A Much-Needed Place to Share My Bullshit

call me a patron of the ass library the way I'm checking out that butt

Beckett goes to the Ass Library.

like i am constantly referencing this thang

I ask because every single time I've tried to talk about it to anyone that isn't a trans woman they get fucking angry. Which has caused me to have to just suffer in silence every single month. So I really relate to cis women when they talk about literally the exact same thing; being shamed by everyone around them their whole lives for talking about their periods, so they just suffer in silence every month as it negatively impacts their work and social lives. But I don't even feel like I can voice that I am literally dealing with the same exact thing because most of y'all react like you want to throw me in front of a bus for saying it, even those of you who act like your such big great transfem allies.

"But you can't call it a period then because that refers to MENSTRUATION!" is another one I hear all the time. This is incorrect. You use the word "period" instead of just "menstruation" because it doesn't just refer to menstruation. It refers to a period at the end of the hormone cycle where we experience a host of symptoms. And not all cis women experience all of the symptoms that encompass the period. Not all cis women get migraines, or body aches, or have severe depression. If a cis woman gets a hysterectomy she doesn't menstruate either! In that instance she experiences an identical period to what trans women experience. Yet, I doubt you'd insist that cis women who've had hysterectomies don't have periods.

All this to say, any cis women with an ounce of solidarity regarding periods SHOULD care about trans women's period symptoms. Gatekeeping about it is stupid. Hormones affect the body, and I don't see the appeal of pretending the uterus does everything itself just so that we can... I dunno, maintain a special exclusive uterus-only club? We get to feel superior to trans women if we can insist that HRT does nothing? Is that what it's all about? Even if I were pursuing exclusively selfish motives here, I would still much prefer the insight gained from trans people reporting their experiences over some dumb social status. I like knowing what parts of my menstrual cycle are caused by organs and what are caused by hormones. I like having some idea of what would and wouldn't be affected if I had a hysterectomy, or if I went through treatments to donate eggs. I can't imagine how head-up-my-ass I'd have to be to reject all data that comes from interesting cases. And that's IF I'm being selfish. If I care about my sister or my friends on HRT or other human beings at all, then it's not even a question.

Happy 10th birthday to the best tweet of all time.

I gotta hand it to him, it was a ballsy move but it worked out.

eventually i'm gonna run out of these. not today though

how it feels to message a friend who's having Problems that you can't do anything to help with.

I'm glad the facial expressions are coming across accurately! It can feel so absurd to say gosh I hope the torment maze removes some fire and rusty nails soon, but alas, sometimes that's all one can do.