Adore/Abuse

Ideas and Tips

These tips may vary depending on what your sub likes/enjoys or doesnt like/enjoy.

Try taking these into consideration before anything else:

Always ask how they feel, does anything hurt?

Make sure they know they are safe and you care about them

Simply ask if they need anything, Reassurance? A glass of water? Cuddles?

Respect if your sub needs some space, doesn’t feel like talking, or just wants to sleep

After Care Ideas

• Holding/ Cuddling your sub

• Praising them: ex. ‘You were such a good girl’, ‘You did so well’

• Treating any wounds: ex. from spanking, rope burn, etc.

• Putting a cold/warm wet compress on any welts, cuts, or bruises

• Kissing any welts, cuts or bruises

• Running them a warm bubble bath

• Wrapping them into a warm fluffy blanket

• Massaging them

(w essential oils, sensitive skin lotions)

• Watching their favorite movies, shows

• Listening to their favorite music*

*preferably soft, calm music

• Giving them a treat they enjoy

• Carrying them where ever they might need to go

The Importance of Aftercare

Aftercare is not only very important but essential, for both vanilla and kinky sex.

Sub drop is how a sub might feel depression/anxiety or even considering their self worth after sex, especially BDSM/Hardcore Sex.

It is very important to be there for your sub as well as reassure them that they are safe, and you care for them.

This is also when you tend to any wounds that may have occurred during sex, like welts, bruises, cuts or rope burns.

DO NOT:

Immediately leave your sub alone or unattended to for an extended amount of time after sex! especially after hardcore/rough/bdsm sex scenes.

Leave any wounds received by the sub unattended to

Try to jump into some unrelated activities THAT CAN WAIT, without proper after care; ex. asking them to do chores, get ready to go grocery shopping.

Failure to comply with essential aftercare risks the trust you and your sub share and your subs mental security after sex,

1. getting dicked down by a man in a mask

2. being anally raped

3. a man fucking me anally while I protest but he gaslights me and tells me that's the right hole and I'm just confused

4. being double penetrated

5. a man fisting my pussy

6. having a dick deep in my pussy but he decides it's not enough so he also fingers me at the same time

7. someone forcing a plug inside of me and ordering me to keep it in the whole day so that "my forbidden hole gets stretched for him"

8. being forced to wear a tail plug and bark and act like a dog even drinking out of a dog plate

9. being carry fucked

10. getting eaten out while being tied up by my arms and legs

11. a man forcing multiple tiny things in my pussy like little balls for example and ordering me to "shoot them out"

12. a man taking a video of me while he orders me to say misogynistic things such as "I exist to please men"

13. and many more