You're getting mad at detransitioners helping other afabs understand our bodies do not respond to testosterone like male bodies do and sharing information about HRT experiences doctors don't tell us about. It's part of informed consent. It's easy to write everyone off as a terf, but shouldn't we be helping people understand this stuff isn't just cosmetic, it's medical? Aren't you also disturbed by the amount of teenagers who say they want to microdose T to achieve a certain aesthetic when they don't get to pick and choose if it gives them muscles or ass hair or a strong jaw or a receding hairline, not to mention the serious medical side effects bc T is so much more harsher for us than E is for transfems? Seems like you just want to complain without understanding.
One thing I don't miss about Tumblr is being told what I think and feel based off of my bare minimum reaction. I'll take the bait though, I'm feeling charitable today.
Let's clear two things up before I move forward, yeah? I never said I was mad and I never called anyone a terf. I'm personally uncomfortable and I'm allowed to feel that way, that's all there is to it. Instead of telling someone what they're thinking and feeling, it's best to just ask.
It seems we're basing things in personal experiences, so that's how I'm going to approach the rest of this question.
My doctors and I discussed that afab bodies do not respond to testosterone the same way the amab body does. This was evident to me because excess testosterone converts into estrogen. My doctors and I discussed that hormones were medical, not just cosmetic. It is called a medical transition, after all. My doctors and I discussed the muscles, ass hair, strong jaw, receding hair line and potential medical side effects. This was evident to me from 8 years of personal research prior to starting hormones. Personally, I didn't get the ass hair, receding hairline or medical side effects but I'm not complaining, y'know? There was nothing I wasn't informed about when starting hormones. Researching for almost a decade didn't make me an expert but it certainly put me in a position where nothing in my transition has shocked me. I had a list of questions for my doctors that we went over before I accepted my first dose of testosterone. I understand not everyone puts the amount of time and energy into researching HRT as I did. That isn't my problem though. I did my due diligence before signing my consent over.
Aren't you also disturbed by the amount of teenagers who say they want to microdose T to achieve a certain aesthetic
I have two comments about this. Firstly, teenagers didn't come up with the idea of micro dosing T. Often, they hear about it from someone that has chosen to publicly document their transition. I'm not saying this can't potentially influence an individual but I haven't seen anyone document their journey and encourage anything medical for a questioning individual. Second, informed consent goes over the fact that you can't pick an aesthetic with hormones as that's not how genetics work.
I don't have a problem with detransitioners overall. I understand where some people were failed. I do have a problem with detransitioners that use their experience as some sort of "evidence" that trans people don't exist. I do have a problem with detransitioners that take no accountability and simply complain. I do have a problem with detransitioners that lurk around trans spaces and intentionally seek out medical inconveniences in individuals on T. Sometimes it’s okay to be wrong about yourself and it’s okay to be angry about your personal experience. But it’s never okay to project that anger onto others who know themselves better than you knew yourself.
