’ll change them in a bit. Making them wait even a short while shows you’re in control. For even greater effect, tell them that you don’t think that diaper is full yet so you’ll check them again in an hour. Or my favorite is to say I’ll change them but after lunch, dinner or some other activity that means it will be at least an hour and they’ll have to sit in it.

- Shower them with praise. As I mentioned they’ll likely be feeling some shame so tell them how good they are for using their diaper as they’re supposed to.

- Ideally when the time comes, change them yourself, but if not, be waiting with their new diaper after they’ve cleaned up.

You’re in public

- Lightly smack or squeeze their bum to remind them they’re wearing a diaper and you know it.

- Ask them if they’ll need a change soon

- Check their diaper subtly, this works best when you’re out of sight of others such as in an elevator or on a secluded section of a hike.

- Comment that their clothes hide their diaper well, or point out their waistband is showing.

- See a sign for a restroom? joke that they won’t be needing that.

At bedtime

- Prepare a bottle for them (milk, juice or water) and feed this to them in bed. This feels incredibly loving and should become part of your daily routine. It’s especially good if your partner struggles to sleep or is stressed.

- Insert an adult pacifier into their mouth before sleep, perfect straight after their bottle.

- Make a comment that you hope their diaper will hold all their accidents tonight

- Place mittens onto their hands (ideal for partners who like using their phone in bed)

- Give them a teddy to sleep with or read them a bedtime story.

During Sex

- If they’re diapered then it’s likely you’re using a vibrator or similar. Try also physically interact with their diaper at the same time to make it so you’re more intimately involved in it.

- Most importantly after the orgasm DO NOT allow them to change out of a diaper. This is a time they’re most likely to experience shame so actively tell them they’re good for being diapered and keep them diapered. If they do need to change it must be into another diaper. This is probably one of the most important pieces of advice I can give!

In the mornings:

- Check their diaper physically by touching, squeezing etc

- Make a comment that you’re glad they’re diapered otherwise they’d have wet the bed.

- Keep them in their night diaper and ABDL clothes until after breakfast or longer if possible (normally at weekends).

- Tell or encourage them to mess their diaper as then they can shower to clean up. Or force the matter by inserting a suppository or fleet enema.

- Re-insert the pacifier and/or give them another bottle.

Having a meal:

- Make them wear a bib. For maximum effect wait until a meal where they spill something on themselves and then introduce this rule.

- Feed them a meal. This can be fun!

- Make them sit in a highchair! These can be made using a director’s chair and an accessible feeding table and it’s worth the investment as it will make them feel very babyish sitting in an exposed diaper eating with with their hands or baby cutlery.

- Give drinks in a bottle or sippy cup.

Other situations:

It’s their birthday, Christmas or you just want to get them a gift

- Buy them a diaper / ABDL related gift and ideally from now on at least one but potentially even all of their gifts from you should be ABDL related. This unprompted involvement from you will show them how accepting you are of it. They will be delighted I guarantee!

- Gift Ideas:

- New ABDL diapers; buy a few packs of adult diapers. I’d recommend ABDL ones as they’re prettier and also you can buy a few different styles which they might not have.

- ABDL clothing; onesies are the easy option but to really wow them try something like shortalls, rompers, footed onesies.

- ABDL accessories; bottles, pacifiers, bibs, mittens or a new changing mat are great choices. These are especially good if the ABDL side has been something you’ve shy’d away from to date.

- Sexual; Some bondage gear like a straitjacket, bed restraints or locking clothing is a great gift. Or a Chastity cage will fill a boy with excitement and fear.

- Small filler gifts: baby powder, rash cream, etc

- As part of their gift, change their diaper wearing frequency or rules. “For Christmas I’ve decided that from now on you’re always going to be diapered at night”. “You’ll see I’ve got you some new diapers and from now on you’ll only be in these ABDL diapers, even in public”

Clothes shopping

- When clothes shopping ask them if this will fit over their diaper

- Make comments about certain items being good for hiding their diaper or “I think this might show your diaper a bit much”

- Comment on items being too adult for them or things looking childish as being perfect

- Make them wear a diaper out shopping so they can make sure things fit well

Grocery shopping or at a pharmacy

- Buy baby essentials regularly

- Comment on the baby diaper aisle that it’s a shame you can’t buy diapers their size here

- If you see adult diapers stop and look and ask them if you should buy some.

- Add a pack of goodnights to your cart if they fit them and comment that these might be useful for when you’re not in diapers.

- Buy suppositories, laxatives, etc

You have a vacation coming up

- Check they’ve packed enough diapers

- When they’re not around remove any underwear and replace with diapers (if you want them 24/7 for the trip)

- Discuss how them being diapered will impact the vacation. “I wonder if they’ll be somewhere I can change you on this day trip”, “Can you google if there’s accessible restrooms available at …”, “I wonder if I should ask the hotel for a medical trashcan in the room for your diapers”

- Buy a swim diaper if you don’t already have one.

Summary:

- Find reasons to diaper your partner even at times where it will be inconvenient

- Try increase the reasons and frequency of their diaper wearing over time. I’s start with 25% of the time they’re diapered and work up from there.

- Encourage and force them to use their diapers

- Interact with their diapers and acknowledge the fact they are diapered

- Introduce baby elements as much as possible