Daddy space with my Pumpkin

- soft

- nice hugs

- thigh pillows??? Tiddy pillows??

Cons of chubby gf

- none

Pros of skinny gf

- fits in ur arms rly nicely

- ur hoodies are too big on her which is beautiful

Cons of skinny gf

- none

Pros of muscled gf

- abs?? Biceps??? Please???

- strong gf pick me up pls

- most likely works out a lot which is hot

Cons of muscled gf

-she can reach everything

-she can wear those gorgeous and long swooshy dresses without drowning in the fabric

-she still rocks heels, I mean, hello??? Tall girls in heels??? Yes??? PLEASE?

- can curb stomp facist easily

Cons of a tall gf

-none, you’re just cowardly

Pros of a short gf

- I can give her piggyback rides

- she short which means I can pick her up randomly

- she’s got a better angle for throat punching facist

- great at stealing my clothes and wearing em

Cons of a short gf

- none

Pros of a disabled gf

- she’s still her own independent person

- she’s intelligent, often times having some of the most profound things to say that people often ignore because they’re stupid

-she’s got a unique lifestyle that’s gonna be best for her and she’s gonna live life as much as she can as comfortably as she can

-stronger than any US marine

-hates fascist

Cons of a disabled gf

-She stims when she’s happy

-She tells you about her special interests

-She’s super knowledgeable about her favorite topics

Cons of an autistic gf

Not dick pics. There are so many beautiful parts of the human body that aren't genitals. Legs, butts, chest, arms, tummies, hips, shoulders...there's so much to feel sensual about!

- Find her tolerance limit: First hit her softly and then gradually increase the force of each slap if you see she can take it. - Always make her close her mouth before the slap to avoid her teeth cutting inside her mouth during the slap. - Always hit her in the jaw. Never close to the ear (audition loss hazard), nose (bleeding nose harzard) or eyes. Any hit above the cheekbone (around the eye) will give her a black eye. - If you wanna slap her hard in one cheek, then is useful to support her other cheek with your other hand. This is done to avoid a strong “whiplash effect” on her head. - Keep clipped and filed nails to avoid accidental cuts. -Avoid slapping her as a punishment/discipline. She has a fatty butt and some sensitive thighs that can be used for that purpose. Those are much safer to hit than her face. Use them. - Never slap her with anger.

A good slap puts a naughty girl immediately in her place. It makes her shut up immediately so it’s really effective against a back-talking girl. Normally it brings instant tears of submission. But it can be a severe tool, so it must be used with care.

Remember: Women are delicate beings and they are easy to break. Better play with your toys without breaking them… so you can keep on playing!

Cheers

;-)

Do you ever come into contact with someone even in casual daily life that makes your gut icky senses tingle? First of all, always listen to that instinct and keep interactions as minimal or as non-existent as possible. Second of all, i’m going to list ones that I can identify as red flags that you need to pay attention to. Not an expert, just someone that learned a few things. I know it’s lengthy, but if even one person gains something from this it’s worth it to me to post. Trust and safety is everything. Consent is everything.

They get you to do something you don’t want to do or do things that are out of character for you

They ignore your boundaries and requests. (Did you say no to something and they kept pushing, convincing, asking you to defend your reasoning?)

They will often get you to admit or agree that doing the thing you didn’t want was fun or good or worth it (aren’t you glad you …)

They ask you what you like or want and repeat it back to you as if they do as well. They are studying and parroting it back to you

They make promises and claims that sound too good to be true

They never follow through on promises. IF THEY DON’T HAVE CONSISTENT ACTIONS TO SUPPORT THEIR WORDS, GET THE FUCK AWAY

Engage in risky things and drag you into it (they can claim they care about your feelings, safety, whatever, but if they put you in any kind of harm they do not)

Try to make you feel weak or inferior under the guise of care and adoration (“you wouldn’t last out in the world without me to protect you, you’re just so sweet and innocent” actual thing someone said to me)

Make you feel bad for doing or thinking anything they don’t agree with or want

They are often described as “charismatic”. Listen, as far as I’m concerned if it’s charisma, it’s a forced or tailored persona to appeal to an audience. If it was authentic other words would be used like funny, kind, witty, sharp, down to earth, deep, and so on

They pull things out of you “do you love me? Then tell me you love me.” Especially if it’s very early in a relationship. Full stop.

Often the things you do won’t ever be enough, they will always want more

You feeling miserable and no longer doing things you used to love and feeling like it’ll just get better if they do x. (Spoiler: when you get close to leaving you will tell them what you want to hear, they will say it, and give you just enough to keep you)

They demand forgiveness

They repeatedly do the same thing that hurts you and promise to change without ever doing a damn thing

They don’t want you to mix with their friends, coworkers, family. They want to keep you from yours. They will also trash talk your people (“James seems too nice to you, I just think he wants to fuck you” or “your mom really just doesn’t get you like I do”)

Never trusting or respecting you but demanding trust and respect from you

Can’t keep long lasting relationships of any kind

They move often or change jobs often

Their compliments are actually meant to make you insecure. Real life example “you know, I usually only go for blonds” on the surface you feel flattered, but they are saying you should feel lucky they gave you the time of day

All of their ex’s are “psycho’s”

Never admit when they are at fault or only do to make you stay

They never compromise

They claim honesty is important (remember they rely on words to get what they want)

They are secretive

They lack consistency and stability

They use your hurt or tears as “proof of your love for them” totally fucked

They will be so good at gas lighting that every single fucking thing they say or do that is shitty could sound perfectly innocent from an outside perspective. Don’t fucking buy it. You are not crazy. They know what they are doing and they know it isn’t okay. They don’t care that it’s wrong or hurtful. They care about controlling you. They could justify their actions away. They exist and THRIVE in the grey area.

BDSM specific ones

Do they ignore safe words, hard limits, do they choke you or pull your hair without being properly educated on the safe way to do it? Are they under the influence while doing those things?

They often claim to be a master/teacher/ trainer for new subs. Let me ask you this, what are they going to train you on? You are already a submissive, that can’t be taught. They want to use you for their own gain and their specific way to get their rocks off. You’re uneducated, eager, and vulnerable. You don’t need to be trained. You need to be educated on what it means to be safe, sane, and consensual. And if any of that involves their dick, they are doing it wrong.

All of their rules are about you pleasing them

Any rules about your actual well being or safety won’t be strict, if they are there at all

In fact they won’t consistently uphold rules because they don’t actually want the responsibility that comes with the dynamic, they just want the control

They will be the assholes that use silence as a punishment

They will think that because you are a sub you don’t get a say.

subs using brattiness or tears or tantrums to get their way is also manipulation. It’s not fucking cute.

This is one of the most common questions I get asked, so first just know that you’re not alone in this.

The phrase “maybe I’m not dominant enough” makes me think you are probably making one of the biggest mistakes that new doms on the scene make. See, it’s not about displaying dominance. It’s about showing that you’re someone worth submitting to.

Actively trying to display dominance often has the opposite of the intended effect, especially when you don’t really know someone. It comes across as laughably childish and poorly conceived, an idea that stereotypical “alpha” behavior is what attracts submissives. I can tell you for sure that this isn’t the case.

Every submissive partner I’ve had has sought me out. I am not in the habit of approaching people. Most of them didn’t even know I was into kink or identified as dominant until they asked. It’s not something I go around broadcasting.

I was always curious about what it was about me, specifically, that made submissives look at me and go “that’s a dom”. So I asked. I’ve asked every single submissive partner I’ve had what made them seek me out.

I expected some of them to say it was about my look. I’m a broad shouldered, barrel chested, square jawed old fighter and I know that appeals to some people. But not a single one of them said it was my look.

I expected some of them to say it was about my presence; I walk the earth like a man who fears nothing and it’s noticeable. But nobody said it was about my presence.

I expected some of them to say it was my drive; I finished my MBA at the top of my class and have a reputation in my field for being someone who gets things done in ways most people never will. But none of them said it was about my drive.

The answers I got from all of them were nearly identical: They saw the quiet confidence with which I held myself. They heard a humble certainty in my words. They observed that I always did what I said I was going to do and always treated people with kindness, regardless of who they were or what they did. They saw that I lived mindfully and put a great deal of thought and consideration into the way I spoke to people. That I put others before myself. That I genuinely cared about the well-being of everyone in my life.

And I know this isn’t an answer that most who have this same question will like. Because there isn’t a big, easy “NOTICE ME” flag you can fly here. The way, the ONLY way is a long journey of self-improvement. Because all the cockiness or bravado in the world isn’t going to make anyone want to kneel. If that were the case, every Frat Bro in the world would be a dom. The only thing that makes someone want to kneel to you is for them to look at you and know that you are someone they can believe in.

I hope this helps.

I’m a newer sub in the lifestyle, I’ve only known about it for about 3 years and realized I was a little for maybe 2. I’ve never had a Dom, never been mentored by one, nor even really pursued one in any light (except maybe a couple little crushes, but nothing serious). I’ve been taking the time to discover everything I can about myself on my own, before I dive into it even further with a Dominant.

But with every genuine Dom I find, it’s not a bright neon sign that flashes “Hey, I’m a Dom” or “Hey, submit to me I’m big and intimidating and tough.”

Rather, it’s the higher level of respect each one holds, even some of the newer ones, for everyone. It’s taking the time to talk to you, interact with you, get to know you, without immediately expecting submission and obedience. It’s the gentle but firm tone they have, leaving you knowing that they’re steady and confident in themselves. It’s the care they have for you as an individual, especially if you get close, always watching out for you and protecting you but never flaunting it and making it known. It’s the patience when you’re not acting your best and you could be nicer. It’s the silly side that comes out when you just wanna goof around and make each other laugh. It’s the switch back to being serious when they have to be, without a moments notice.

It’s the stuff you don’t see, but we do. It’s the kindness, the care, the respect that a submissive feels around a dominant. No matter if it’s our friend or our partner. It’s always there, always making us feel safe and secure. Always inspiring us to keep bettering ourselves just like you do. Always making life just a little bit easier to live. I would take sitting in a room full of my Dom friends, just messing about and discussing whatever may come up, than with my vanilla friends. Because it’s that feeling that you get in your soul, that no matter what, you’re safe. And it’s the most comforting feeling I’ve ever had.

It’s not how you look, or what career you have, or how driven and passionate you are. It’s how you treat us, it’s how you respect us, it’s how you care for us, it’s how you love us. It’s everything you wouldn’t expect it to be.

A brief description of COMMAND PRESENCE for the Dominant ….

**The term “command presence” is a military phrase which describes someone whose demeanor, nothing more than their mere presence, leaves no doubt they are someone to be respected. As a leader, have you developed this type of presence? When you walk into a room does anyone notice? When you speak does anyone listen? When you give direction is it trusted, respected and followed? Do you inspire confidence and engender credibility with those whom you come into contact with? Are people not only willing to be led by you, but proud to be led by you? Developing a presence as a leader is far more than just the attitude you bring to the game, it’s about the combination of trust, charisma, character, integrity, knowledge and experience that separates true leaders from the masses. Again, to be clear, leadership has little to do with needing to be the center of attention, but it has a lot to do with being able to attract, direct and maintain attention when needed.**(By Mike Hyatt)

I don’t know if you mean just Domme mode or Mommy mode as well so I’m doing both. Just a few of the many things that trigger it instantly:

Brats being their adorably punishable selves  

Grinding up on me

Challenging me

Drinking usually makes me more Domme-y and more sadistic

Sick, injured, and/or sad angels

When rules are broken

Someone needing cuddles and extra love

When someone does something dangerous

Sweet little whines and pouts (Ex: “Mooommmyyyyy”)

Someone needing convincing to get the thing done

Kissing is great, right?  Getting that kind of blowjob where their pressing you against the roof of your mouth and grinding their tongue against the underside of your cock can be transcendently great, right?  Tongues make it possible for our sweeties to say the naughtiest, sexy things.  And just a little hint of someone’s tongue slipping between their teeth or lips when they’re excited is just plain hot.

Point being that tongues are sexy!  But!

If someone walked around with their tongue sticking out as far as they could, constantly?  Or if they sent you dental-quality closeups of nothing but their tongues?  

It’s like Dimitri Martin’s famous quip about the difference between a lover saying “yes, yes, YES!” during sex and them saying “yep, yup, yep, yup.”

I’ll sound really cute when I’m moaning your name

I’ll be more sensitive and easier to torture afterwards

I’ll show you exactly how grateful I am

I’ll promise you anything in exchange for permission

I’ll look really even more pathetic when my knees give out and I’m collapsed in front of you

You can tell me what a dirty slut I am for liking this so much

I’ll be constantly wet so you can slide your cock into me at any moment you’d like

I’ll be crazy needy for you giving you all the attention you desire and stroking your ego

I’ll be so desperate and eager to please I’ll do any dirty thing you ask of me

My brain will become mush and all I’ll be able to think about is pleasing you and the burning desire between my legs

This can be a difficult task, if your a 45 minute drive our, across countries, a few thousand miles apart… It hard. Anyone who tells you otherwise is ACTUALLY lying to you, because it is. Not that its any easier for your little, but you as a caregiver are responsible for your little… Here’s some help

RULES

Get a routine, it helps you both. 

Mornings try to call, or text

Not awake when they get up? Try a scheduled text message!

Check in to make sure they ate breakfast at a reasonable time

Do they have school, work, an appointment? 

Try to keep track and help them out during the day.

Check in for lunch and water

Other responsibility, chores, homework?

Night times are the hardest (in my opinion) 

Try to Skype or at least call as much as possible

Make sure they, drank water and ate

Maybe have them drink more or have a snack

Use the restroom 

Brush teeth

Pick out a stuffy

Maybe read a story or sing?

Track meals and water if you can

Have them send photos of their meals

Track water with colorful bracelets or hair ties, maybe an app

Bed time 

“Home work”

Something easy to make your little feel good

Remember your job as a CG is to help your little be the best they can, challenge their little side, their big side if they let you. 

Home/Life obligations

This can be family, jobs, school work, etc.

Personal Hygiene

Caring for a little long distance is hard

Lots of times I insist I don’t need to brush my teeth or shower

Make sure they do, it is important

Personal Health

Try having them walk or do some fun little exercise 

Communicate problems

Tell your little that they aren’t a bother, annoying, or stupid

Tell them how you want to know when they aren’t feel well

Fun way I saw have them tell you (Maybe even via photo) if its a bad feeling in their head, stomach or heart. Head being mental, heart emotional, and stomach physical so you know how to properly care for them

Ask for candy, soda, or other sweets

Inform (At the very least) when you go out.

They are little not a child, but being honest, when they don’t respond because they are out with friends, you will worry

Rewards

Later bed time

X amount of sweets

Extra free time

Less CG assigned homework

Think about allowing an amazon allowance 

Care boxes, with extra treats

Chore monster users (Motherboard for CGs)

Free-bee chores so they can win monsters

This may seem trivial, but on FB messenger, and now IOS10??? Send balloons, literally daddy does it to me all day and I get so exited that I loose it. 

Send virtual flowers, hugs, kisses,  or even candy arrangements

Write them a love letter

Send long paragraphs to them 

Have them do something they like

Bubble bath?

Walk around

Take photos?

Get out of punishment free card

Read them their favorite story

Sing a song

ESPECIALLY IF ITS OUT OF CHARACTER

Punishment

Time out

Done over Skype, but only over calls you know will be a while

Give them x amount of time, then with their camera on have them sit. 

Early bed time

Be sure to get notifications from all their social media sent to your phone to see if they went to bed or not

No sweets for x amount of days

Revoke paci time or stuffies

Note only to be done when prior communication is had regarding this and its okay

A lot of little’s use those are comfort and coping items, do not take those away. 

Extra homework or chores

Spankings

Done live over skype

Or video proof sent

Things to think about

Having a Baby Sitter 

Same concept of a real baby sitter, this would be someone who Platonicly cares for your little, there is no sexual or romantic relationship unless discussed prior to by ALL parties involved. Who lives near by your little 

Never ignore your little as a punishment 

Think of how much time you have now

Tell them when you will be busy all day

Still expect a lot of texts

Selfies to your little make the day easier to get though 

Purchase tickets when you can 

So you can start a countdown! 

Treat your little their real age sometimes to

Listen to them