Living in the moment and accepting uncertainty is a pretty central challenge for most people, though, whether their idea of security takes the form of true love, or financial solvency, or the next big career achievement. If you only know how to live for the future, you never feel satisfied when the future actually arrives. Or you can’t tell that you’ve achieved anything. Or you don’t feel “in love” enough. Or you can’t value the brand-new things you bought with your money, because you don’t know how to think about anything that’s here and now. You only know how to think about tomorrow. Being fixated on big uncertainties sometimes points to a more general inability to live in the moment. Being present is a skill. You have to practice it, and it doesn’t come easily for most of us. Meditation, yoga, reading, gardening, all of the above — don’t write these things off as the totally cliché activities of middle-aged women until you actually try them, and you slow down and work very hard to appreciate just breathing, just being alive. You are a thinker. You’re a worrier. You believe that you can simply WORK HARDER and somehow that will solve the problem at hand and bring you peace. Peace rarely comes from fixating on the future, though. Peace might come from talking about this fear with patient, smart friends or with a therapist. But peace will not come from running in circles within your mind, trying to FIGURE OUT HOW TO FEEL ABOUT THIS. “How to Feel” is not a puzzle or a safe that needs to be cracked. Feelings just ARE.
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