aren't we all simply trying our best

This post is edited and updated whenever I see fit, though it will regularly have similar vibes unless absolutely necessary.

Labels I use:

- Greysexual/asexual/greyace/ace

- Gay

- Aromantic

- Genderqueer

- Queer (not only is explaining all of this a lot, I also have a lot of feelings outside of them that I can't explain too, so it isn't just all this; queer is so good for that too)

- Trans/transgender/trans man/guy/dude

- Polyamorous

- Queerplatonic (with best friend of 8 and a half years @theemptybloggercometh)

- Aroace

I also use helian, novarian, stellarian and singularian under the galactian alignment system. Feel free to look up what that means.

My pronouns are:

he/him/his/himself

xe/xem/xyr/xemself (pronounced zee/zem/zir/zemself)

ae/aev/aev/aevself (pronounced e/eve/eve/eveself)

Please mix and match them, thanks.

I am a disabled multiple trauma survivor, and I heavily use music to cope with my multiple disorders; I have:

AuADHD (ADHD professionally diagnosed - Inattentive Type - currently under consideration for a professional autism diagnosis)

OCD (currently self-diagnosed, but hopefully able to be considered for a professional diagnosis for it)

Addiction, anxiety, agoraphobia, trust & abandonment issues

Complex PTSD (professionally diagnosed)

Coeliac disease (professionally diagnosed)

Petit mal/absence seizures (professionally diagnosed since childhood)

Special interests: The Adventures of Tintin (especially the 2011 film), The Frighteners (1996), Jeff Wayne's Musical Version of the War of the Worlds & guinea pigs.

Musicians I like listening to: Avril Lavigne, The Birthday Massacre, The Pretty Reckless, Motion City Soundtrack, Delain, RedHook, Against The Current (and Chrissy Costanza's solo projects), Jonathan Young, Caleb Hyles, ABBA, Paramore, Carpenters, Queen, Honey Revenge, Ashbury Heights, Stand Atlantic, Asking Alexandria, Lø Spirit, Senses, LØLØ, Halflives, Lifehouse, Amaranthe, Melrose Avenue, Blindlove, The Haunt, Rain City Drive, Ice Nine Kills, As December Falls, Rockit Music, Steps, Busted & Icon For Hire.

I post about stuff like:

queer issues

social issues in general

selfies, vents and general life updates

a lot about the adventures of tintin (mainly the 2011 film)

memes

neurodivergent/disability issues

occasionally cute animals with absolute favourites of mine like cats and guinea pigs (and small mammals in general, but mainly guinea pigs)

my fanfiction from ao3 under kivancalcite (whilst I do have more mild and gentle fics on it, many of them contain explicit violence/torture/blood/gore/sex/non-con, so please be warned; 90% are also Sakhatin - Sakharine x Tintin - fics which is my main ship that I am indefinitely interested in, so if that is also not something you want to read about, I wouldn't recommend them, unless you use the filter to find the ones you want instead)

my favourite music (feel free to talk about music with me)

my fictional male crushes, usually villains (and a certain one in particular, at that; no prizes for guessing who)

very occasional media and film analysis that may devolve into passionate rants

What I don't tolerate whatsoever and will block you on sight as a result:

the basic dni criteria (racist, misogynistic, antisemitic, homophobic, transphobic, ableist, classist, xenophobic, fatphobic attitudes)

claiming that 'narcissistic abuse' is a real thing and believing that having a personality disorder inherently makes you a terrible person

abuse apologism and victim blaming

defending people like d*pp and spacey and other abusers/paedophiles/rapists

defending the british monarchy

being a fucking tory and/or brexiteer (let's be honest, you're usually both)

defending justice system institutions such as the police force (acab)

defending the military, its propaganda, and insidious recruitment techniques

being a paedophile/map/pear, whatever the fuck you like to call yourselves

being a terf/radfem/gender critical/transmedicalist

for that matter, also harry potter and jkr fans, please fuck off

being a nazi/neo-nazi/white supremacist/proud boy/anything to fucking do with fascist ideologies

supporting putin's attack on the ukraine and the idea that we should stop supporting and funding ukraine

supporting israel over palestine and ignoring the media silence and suppression of the atrocities against the latter

supporting ukraine's efforts but not palestine's

on that note, also supporting eurovision in any way shape or form

defending the capitalist system

in turn, also defending communist regimes and shouting down survivors of them and their atrocities

being a genocide denier

being a pro-life/anti-choicer (from a pro-choice and pro-abortion person)

being into true crime that romanticises and sexualises actual murderers and serial killers and dismisses the actual victims and their families

being someone who actively profits off of others' trauma and abuse for entertainment