ColaPunk.

This… really isn’t a good way to deal with this. If you’re not cis, you’re not cis, and that’s valid! If you are cis, that is also valid. But distancing yourself from being a (cis) man because of patriarchy isn’t helping the situation. It’s putting the attention back on you (you feel bad because men have privilege and now your feelings need addressed). If you really want to do something about how you feel, how about researching feminism and becoming a feminist ally?

Answer from a surprising source: I feel the same way a lot of the time. I’m a white hetero cis-male, but I’m almost ashamed to be one, both because of how the ‘general man’ acts and how they’re perceived, and I sometimes even feel the need to audibly distance myself from 'them’. I consider myself a feminist and respect any and every choice someone makes regarding to gender, sexual preference, and way of life, but I sometimes get the feeling that I’m being judged simply because I’m white, cis, and straight, regardless of what my personal points of view are. So yeah, I feel the same way a lot of the time, but I try not to let it get to me, because I know that I’m not one of them.

well, yeah, i feel judged too, but i don't think that's so weird. i think there's ample reason not to trust men, especially when they're white cishets.. i myself don't trust 'em, in particular the macho jock type riding scooters. it's not really that i don't want to be part of a group that's judged, i don't want to be part of a group Í judge. a lot of the times when i talk with men i swallow lots of critique about what they say, how they act. sometimes i deliberately wear a macho mask just to fit in. (i might be vegan, but i don't like salads either, hardihar har!) i've wondered whether i identify as something else than man, but untill now, i haven't come across a term that suits me better. i call myself queer, but that's more politically motivated than personally, if you catch my drift. can't i just unsubscribe from the implications of having a penis, short hair and clothes from the men's department?