Discovering My Desires

My wife and I had been watching porn together since we were dating. It was fun to fantasize about and I have to admit, watching it, especially naked, could be a lot of fun. Both of us had spent time pleasuring the other orally while the other was watching it.

Sometimes she would sit on my lap, slowly riding me while we watched together. Other times we'd manually stimulate the other, and every time, it led to sex afterwards. Sometimes it was wild, and kinky sex based upon what we had just watched.

That's how we got started with tying her up, and even use of toys while we were having sex. She liked the idea of having two guys, but was too shy to actually do it herself with two guys, even if I told her I was OK if she wanted to try something.

We started watching more videos with threesomes, and even hotwife style videos. I'm not sure who recommended it first, but we both seemed to pick them out recently.

Watching one while she sat on her lap, I started encouraging her, seeing how she would respond. "Would you like a guy that size?"

"Oh, you know there's no one that big in real life."

"But if there was, would you," I asked again, rubbing her tits and pinching her nipples while she slid up and down on my cock, while we watched the two people on the screen fuck.

"Would you want to be like that husband, watching me getting fucked by a big cock," she asked, leaning back, and kissing me.

"I'd do anything for you," I told her.

"Oh yes," she moaned. My dick was hitting the right spots inside of her as she leaned back.

"So you'd fuck a big dick like that."

"That's more than a dick, that's a fucking cock, and everyone would want to fuck it."

"Even you?"

"Even me," she said, moaning more as I moved my hands down her chest. I moved further south, and pressed against her clit as she ground her hips. She was close to cumming...

I played with her clit a little more until she was finally cumming for me. "Yes, oh yes," she said over and over.

"I know someone you can fuck," I whispered in her ear as she was cumming. "He really is that big, and I bet he'd love to fuck you. I know I do. Should I call him over?"

"Yes, oh fuck yes," my wife said, over and over again. "I want a big cock. Give me your fucking big cock."

I love how my innocent little wife can talk like a dirty sailor while she's getting fucked. 

The thought of seeing my wife take an enormous cock excited me too, and I emptied myself into her pussy as I thought about what she'd say if she actually fucked him.

As we finished up, we went into the bathroom to clean up. I cleaned up a little faster than my wife, as soon I was standing behind her, rubbing her ass, and kissing her neck. I moved my hands forward and rubbed her pussy. I know she agreed in the heat of the moment, but I wanted to make sure.

"You're trying to get me started again, aren't you?"

"Well, I know you're always still horny afterward. So why not continue to play with you."

"But are you just going to tease, or are you going to do something about it?"

"Well, it might take a little time, so maybe I should invite someone over to help."

She turned and faced me, kissing me. "You're going to keep teasing me with that, huh?"

"I'm not playing. I think it would be hot to watch you with another guy, and I know just who you'd love. I know him from the gym, and seen him changing. The dude is hung like a horse."

"Like a horse, you say," she said, sounding a little interested. "And you're not going to get jealous?"

"I have only two requirements. One, I want to watch you. And two, you've got to come back to me."

"Well, I'd want to meet him first," my wife said, as I started to play with her tits again. "And for now, you've got me started, so now you've got to finish what you started."

I got down on my knees and licked her recently used pussy. I was the one who used it, but that was okay. I loved licking her pussy, and soon she was cumming on my tongue. As she did, my wife cried out, "OK. I'll fuck your friend. Oh, fuck, I'll fuck him for you," she said over and over.

I was glad I could be convinced so easily.

The next evening, I saw Jeff at the gym and asked if he would be interested, showing him a photo of my wife, just to see if he might need a little encouragement.

"You know, you're not the first husband who wanted me to do their wife," he said. "Are you sure she's interested? Are you sure you can handle it? I don’t want to be the reason anyone splits up."

"She asked me to talk to you. Of course, I had some help in convincing her, but she's ready. She just wants to meet you socially first."

We agreed to meet at a local bar down the street from the gym, and not far from our apartment on Thursday, with the agreement that if things went well, we'd all meet on Friday.

Thursday, I convinced my wife to wear something sexy. She was going to fuck this guy after all, and I wanted her to show off what she got, to make sure he was just as interested as I was. She went out wearing a short skirt and a semi-flashy low-cut blouse. Something she didn't wear very often since we got married. I convinced her to leave her bra at home, but she wouldn't go fully commando for me. Either way, I was sure that if my wife liked what she saw, she might transfer to me, and I could get lucky tonight, no matter what.

I had hoped to have time to watch a naughty hotwife video before we left for the bar, but we didn't have the time, so we went cold.

Jeff was already there and had gotten us a table. My wife and I slid into the other side of the booth from Jeff. We chatted casually as we all grabbed a beer and some wings. I could tell Jeff was happy with the opportunity, especially when he asked my wife to dance when someone put a song on the jukebox.

She agreed, and the two of them danced to a semi-fast song, and then the slow song that came on afterwards. 

They held each other closely, and I could tell my wife was trying to figure out if he was as big as I had said he was. She looked over at me and smiled, clearly she liked what she felt, and that was with it still in his pants.

The two of them walked over to the table, where I was waiting with fresh beers. This time, my wife slid in beside Jeff. I watched as she snuggled up next to him, and I focused on her hand. Was she moving it… like she was giving him a hand job at the table? I didn’t want to say anything, but then she did.

“You were right. Jeff’s hung like a horse,” she said a little too loudly for my taste. Luckily, it was fairly noisy here. “I can barely wrap my fingers around his dick,” she said, smiling.

With her free hand, she downed her beer quickly and pulled him back out onto the dance floor. They moved off to a darker part of the bar, and I strained to watch them. They weren’t dancing anymore, but they were close, and I could tell that Jeff was reaching under her skirt and fingering my wife in public.

She never does things in public unless she’s really turned on, and that’s when I had my thought. Why should we wait until tomorrow?

I watched as my wife bit down on her lower lip and closed her eyes tightly. She was cumming on his fingers right here in front of everyone. If she weren’t biting her lip, everyone would know what was going on. Luckily, I don’t think anyone else was paying them any attention.

I paid our tab, so we’d be ready to go when they got back, which was just a minute later or so.

“So, does he pass the test?” I asked my wife.

She smiled at me. “Oh, yeah.”

“So, I was thinking. We don’t have to wait until tomorrow if you both want to head back to our place…”

“Really?” my wife asked, a little too excited, I thought.

“I’d be happy to, if you’re sure you're fine with it.”

“I wouldn’t have invited you if I wasn’t,” I replied.

We all got into our cars and headed back to our apartment. While we were all a little tipsy, we lived only a mile or so from the bar, so it wouldn’t be too hard to get there.

My wife wanted to drive with Jeff, but I wanted her with me. She pouted a little, but got in the car without a word.

“You must really like him… or it, I should say.”

“Oh, he’s going to feel amazing,” she said.

I reached over and put my hand under her skirt.

“Do you want to see how wet I am?”

“I know you’re wet. I saw him fingering you, I just want to finger you as well,” I said as I touched her pussy. “In fact, why don’t you lose your panties. You know you won’t be wearing them much longer anyway,” I said as we pulled into the parking lot for our apartment.

She moaned as we went over a speed bump, and I pushed in a little deeper than normal. As I did, she reached up and pulled her panties off, going full commando. 

“You knew I’d end up like this. Didn’t you?”

“I was definitely hoping for it.”

I had her moaning, and she was close to cumming when I pulled my fingers out. I needed both hands to park in the tight space. This left my wife frustrated and wanting more. Something she will get in just a few minutes.

We walked up to our apartment with Jeff and entered. I wasn’t sure what was going to happen, and went to ask if anyone wanted something stronger to drink, but my wife had already leapt into Jeff’s arms and was kissing him while working on undoing his belt.

“She get’s like this sometimes,” I said. “I got her all excited in the car, and now she’s looking for some release.”

But instead of getting her what she wanted, I pulled her off Jeff. I swear I could hear her pout. But instead, I pulled her blouse off, and then undid the zipper on the side of her skirt. It easily fell to the ground, and Jeff was now looking at my naked wife.

As I was behind her, I reached around and cupped her breasts in front of him, playing with her nipples, causing her to moan. “She loves this.. And so much more. Honey, I think you need to loosen up a little for Jeff. Why don’t you sit on the sofa and play with yourself.”

“I want...”

I pinched her nipples, cutting her off. “Now,” I whispered in her ear.

She loves being told what to do when she’s super worked up like this. 

I sat in the chair that was at 90 degrees to her, and Jeff just stood where he was, watching her sit on the sofa and spread her legs. She started with a couple of fingers, but soon was working four fingers in and out of her pussy. She wanted to make sure she was really ready.

She stared at me as she came for me… for us.

“I’m ready for him.”

“Oh, I know you are,” I said. “Care to lead him back to our bedroom?”

Jeff followed her, staring at her ass the whole way, which looked amazing in her heels, even though they were her shorter heels.

As he walked into the room, my wife turned and pounced on him again. She went right for his pants and pulled them down, working her way down herself so she could try to suck on his cock.

When it flopped out, it hit her in the face, and she laughed. “This thing is huge. I’m going to love fucking it.”

“Some girls are scared,” Jeff said.

“And I wanna ride it like a rollercoaster.”

She put her mouth to his cock and opened wide, but could barely get more than the head in her tiny mouth. At that moment I was glad, for the first time, that she couldn’t deep-throat me.

Jeff took off his shirt and was trying to step out of his pants, but my wife was in the way. He helped her up, and got out of his pants, then helped her onto the bed. At this point, they were both on autopilot and I couldn’t have stopped them if I wanted to, not that I wanted to.

I watched as my wife spread her legs for him, and he climbed in between them. I sat on a chair we have in the room and watched as my wife’s eyes went wide as he pushed into her for the first time. 

“Ohhhh fuckkkk,” she moaned as he entered her. 

He had experience with this, and went slow, even though they had worked her up more than enough. I guess when your dick is the size of one of those energy drinks; you need a little more and just being wet.

I watched as he pushed in, slowly at first, letting her get used to his size. Then he started moving faster and faster. She was cumming in no time as he reached places no man had reached on her before. I’m sure our neighbors heard, of course, it wasn’t the first time they heard my wife getting fucked - at least they usually don’t say anything, although I’ve gotten a few knowing looks in the mornings after from time to time. I wonder what types of looks I’ll be getting now.

I reached over and held my wife’s hand as she came on his cock a second time. This time she wrapped her legs around him as best she could, trying to hold him deep. Luckily, he put on a condom, as she wouldn’t let go even when he said he was about to cum.

Watching him arch his back to push deeper into her as she was orgasming was even better than I had imagined.

As they finished, she released Jeff, and he rolled off her, finally sitting up and looking at her naked and used body, just as I was.

“That was fun,” he said. “I don’t think I’ve ever had an audience before,” he continued.

“Well, it was amazing to watch. I am so turned on right now,” I said, looking at my wife. “Think you can handle some more?”

“More,” she moaned at me as I stripped off my clothes.

Jeff moved to the side and watched as I put my wife’s legs up over my shoulders to get extra deep on her. I fucked her hard and fast. I could tell she was looser already having been opened up by Jeff, but I didn’t care. She still felt great, and she orgasmed for me once again. This time, it was my turn to cum, and I emptied myself into her waiting pussy.

Jeff was still naked, and watching my wife as I climbed off her, my cum leaking out of her.

“Oh, that felt so good,” my wife said. “I could go for that anytime.”

“Well, we talked about meeting up tomorrow… we still could,” Jeff offered. Clearly, he enjoyed my wife.

“Or you could spend the night?”

“I don’t know if I could handle the two of you for a few more rounds,” my wife said. “I need to recover.”

I laughed a little, as did Jeff.

“Then maybe we could try your fantasy of a threesome,” I suggested.

My wife just smiled at that.

I threw on some clothes, as did Jeff, and walked him to the door.

“When you told me she was wild, I didn’t think she would be that wild,” he said.

“I hope that’s not a problem.”

“Hell no. I love it, and I’ll definitely be seeing you tomorrow. We’ll figure out then if she wants us to tag team her, or take her on at the same time.”

Post #3 - Love the Hand Bra

@orlandomilf has an incredible body. We have been mutuals for quite a while. I am one of her first VIPs, an incredible offer from the once shy @orlandomilf. Her 23K followers know exactly how she has expanded her horizons by thinning out her wardrobe and exposing more. Let's get her to 25K followers!!

This is post 3 of 4 of the 4-pack I received. I purchased this outfit for her to wear with an agreement that I would ultimately expose her bare breasts for the first time here on Tumblr. Enjoy her hand bra picture, the closest so far to exposing her bare breasts here.

My 4-pack pics will never appear on her blog. Reblogs, likes, shares are highly encouraged. Help me expose my wonderful model. More (but less) to come soon.

Make sure you stop by and compliment her in this outfit.

Post #4 - Finally!! Fully exposed on Tumblr

This is the 4th and final picture of the 4-pack I received. I purchased this outfit for her to wear with an agreement that I would ultimately expose her bare breasts for the first time here on Tumblr. AND HERE WE ARE, exposed for the while world to drool over!! I've been looking at these luscious morsels for quite a while, savoring them to myself. And now I share with you all. Enjoy her bare breasts, here for the first time.

@orlandomilf has an incredible body. We have been mutuals for quite a while. I am one of her first VIPs, an incredible offer from the once shy @orlandomilf. Her 23K followers know exactly how she has expanded her horizons by thinning out her wardrobe and exposing more. Let's get her to 25K followers!!

My 4-pack pics will never appear on her blog. Reblogs, likes, shares are highly encouraged. Help me expose my wonderful model. I will be sharing more of this future score model on my blog in the near future, a lovely white mesh top. at least to start with!!

Make sure you stop by and compliment her in this outfit.

This is for a non-cheating “Hotwife”.  These dares involve flirting and risqué behavior only which are designed to increase trust, confidence, desire, appreciation, lust, intimacy and FUN in the marriage. NO ACTUAL CHEATING TAKES PLACE!! Make up your own “rewards” for achieving certain point levels.  

 1 Point

 #1 – Suck a lollipop seductively in public.

 #2 - Play naughty ‘truth or dare.’

 #3 – Send your hubby a kinky pic of you while shopping.

 #4 - Let your hubby take sexy pics of you flashing in public.

 #5 - Talk to someone on the phone whilst you use a dildo or a vibrator.  Bonus point if it’s one of your husband’s  friends or a male family member.

 2 Points

 #6 - Go out in public in a short skirt with no panties.  Bonus point if you bend over with people around!

 #7 - Wear a skirt and remove your panties in public not far from people.

 #8- Get your hubby a cock cage and lock him up while you dress provocatively all week.

 #9 – Role-play that your hubby is a stranger and you’re a horny, cheating wife.

 #10 - Flash your boobs to a stranger.  Bonus point if it’s “accidentally” to a male acquaintance!

 3 Points

 #11 – Eye fuck a guy. Bonus point if it’s in front of your husband!

 #12 – “Forget” to wear your bra in public when it’s somewhat noticeable.

 #13 – Wear a loose fitting top in public.  Bend over in front of attractive people.  Bonus point if no bra!

 #14 - Have your hubby make his dick bigger with a penis extender and role-play that he’s a big-dicked stranger.

 #15 – Tell your hubby he can cum only at the thought of you with another man.

 4 Points

 #16 - Go out without a bra on while wearing a sexy shirt with your hubby.

 #17 - Hubby picks out a revealing outfit for you for the day. Whenever you catch someone looking, smile.  At the end of the day, tell your hubby about it while he strokes himself.

 #18 - Flirt with another man while you’re seated.  Cross your legs slowly as you talk and see his reaction. Bonus point if you’re wearing a skirt/dress. 5 bonus points if wearing a skirt/dress and no panties!

 #19 – Flirt strongly with a girl.  Tell your husband all about it if he’s not there.  Bonus point if your hubby is present!

 #20 – Go to dinner with a low cut top and your tits out.  Put your tits on display every time the server comes to your table.  Bonus point if the server gets caught obviously looking!

 5 Points

 #21 – In front of people (strangers or acquaintances), say slutty things.

 #22 - Get a lap dance at a strip club with your husband watching.

 #23 – “Accidently” show someone a hot pic of you while showing them something on your phone.

 #24 - Get hit on and picked up by a hot guy.  Your hubby can “rescue” you at the right time.

 #25 - Go to dinner with your husband.  After the meal, slip your panties off and sit at the bar and flirt with other men as he watches.

 6 Points

 #26 - Go out without a bra on while wearing a sexy shirt without your hubby.

 #27 - Go out in public with a remote vibrator in you and talk to attractive guys.  Your hubby watches and controls it.

 #28 - Dress revealing.  Look at an attractive guy until he looks away.  Bonus point if he approaches you!

 #29 - Make up a story about getting it on with another girl while you give your hubby a handjob until he cums.  

 #30 - Have an anonymous dirty conversation with a stranger online.

 7 Points

 #31 – Time how quickly your hubby cums when you talk about:

a.   Fucking another man

b.  Sucking another man

c.   Him and a stranger (guy or girl) sharing you

 #32 - At a party, leave at least one extra button unbuttoned.  

 #33 – Make up a story about fucking or sucking another guy while you give your hubby a handjob until he cums.  

 #34- Wear a button-up top.  Hubby dictates how much cleavage is shown.  Smile and flirt with every person that looks. At the end of the day, tell your hubby about it while you blow him.

 #35 – Next girls’ night out, wear a dress or skirt with no panties.

 8 Points

 #36 – Hubby gives you money to buy new shoes.  Wear a skirt with no panties while trying them on while someone assists you.

 #37 - Wear a short skirt, dress or revealing top with no wedding ring. Have fun and see how much attention you get.  Share it with your husband as you stroke him.

 #38 - Have your hubby fuck you slowly while you tell him a made-up fantasy about fucking someone else.

 #39 - Use a vibrator while watching porn (any genre - your choice) while describing how hot the guy is or how big his cock is while your husband is forced to masturbate.  

 #40 – Fuck in the bathroom of a club or bar after flirting with strangers.

 9 Points

 #41 – Tell your hubby a made up story about having sex with someone else while he fingers you.  Bonus point if it’s a true story from your past and you let him know!

 #42 - “Accidentally” rub against a guy’s dick through his pants with your hand or ass.

 #43 - Wear a short skirt.  Do things like crossing your legs, adjusting your shoes, etc. to see if any strangers try and look up the skirt.  If you catch them, smile.  Bonus point if no panties!

 #44 - Dress sexy and sit at a bar by yourself.  Smile, flirt, bend over, etc. as your hubby watches.  Then go home with your hubby and fuck!

 #45 – Hubby dresses you as he sees fit.  Go out and do whatever he asks.

 10 Points

#46 - On a girls’ night out, send your husband pictures of you flirting and having fun with other men.

 #47 - Get 3 guys to buy you a drink at the bar.  Do whatever it takes to make it happen!

 #48 - Go to a club and dance with another man while your husband watches.

 #49- Go out without your hubby, flirt with strangers, and keep texting your husband giving him updates about it.

Ready for Sir 🔗⛓️🔒

Leashed 🔗⛓️🔒

She brought you along for her work party. Everyone is having a good time and drinking a lot, including her. You notice her boss and coworkers checking her out a lot now, as she gets flirtier as the drinks settle in. Her tight black dress hugs the curves of her body, making her the center of attention being the only female there. She is enjoying all the stares, flirting, and attention.

You remember how she talked to you of how much the guys flirt with her at work. How many have asked her out. How much they stare at her. How much this gets both of you off as you talk about it during sex. How you ask her to imagine being the slut at work.

So you dare her. “Your boss just walked into the house, you should follow him and go have sex with him right now”. She is drunk, and you know she won’t back down from a dare, but how will she respond to something like this?

To any man who claims he wants his wife or girlfriend to become a slut and to every woman who says she fantasizes of being a slut, I always ask them the same question: Does your partner know?

The answer is typically some version of: No.

People are hesitant to speak sincerely to the person they claim to love and trust the most for some reason. Not being able to express your sexual fantasies and desires will make it multiple times harder to ever accomplish them. So needless to say, both partners need to be able to express their sexual desires freely.

When I ask someone who claims they want this lifestyle why they do not dive into it, I normally get a variety of answers that try to excuse why it is not happening. I have made a short list of these answers and why they are bullshit.

1. Afraid to Ask- The first and most common symptom felt before asking the question is fear. This is not fear of the consequences of the lifestyle itself, but fear of asking. It is fear of the unknown. Fear of not knowing a reaction, of what he or she might think, of the possibility of losing someone for simply asking, of losing the magic of love. Let me tell you something, if you believe there is a magical element to love that gets lost when you tell your partner of a desire, then you are living in bullshit land. Not only are you keeping yourself trapped in this bullshit land, but you are keeping your partner in there with you, forever keeping them “in love” with a fictional version of yourself with no sexual desires. Step up and speak, a true partner values the truth. If you expressed a sexual desire and your partner left, then you two are not designed to be together, plain and simple. This is not to say your partner should fulfill your needs, but if your partner can not accept your desires for what they are, desires, then that partner can’t accept you. Plain and simple, fear to ask is bullshit. (I will cover a few warm-up strategies to overcoming the fear of asking in my next post).

2. She Won’t Be Into It- Another excuse for not even asking is a belief that the partner will not be into it. Sometimes, a person will ask and the partner really will not be into it....yet. This is normal, however, this is not where it ends. Now that your partner knows of your fantasy, there are many ways in which it can be roleplayed or tease you on the fantasy without actually becoming a slutwife. For example, she can go out with you one night wearing less clothing than normal, talk to you about her hottest sexual experience during while jerking you off, dance with another guy while you watch, chat with another guy online, or pretend she is having sex with her favorite movie crush during sex. The possibilities are endless. The point of telling your partner your fantasies is getting her aligned with your needs and helping her adjust to better please you. While roleplaying, she may discover she becomes curious about this lifestyle as well, but you never get there until you start.

3. Is It Cheating?-Another concept that keeps people from living their dreams is comparing the lifestyle to cheating. This could bot be further from reality, as they stand two polar ends apart. Being in a slutwife style relationship is all about love, trust, openess, maturity, experimentation, adventure, desire, respect, boundaries, happiness, and putting your partner’s needs above your own at times. Cheating is lying, deception, disrespect, manipulation, lack of trust, and only caring about yourself. While cheating could be an exciting aspect of a slutwife lifestyle we will cover later, it is not the foundation of a relationship. There is only one thing in common that cheating and hotwifing have in common, sleeping with other men, and that is it. Everything else is as different as it can get. Anyone who claims the two terms are the same is simply brainwashed by a bullshit concept of society’s monogamous relationship fantasy and does not understand that a real relationship goes beyond who a person sleeps with.

4. She Will Think I Don’t Love Her-This fear comes up both during the asking your partner phase and during the going through with it phase. People assume that asking your partner to sleep with other people will make then think you don’t love them. I want you to rethink this bullshit concept. If your partner truly questions your love, ask them, “Why would I share such a deep secret of mine with you if I did not love and trust you completely? Why would I want to experience something like this with you if I did not love you and trust you? You can then proceed to clarify that your love for her is so strong and your trust is so deep that you feel free to share your most intimate secret and know that if she would go through with it, your love for her can only be enhanced knowing she had a sexual experience she enjoyed and still came back to you for true love.

5. What If She Falls in Love- This is the another concept that gets in the way of people living their dreams. What if she falls in love. The assumption here must be that the only people that have sex are in love, or that people that have sex stay in love forever. That is obviously bullshit. But let’s think this out for a minute because it is natural for two human beings that have a pleasurable experience together to have a form of “feeling” for each other. This “feeling” can be compared to puppy love middle schoolers feel for a different kid every month. This type of feeling is possible and often leads to an amazing hotwife experience. But here is question to you, so what? Is love limited? Do you love your mother but not your father? Do you only love one child but stopped loving when you had another? Do you only love one brother? Most people will experience love for different people throughout their lives, without taking away the love from another. The “puppy love” a person may experience can be an infatuation with the excitement of something different and new, and not the deep love for the person themselves. This puppy love is easily replaceable over time with something else new and exciting, unlike the deep love a husband and wife in a good relationship develop, or a mother and child develop which goes on forever. The key takeaway I want you to get from all this is that even if she fell in love with another man, which is highly unlikely, it will not be an issue. Love is not limited. If she loves you the way you love her, your place in her life is set forever, loving another man does not take away from your love, it enhances it due to the fact that she is sharing an intimate experience with you and is loving you all throughout it. In a solid hotwife relationship, she may experience feelings for different men that will come and go, but you will be the only one with a true deep love that she was able to share it all with.

6. The Other Man Is Better- This concept is a fear of jealousy upon realizing that the wife is experiencing something better than what you provide. This could be, the guy has a bigger dick, is more handsome, muscular, can fuck all night, makes her laugh more, better dancer, has more money, etc. Could this happen? Of Course. Odds are, that there is a guy out there who is better than you for any given area. Unless you are Jeff Bezos, chances are there is someone richer. Unless you are Mandingo, some guy out there has a bigger dick. Unless you are Ronnie Coleman, someone is more muscular. Unless you are Brad Pitt, someone out there is more handsome. Thinking your wife should not date guys that are better than you at something is absurd and greedy. You want your wife to experience the best in each man and still come back to you. Unless you are one of the above mentioned men, she did not marry you for that characteristic, so you will be fine. The best part is, all these guys that are better than you will likely be looking to fuck your wife when they realize she is a slut. Your wife will be intrigued and she will likely want to experience them as well. It is your job to overcome your jealousy and let her enjoy the experience. When she comes back to you after experiencing all that, you will realize she still loves you and it goes beyond certain traits that other men are better at.

7. What If She Got Addicted?- Addiction of any kind is bad, mainly because the term would mean she has no control and can’t stop. The concept that she will become addicted and lose all control because she is a slutwife is absurd. Has she never had sex before or something? Has she never slept with another man? Has she never seen porn? Has she never seen a big cock? Has she never loved another man? Has she never had an orgasm? Why would she lose all control all of a sudden? If she begins living out the lifestyle, chances are she will get to experience sex in many different ways that she will enjoy, but that does not mean she is going to throw everything else in her life away. While there is such a thing as sexual addiction, the important thing is that she can keep her life balanced and under control, and that is where the husband comes in. Ultimately, a good husband should want his wife to live her sexual life with so much pleasure that she borders on being a sex addict, but maintains her life under control as any other woman does. Women are often far better at keeping things under control then men, so the odds of losing control are slim. A couple can always plan on dialing back on sexual activity for some time to bring things back to normality if things ever went too far. Fear of addiction is bullshit excuse not to try it.

8. What if Someone Finds Out-Fear of someone finding out is one of the most common barriers to overcome by both the wife and husband. Who is this someone? It could be anyone. From parents, children, friends, coworkers, etc., there is usually a fear of someone possibly finding out about the lifestyle and living life outside of society’s normal expectations. There are many precautions that can be taken to keep things as secret as possible, like doing things while on vacation in another land, of hooking up with people from another city, we will talk more about those options in a later post. The important thing to cover today is the possibility of someone finding out. So what? While it may not be expected, it is far from being a crime when a couple lives the slutwife lifestyle. It is actually become much more acceptable nowdays and will continue to become more mainstream with time. If someone you know did find out and asked about it, there is no obligation to explain yourself. However, it is best to approach the situation calmly and say that it is a fun sexual adventure you both agreed to explore, and that it has been very rewarding. That should clear up any concern for cheating or something being wrong in the relationship. Most people outside of close family would likely never mention it to you even if they knew for fear of causing drama.

There are only 2 ways that a wife can become a slutwife.

The first is initiated internally, within her. Internal drive is something inside of her makes her desire to sleep with another man, to have attention from another, to seek a relationship outside of marriage. Internal drive is often the cause of cheating and also a great indicator of slutwife potential. Internal drive is absolutely necessary for a good slutwife.

The second is initiated by external influence. External influence is done by things that influence her internal drive and eventually make her seek the attention of another man and look at the possibility of sleeping with another. External influence can lead to cheating when the husband is not involved, but can lead to a very good slutwife/cuck style relationship when the husband is very involved.

That being said, you can safely assume that her internal drive needs to be kicked in, while simultaneously being a big part of her external influence, in order to get the slutwife of your dreams.

Now, there is only one realistic way of activating her internal drive and being her biggest external influence, you have to ask her to be your slutwife. Why? Because if her internal drive was raging, she would have asked you or already be cheating on you. If that is the case, you don’t need much from this post. For everyone else, it will be up to you to make it happen. You have to push forward.

When people ask me during private conversations, this is usually the biggest hurdle they have trouble getting over. How to ask?

Asking out of the blue can be very intimidating to most, because that is what most envision asking the question. In reality, there are many ways to lead-up to asking the question and warm her up to the idea. Here we will cover a few.

1. Let’s Watch Porn - Contrary to what some think, women can enjoy porn as much as men, they just perceive things differently. We have a natural curiosity towards sexuality and anything taboo, so exploring through porn is very common. Set up some time with your partner to explore porn together. Find out what she is curious about, see if there is something on her mind. If she mentions something, explore that topic. If she doesn’t know, guide her towards your goals. Topics like hotwife, threesome, size queens, and BBC are good starting points. When watching a video on a hotwife, mention how hot you think the scenario is and how much it turns you on. If watching BBC type video, mention how hot you think it looks watching a white woman being a slut for a black man, how black men seem better equipped for porn, and how they seem to have better endurance/stamina. Remember, regardless of the topic, only explore one topic at a time, give her mind time to absorb the idea. Towards the end of the video when you are both feeling hot, mention how you think she could do things better than the girl in the video, to give her a perspective of herself in that situation. Finish by giving her some very pleasurable sex and saying that you can’t wait to set up another night like that. This type of activity will open up the floor for bringing up the idea of her having sex with another man after doing it a few times.

2. Someone hit on her - If you are with a woman who’s looks rate anything above a 1, chances are she will be getting hit on at some point. You may witness it, or she may tell you about it some time later. The point is to be excited about it when she tells you, and ask her to give you every detail. You can then proceed to eat her out and give her a proper orgasm as you mention little suggestions where she could have done more. (Little things are her smiling more when she gets hit on, giving her phone number, adding him on facebook, wearing something slightly more revealing, etc.) This will teach her that you are cool with her having attention from other men, it turns you on, and that you think about her taking it slightly further. By eating her out while talking about it, it aligns these experiences with other good and pleasurable experiences, thus building a correlation between being hit on and pleasure. This opens up the doors for her to seek more attention and eventually pushing further. As far as asking her to be a slutwife when the time comes, you can go back to one of these scenarios and mention how you imagine her going all the way, how hot the idea sounds, and what are her thoughts on doing it in real life.

3. Asking her to Show Off More - You can always ask your wife to show off a bit more, then compliment her on how hot she looks. This doesn’t mean asking her to go full slutmode right off the bat (we will cover more on how to get her there in another post). You will simply ask her to show off a bit more. For example, have her pull her blouse down to show off a bit more cleavage, or let her skirt ride a bit higher than normal. Go out with her and mention how sexy she looked, how you caught a few guys staring, and how much it turns you on. This will no doubt bring a “Aren’t you jealous?” Your reply will be that you are not because you love her, know that she is yours, and that it turns you on when other guys admire your sexy wife. Tell her how proud you are to show off how sexy she is and that you do not believe you should keep such a beauty all to yourself. Over time, as you get her to dress sexier and she becomes more comfortable, this will set things up for the slutwife topic (More on that soon).

4. The Sex Shop Experience-Another way to ease her into talking about her becoming a slutwife is by taking her to an adult store. Not into a cheap small store that looks raunchy, go into an adult megaplex with a variety of stuff. The two of you will go on a date to explore different sexual kinks and to simply look around. While there, see if she is curious about anything in particular, costumes, toys, bondage, etc. and go with it. No one should know her kinks better than you, so go with it. If she is following your lead, start by going to the dvd section and explore your fantasy. Show her some BBC/3 some/ or slutwife DVD and tell her how it looks really interesting. Ask her what she thinks about it. Move on to the costumes and ask her which she finds sexiest. Go with her answers and suggest something sexy yourself, than have her visualize herself wearing it. If its something she could pull off on Halloween, mention how she should wear it on Halloween and turn some heads. Go to the toys section and see if any catch her interest. Go with it. Then point out some large dildos as well. Have her hold them and ask her how she thinks one would feel inside of her if she took her time to ease it in. Tell her how much it would turn you on to see her take one. You should aim to buy something that interests her from each section, to show her how much you lover her sexuality and want her to explore it. At the same time, you are dropping small hints as to your desires and feeling out her interests.

5. Who Would You Sleep With?-You will ask the question that if she could have sex with any one person in the world with zero consequences, who it would be. She may likely choose a celebrity. If she can speak about it openly, ask her to name another. Have her pick out about 3. If she insists that she couldn’t, then tell her that if she had to, due to a life and death situation, who would she choose. You can also apply a world catastrophe situation where you are gone and she is needed yo help repopulate the world and she has her pick of men. The only point here is to get her to talk about how she would have sex with other men. She may counter by asking you who you would sleep with. You will respond with a girl you have seen in porn as a hotwife, going black, doing a gangbang, etc. and you will say that because you would think back and ask her about that scene she did and it would really turn you on.

6. What is your Fantasy?- Last but not least, ask her what her fantasies are. It is important that you know her fantasies and curiosities if you don’t already. If you have done some of the stuff above, you might have done enough to get her curious about the hotwife scenarios, BBC, huge cocks, threesomes, etc. if not, just get to know her fantasies. When she asks about yours, this is where you tell her. Your fantasy is for her to be a sexy slutwife. Remember that you are not demanding anything, you are informing how hot you find the idea. (Go back to post #1) there is a chance she may be into it and willing to explore it further. If not, tell her how you would still like to roleplay that along with her own fantasies.

Today we will continue talking about getting past the fantasy. It is important to note that this post is a continuation of the previous post “Getting Past The Fantasy Part 1) and should be read after that one. The suggestions here should be used if the wife is excited about the idea of the lifestyle and is enjoying the elements proposed in the previous post, (ex. sexting with him while you fuck her), but is still insecure or needs further encouragement to go through with it.

Also important to note, that these suggestions take place after the wife has confessed to him that she has an attraction and/or she has fantasized about him, since that will bring an entirely different dynamic to her relationship with another man.

1. Choose The Path - It is important to determine what approach the two of you would take regarding her pursuit of a possible relationship with another man, meaning the how she will justify being married but pursuing an interest with another man. In other words, will she be upfront and tell him this is a fantasy for you, or will she play the role of a cheating wife for him. (I will cover more on the Pros and Cons of each road taken in a later post). For today’s purpose, I do not recommend that she pretends to be single at all, since that could cause problems later. For today’s purpose, I recommend she is upfront with the man she has an interest in and tells him this is a fantasy for her husband as well and that the husband is aware, this will line up things well for the future.

2. The First Date - The wife should be encouraged to accept a date with her other man (we will refer to him as “The Bull” from this point forward). This date is post-confessing her crush and sexual interest date, and is considered the first date regardless if she has gone on dates before confessing. As stated earlier, the dynamics will change when she confesses a sexual interest, so it will be like a new beginning. Because she is building up her confidence in herself and your attitude towards this, you should agree if she tells you that she will not be having sex with him or pursue anything on that date. Do not demand that she does anything, getting her to agree to date him alone is enough for today. She may also choose to simply go out to eat someplace in public and make it clear to the Bull she will not be having sex with him, if she needs to. A good Bull will understand that your wife still needs more time to “break in” and should not be trying to rush her. You should encourage her to show off her body as much as she is comfortable with, but do not push her too much. Even if she is not planning on having sex, ensure that you show her you are going to put condoms in her purse, just in case she needs them that day or any other day. This shows her you are ready for her to move forward, even if she is not yet. Post-date, you may be very curious on how things went but don’t rush her. Get a feel of how much she wants to talk about it and show her how excited you are for her. Finish by giving her some great sex. (Note: It is likely she did not have sex with him yet, you should still be very excited she made it this far, so thank her. If she did have sex with him on the first date, you have your a slutwife and do not need the rest of this post).

3. Date Escalation - After the first date, assuming the Bull did a good job keeping her interested, encourage her to go out with her Bull to different places. For example, a good second date could be her asking her Bull to take her to the movies, where they can spend time in the dark and close proximity and likely he will hug or touch her. Dancing is also a good option, where he will get her to have fun, moving her body, and touching her body liberally. The beach is another good option, where she can wear a small bikini and show off her body, maybe even let him rub sun lotion on her. Ideally, she should start dating her Bull regularly in environments where she shows off her body, is close to him, and he can touch her. (We will cover more on Slutwife Dating Places in a later post). The more time she gets to spend with him alone knowing they are both into each other, the more comfortable she will become with everyone’s role in this relationship, the more she will relax around him.

4. Have him decide what she should wear to the next date - The next step will be about your wife surrendering more control to him. You will take your wife shopping and for sexy clothes while she texts with her Bull. Ask her to get his opinion on her sexy clothes by sending him pictures as she tries stuff on. This includes dresses, skirts, shorts, tops, bikinis, and lingerie. Give her time to shop and let her have fun trying different stuff on. Her her take pictures for him if needed. Buy her the the stuff that her Bull finds the sexiest on her, including outerwear and underwear. She may also want shoes, belts, earrings, etc., to match, this is her moment as a queen, do not try to be cheap.

5. Tell her to let him touch her - For the next date, she should wear something that her Bull chose, dress, mini-skirt, etc., along with the lingerie that he chose for her. For this date, she should make it a point to let him touch her as much as he wants as well as make out with him. Of course, this step may take some time, so don’t rush her. She may be happy just giving him a few kisses at first, but the point is to build up enough chemistry to let him touch and kiss her freely. She should also be encouraged to show off what she is wearing under her clothes or even show nudity, but touching and kissing is what you are aiming for. If she can go for it, she should ask him to suck her tits and eat her out (This might take a few more dates depending on the wife). Dancing and beach dates work really well for getting the wife used to being touch by him. As always, ensure she sees you make sure she has condoms, just in case.

6. Ask her to touch him - If your wife has made it this far with him without actually having sex with him, she is a huge tease that loves the attention. However, it is time to push another level. You will now ask her to touch him too. If she has been making out with him, odds are this is already happening. However, she should make it a point to reach into his pants and feel his cock hard for her. She should pull it out, and look at it, as she jerks him off. Giving him a blowjob is pretty natural at this point and it may even progress into full out sex.

7. Get them a hotel date - If at this point, she has withheld sex from the Bull for some reason, you will help him out and set things up. You will get a room in a nice hotel and have her dress in some sexy clothes he likes. You will take her to the hotel bar and get her in a good mood as she sexts with him. You will tell her to invite him over for some drinks when she is in the right mood. You will take her to the room and have her strip down to her lingerie. You will put her in bed and tie her to the bed, blindfold her, and gag her. Take a picture of her in this position and send it to him from her phone, and tell him she is ready. When he arrives, you can decide if you want to stay and watch, leave him alone to do everything he wants, or make it a threesome.

This wraps up the “Getting Past the Fantasy” post. Remember that just because there is a natural progression, it does not mean it is fast. Some women are faster and easier than others, it takes time and patience. If you are fortunate, your wife may not go past the first date without sex, but if you are patient enough, she will eventually get there. Be patient and have fun, the journey is part of the fun.

I have gotten a lot of messages from many of you following my blog about the success you guys have had. Many of you reading this blog have built up the courage to speak to your wives about your fantasies and have put some of the concepts I talk about into practice with great results. Some of your wives are talking about their exes during sex, others have their wives dressing sluttier, some wives are roleplaying that you are another guy, others have their wives going out pretending they are single, and there are a few out there whose wives are already getting fucked by another man. I congratulate and am happy for each one of you for the progress that has been made. I am glad to hear that you are slightly closer to living your dream life or living it already.

That being said, the majority of you who have talked to your wives are roleplaying and fantasizing, and many of you are asking, what next? How can I get past the fantasy?

Refer back to some of the previous posts, in particular the post “You Want Her To Dress Like A Slut” because we are going to apply some of that here.

Assuming your wife knows about your fantasy and is roleplaying and fantasizing with you, (this seems to be the next hurdle after telling her to become your slutwife), we are going to move on into building up upon her fantasy.

1. Focus Her Fantasies Around Someone She Knows - Fantasizing about celebrities or made up people is great at the beginning of your journey to make her comfortable. Over time, you need to bring your fantasies to a more realistic sense by getting her to talk about people she has had sex with (an ex) or someone she finds attractive (a coworker, neighbor, classmate, etc). Perhaps there is drama with an ex so she won’t go there, or she refuses to admit she finds anyone attractive, which is likely false, but don’t dwell on those things. Reiterate how you want her to consider someone for your fantasy play and if all else fails, talk about someone who has hit on her or checks her out. Could be a friend, coworker, someone online, or whatever, point is that now is the time to bring your fantasy play slightly closer to reality.

2. Get Her to Think About Him - Now that you have identified one or a few people to fantasize about, get her to think about it. Getting her blindfolded (to focus her mind and senses) works really well here. While blindfolded, eat her out to get her in a slutty mood and ask her about the chosen person. Tell her to go with the flow of the questions and to think about it as if it were about to happen. Why does he want to fuck her? Has she ever caught him checking her out? Ever flirted? What did he say if he did? How big do you think his cock is? If an ex, ever had sex? Talk about the most pleasurable experience you had with him? If you were going to date him, how would you dress for him? Why like that? If you had sex with him right now, how slutty would you be for him? Would you suck his dick? Would he eat you out? Would you cum to his cock? You can keep going with this until she cums. Remember to let her gather her sexual thoughts as you eat her out, give her a few seconds to answer and let her keep talking as much as she wants. Do not cut her off or ask questions too quickly. Let her mind process the pleasure and emotions of this. When she gives a really slutty answer or something that you think is really hot, let her know how hot you think that is and continue eating her out. If she cums from this before you finish your questions, let her know how horny it all makes you and fuck her with good intensity while you tell her you love her and love hearing her talk like that. If you run out of questions, just eat her out and ask her to moan like she would moan from him eating her out.

3. Get Her To Pretend You Are Him- After doing the step above a couple of times and getting a good feel of how she visualizes things, move on to pretending you are him. Same scenario, she is blindfolded and relaxed while you eat her out, but she must pretend you are him. Now ask her the same questions pretending you are him. Have you ever caught me checking you out? Have you ever flirted with me? How will you dress up for me on a date? How did you know I want to fuck you? Why do you want me to fuck you? Are you going to be a good slut for me? Etc. You get the point. Have her say your (his) name with her answers once she gets into it. Get her to moan for you and to cum for you (him). While still blindfolded, fuck her and explore her body like you are him, tell her why you want to fuck her, have her beg you to fuck her, and tell her she is a much better fuck than he ever expected. You get the idea. You can repeat the above steps with a couple of other guys if she is feeling it, but focus on no more than three at a time for now, three people close to her at most. You may remove the blindfold after she is comfortable after doing it a few times.

4. Bring It Live - The steps above sound hot but its just more fantasy, you may say. Well you are right. So lets start adding something live to take a step forward. Remember I mentioned the post “You Want Her to Dress Like A Slut”, well this is a good place to begin. Now that she is fantasizing about sex and pretending to fuck with someone close to her, get her to take it up a slight notch. For this, we will use the example of her fantasizing about a coworker. You will ask her to wear some really sexy lingerie to work, under her normal clothes, and to spend slightly more time than usual with her coworker. When she gets home, you will ask her how it went, pleasure her, and talk about how hot it is that she was wearing something sexy around a guy she fantasizes about having sex with. As you pleasure her, tell her how much he would enjoy being able to see her wearing that sexy lingerie. Ask her to imagine his reaction if he saw her just wearing that. Or how hard he would get if he knew she was wearing sexy lingerie for him and fantasizing about sex with him. At a later date, ask her to wear some lingerie but dress slightly sluttier for him. I am not talking about street whore level, I am talking about tighter jeans, leggings, lower cut blouses, push up bras, shorter skirts etc, whatever works in her environment. Something subtle, but tell her you want her to dress for him and to get him to check her out. Of course you will ask her about it when she gets home. Have her tell you what she noticed, did he say anything, did she feel sexy because of it, did she notice him getting hard, etc. you get the point. Tell her to have fun with this, be slightly flirtier, and pleasure her for her efforts when she gets home.

5. Expand Her Horizons - Assuming she is dressing slightly sluttier and being slightly flirtier, his fantasy boy probably noticed and will be creating a spiral of her dressing sexier and being flirtier with you pleasuring that she will start to enjoy. Do you know who else is noticing, just about every guy around her. Remember, you do not love the guy she fantasizes about, you love her and how slutty she behaves. So you don’t need to focus on that one single guy, ask her who else did she catch checking her out. Who else has hit on her? Who else is being flirty? Was she slightly flirtier back? When she catches someone, does she act innocent and let them stare? Who were these people checking her out? If the boss, how would having sex with him benefit her? Could she get a promotion? Why does he want to fuck her? Etc. You get the idea, build up around her life experiences as they are happening and pleasure her because of how she plays at being sluttier. The more guys she does this with, the more fantasy sex, the more you pleasure her, the more she thinks about sex with different men, the more she opens up to acting sluttier.

6. Choose Your Champion - Odds are there will be one guy that will drive her more than the rest. Maybe he is the hottest, or richest, or most muscular, or simply knows how to turn her on. You need to pick up on this and choose your champion. Now that you know who this guy is, ask her to build another form of communication with him. Exchanging numbers, snapchat, facebook, IG, etc, have her build a form of communication with him. Now you will get her to chat with him as friends if necessary. Say they had a work relationship, ask her to build a relationship outside of work as friends. It does not have to be sexual, just something where she is comfortable with communicating with him. A social media platform works well so that he can check out her pictures and you can pleasure her telling her how he must check her out every day. Once this line of communication is established, have her talk to him about something friendly (non-sexual) as you pleasure her. If they are flirting already, then it will be perfect. If they are not, then having her in a slutty mood while they chat might help drive this forward. Overall, convince her to not shy away from flirting or being hit on by him. If she is reluctant, tell her to have fun teasing him and drive him wild without actually committing herself to confessing herself. For example, if he starts hitting on her, tell her to ask him why he likes her, why he thinks she is hot, what does he like her wearing, etc. Tell her she can let him talk to her about everything he thinks about her, without having to tell him anything about herself (unless she wants to, let her flow naturally). She can always avoid questions by telling him she may tell him some other time or she will think about the answer. Of course, you will pleasure her for being so slutty and talk to her about why he wants to fuck her so bad. Upon seeing him again, she should be her normal flirty self and pretend nothing happened, and she can be her flirty self online again next time they chat. By not avoiding him, he will get the hint that she enjoys being hit on like that and will give him an opening to propose to do more.

7. Make Her Sexy For Him - Now that she has fantasized about him and has chatted with him and flirted with him, get her to dress up in some really sexy lingerie and a slutty outfit. Tell her to pretend she is about to go on a fuck date with him and you want her to be a slut for him. While she gets ready, have her chat with him. Tell her to let him be as flirty as he wants and for her to be a good tease for him. Have her send you some really slutty pictures pretending you are him while she texts with you, pretending you are him. She should be really slutty for you, while he chats her up at the same time. (The idea here is to get her to blur the lines between you and him to the point she feels more comfortable being slutty for him too). You will than take her out to a brief date pretending you are him, than take her to a hotel pretending you are him.

8. Have Her Show Him How Slutty She Looks - Following the lines of the previous point, have her dress sexy for a date with him (you) and chat with him while getting ready. This time, encourage her to be flirtier with him and send him a pic (non-nude) to tease him. She can be fully dressed, but tell her to make the pic sexy so that he wants to fuck her even more. The excuse will be that she is going out with you but she wants to know if she looks good and wants his opinion. Of course he will say she is really hot. She will thank him and tell him she is really looking forward to the sex with you tonight. Once this is done, he will likely ask her to see more. She does not need to comply at this point, but can send pics as she pleases. However, she should also “accidently” send him a slutty pic that was meant for you (no face necessary if it is a friction point). Ask her to drive him wild. Since it was accidental, she will ask him to not share it and apologize. She will also mention how turned on she is for sex tonight that she lost her sense of who she was messaging. If he asks about her sexual experiences, have her describe how much she enjoys being a slut for you.

9. Have Her Confess to Him - Assuming she is comfortable making it to this level and having fun with it, the final step will be her confessing. She should find a way to confess to him that she has a crush on him and has gone as far as fantasizing about having sex with him. It is important to note that asking her to confess may be a barrier for both of you, and you do not need to push too hard. Ask her to do it naturally, and if she can’t, continue doing what you are doing but add a level of questioning and roleplay where you add, “What if he knew?”, and “How much you would like him to know”. There are a few ways of getting her to approach the confession, depending on her commitment level. The easiest path is usually when he is texting her about what he wants to do to her, while you eat her out or when she is in the mood in general terms. She can begin by offering hints about how she enjoys how he talks to her and asking him to tell her more and becoming more detailed. He will naturally wonder if she ever thinks about him and ask her. She should simply flow with the conversation and let him know. After she confesses how she thinks about him fucking her, he will make his move of wanting to make it happen. By this point, she should be well aware that you want this to happen, and that you enjoy that she wants him to fuck her.

Moving forward should be natural, but it may not be quick. There is a good chance that she agrees to have sex with him at this point, and you are set to go from there. If she is reluctant, just continue doing what you have been doing and do not worry. He will likely step up his game trying to approach her more and hit on her more, which can push her over the edge. In case things are not quite flowing that way yet, (normally because of a mental barrier), there is a part 2 to this post coming soon.