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banning queer jews from safe queer spaces is antisemitic. 

deciding whether a jew is “good” or “bad” based on interrogation about zionism is antisemitic.

By accident,or by design, that’s what’s happening round here at the moment. Wouldn’t it be great if we could express our opinions without tearing apart people who have different opinions? If we could stop taking an aggressive and angry tone with people who mean well, but say things we consider less intelligent or worldly than our own superior opinions? Because opinions are all any of us have if we’re honest. There are facts driving everything that we’re simply not party to. Honest discussion is interesting. I don’t want a dash full of identikit opinions because people are too scared to speak up, or to see people disappear because they’re sad or confused and they feel those things aren’t tolerated. Yes, you can say what you like on your own blog. If you want to be an asshole, be an asshole and people can unfollow you if they don’t like it, but maybe we’d have a less exhausted, less toxic, less miserable fandom if you directed your energy away from attacking people who like the same things you do. 

To be clear, I’m not blaming Zayn as with print media, you never know exactly what was said sometimes. I’m blaming the article itself and whoever edited it, and how irresponsible it is to frame anxiety disorders in such a casual light. 

I think the thing that bothers me most is how easy this article/interview makes it all sound. Like “oh yeah, I had an eating disorder, but then I went home and ate some of my mom’s cooking and I was fine” or “oh yeah, my anxiety is gone now that I’m not in 1D. I’m perfectly normal.” 

Because the thing is, anxiety is NOT easy. Eating disorders DON’T get better simply by going home to eat your mother’s cooking (and yes, if you don’t eat for days simply because you want control, that’s an eating disorder). 

Anxiety is painful. It’s a constant struggle. It’s something you live with for your entire life. People who suffer from mental illness have real, physiological differences in how their brains work than the average population. That’s not something that just disappears one day. It’s a life-long issue. Sometimes you can control it better than other times. Some people have milder cases than other people. But real anxiety disorders aren’t something that pop up once and disappear forever once you remove yourself from a tough situation.

When you have anxiety, you are constantly working on yourself, constantly challenging yourself to face your triggers, constantly employing coping mechanisms to get through every day. And yes, there are good days. There are good weeks. But then there are really shitty days where you wake up and everything just feels off and the entire day is a mess. It’s not linear, it’s not logical, and it’s not fair. Anxiety sucks. There’s nothing simple or understandable about it. 

The WORST thing you can do for anxiety is avoid your triggers or withdraw from society. The article frames Zayn’s withdrawal from society as his cure. Whether he actually believes that isn’t clear, but that idea -- the complete withdrawal from the world -- will just make it that much harder for you to return to normal life. I know because I’ve been through it. I went through a phase where I couldn’t leave my bedroom, where I couldn’t leave my house even to go into the backyard. Your fears and anxiety grow the more you avoid or ignore it. You start to believe you are only ok because you aren’t in the situation that made you anxious, and then you start to believe you won’t be ok unless you continue to withdraw. 

The only way you can learn to live with anxiety is to learn how to change your lifestyle and build your mental toolkit to help you cope. It takes therapy with a trained mental health professional. For some people, it takes medication. Exercise and a healthy diet are also essential. 

But most of all, you need to get help. You can’t expect anxiety to disappear. You can’t expect an eating disorder to just disappear. There will never be a “poof! It’s gone!” moment unless you do get help. 

I’m concerned that this article will make people believe that if they’re anxious, all they have to do is live like a hermit for a bit and have some of their mom’s cooking and then they’ll feel better. I’m more worried that people who DON’T have anxiety will read this and become that much less understanding when someone they know or love goes through anxiety and doesn’t just wake up one day magically cured of it. 

I’m lucky to have friends who are supportive of me. I’m lucky to have people who will sit by my side while I panic and wait for me to get through it without complaining. I’m lucky that they understand that sometimes I cancel on them because I’m having a hard day and just can’t bring myself to do whatever we had planned. But if this article is your only basis for understanding what anxiety is like, how could you understand? How could you be a supportive friend if you think anxiety is easy, or temporary, or simple to fix? 

Louis at The Late Late Show rehearsal | February 13, 2017

800 bucks

said the n word and instead of apologizing he got his team to remove the video from the internet(x)(x)

said black people aren’t victims of targeted police brutality and then tweeted support on all lives matter when called out for being racist

has a teepee in his backyard

retweeted from an account called @N*ggaCommentary

copied lil wayne’s album cover without credit and compared himself to black rap legends by retweeting this, then mockingly said he “ain’t trynna be no rapper” when called out for it, and belittled the black people calling him out calling them too stupid to appreciate art

objectified a black woman in the pillowtalk mv by reducing her to a “tribal”, aggressive naked prop with her face mostly obscured in contrast to the other white models in the mv who are all clothed

called his overweight ex producer a “fat joke” during a twitter dispute

retweeted a joke where people were mocking an overweight girl and referring to her as a pig

cheated on his fiancee 4 times(x)(x)(x)(x) then dumped her via text because he wanted a “fresh start” for his new career, despite denying that he dumped her via text before because he “respected” her

said he only liked girls who are chunky in the “nice areas”

has cheated on all of his past girlfriends

blamed his ex fiancee for why he cheated on her 5 times in a song saying “i think i know she don’t love me, that’s why i fuck around”

made misogynistic remarks about 1d’s merchandise, made to appeal to young girls, by calling it “so girly and not cool" 

said he only liked intelligent girls, and implied girls who liked hair and makeup were not

was misogynistic when he called 1d’s music, which predominantly appeals to young girls, “uncool” and that he’d never play it for his girlfriend, referencing the fact that he’s a 22 year old man as a reason

reduced bob marley’s legacy to just weed by referring to smoking weed as “paying homage to bob marley”

reduced jamaica to “weed culture”

cheated on his girlfriend with a woman who he lied to about being single, was caught secretly recording that same woman without her consent which is a form of sexual assault, and that same woman said he made her feel like an object

defended his racist girlfriend when she was called out for mocking east asians by saying, “trust me.. she likes asians ;)“ 

+BONUS NASTINESS+

drew bestiality

liked a gross tweet bragging about how lucky his girlfriend is for “playing with his dick every night” for everyone, including her parents, to see

has a yin yang tattoo

was being placed as a priority over other black artists in his label, when he is a non black poc profiting off black culture

acephobic when he said that everyone has sex, that it’s something everyone wants to hear about, and that it’s a part of everyone’s life

A denunciation of the executive order from the JFNA (created from a merger of the United Jewish Appeal and the Council of Jewish Federations in 1999) would be of great symbolic importance, a strong message to Trump and the world that American Jews stand with refugees and immigrants.

Between the hours of 9am and 5pm EST, the number to call is 202-785-5900. Politely explain the reason for your call, and when requested give them your name and the city you live in. Remind them that one of their top priorities as an organization is to assist refugees.

If you are unable to reach them during these hours, you can email William Daroff, Senior Vice President for Public Policy at [email protected] and Stephan Kline, Associate Vice President for Public Policy at [email protected]. Tell them who you are, what city you are writing from, request that they issue a public statement condemning the executive order.

Be sure to let family and friends know to do the same.

The stop outside the terminal looks like this - exit from any point and walk until you find a sign like this one.

If you’re concerned about scheduling, general arrival times (which also specifies which terminal) can be found here. It’s not perfectly reliable, but can give a general idea of when the line (which looks like a bus) will be running.

The bus to get on looks like this - you should not be asked for fare.

South Station is the fourth stop after getting on at terminal E - there will be an announcement, it may take anywhere from 20-30 minutes, depending on the time of day and how busy the traffic is.

From South Station, if you have a place to stay in Boston, you can continue on the red line and transfer trains without paying additional fees. Make sure you ask your host or the guest services at wherever you’re staying where the closest stop is and what line it is on.

If you can get a flight back out of Logan to wherever your destination is, that’s probably ideal, but if you need to stay somewhere in the mean time due to the length between your flights, the T may seem confusing, but it’s a really solid and low-cost way to get out of the airport and to a place where you can sleep or pick the next leg of your trip. Cab services, especially during high volume time periods, can turn out to be really expensive, and if you don’t know how to use the Silver Line it can be overwhelming trying to figure out where to go.

If you need help with Boston’s public transport, don’t be shy about asking someone who’s in the same terminal or on the same bus - Bostonians can be a little icy, but the only reason I know what I know is because kind strangers have helped me get from point A to point B. Hopefully this helps get you off in the right direction - and feel free to directly message me if you need any clarifications (or if you are a single person who needs somewhere to stay in the Boston area - I have an extra mattress!!)

there have been 48 bomb threats to jewish community centers across the country over the past two weeks and the only blogs i saw posting about it were jewish bloggers. according to the fbi, in 2015, over HALF of religious-based hate crimes were anti-jewish, yet this stat has only been brought to my attention by other jews. a man drove cross-country to my hometown with an explosive compound to “desecrate” my temple this summer. this is real, it’s happening, and it always has been.

When you’re waiting for Venus Williams’ Australian Open match to start and they play Just Hold On to introduce the players!!! @witheringspite @intimisky @ainelen7 @justlookatthehearteyes