Yesterday my dad told me something that I think maybe more people need to hear.
Youāre allowed to just do things for fun.
He told me that in this modern society, especially the United States, we seem to have this attitude that we shouldnāt do something unless weāre aiming to be the best at it. If we canāt sing like Beyonce or Frank Sinatra or something thereās no point to singing. If we canāt make the next big breakthrough thereās no point in looking into mechanics and engineering.
But, he tells me, it took him a long time to figure out that life doesnāt have to be a race. If you want to take up the piano when youāre a teenager or later youāre not going to master it. Youāre not going to be able to play to huge concert halls, but that also shouldnāt stop you. You can study a language out of curiosity and then drop the ball if you want. You can just get okay at something or even be terrible at it. You can drop it for days or years and then pick it up again and it doesnāt have to be a shameful thing.
Iām really glad he told me that because today I opened my sketchpad for the first time in months and just started drawing. And it looks terrible. But I donāt care. I donāt have the talent or patience or spacial awareness to get anywhere near good at drawing, but itās fun. It helps me focus my mind and nobody has to see it.
And because of what he told me, Iām thinking maybe someday soon I will take up the bass guitar. And I wonāt worry about how well I do, or how fast I learn, or that I havenāt played an instrument since sixth grade, or that I donāt have that much time to practice. Iām just gonna enjoy the experience. Maybe Iāll try swing dancing again and take a class because Iām not the best dancer but damn if it isnāt fun.
Yeah, you donāt have to be good at things. Itās not a requirement. Maybe that seems obvious but it had never occurred to me before. Youāre allowed to just enjoy what youāre doing. For me, that feels like a life changing revelation. I donāt have to be good at something to like it. I donāt have to put 100% effort into everything I do. Itās kind of amazing.
This post really helped me in the right direction with my writing and Iām very thankful for that
God I needed this today.
This is also really important in cosplay. You dont have to be the best, your craftsmanship can be shitty, no matter how hard you try or you can decide to not try at all because you're busy or uninterested in making them, and that's okay. Not everyone has to have to be the best cosplayer and do a bunch of shoots. It's okay. I've been working full time and simply dont have the time and that's okay.
















