Hi okay. these inane callouts are never going to stop until people realise that weird kinks, fetishes, and porn are completely fucking neutral and aren't newsworthy in the least. people are gonna have weird sexual power fantasies. it has happened for all of human history and it will continue to do so. role-playing abuse with another consenting adult, fantasising about it, jerking off about it. none of this does harm to anybody on an inherent level.
"People use this kink to abuse-" abusers are in literally every community everywhere. if you think you can spot an abuser by spotting a kinkster, you're severely lacking in critical thinking. yes, there are abusive people doing abuse and calling it "kink". there are also abusive people doing abuse and calling it "sex" or "romance" or "friendship" or "parenting" or "teaching" or "doing my job" or any fucking other number of things. kink is not a unique vector for abuse.
if you think CNC/rape play is literal rape, then you yourself do not understand consent, and I do not trust you. if you think ageplay is an excuse for a dom to act out latent pedophilic urges on an unwitting (yet adult) victim, you do not understand consent, and I do not trust you. if you think petplay is the same as bestiality you're just fucking stupid.
we are out here saying "all the people involved in this dynamic are fully informed and want it and enthusiastically consent and we're having a really genuinely great time feeling very fulfilled and having fun" meanwhile you motherfuckers sit there crying how you "can't consent" to violence or whatever.
if you do not care about someone's ability to say yes, can you really care about their ability to say no?
so no. I don't, and I never will care what someone has been posting about on their porn twitter, or saying in private messages to their friends, or what porn they've been jacking it to, if the only real people involved have been consenting adults. and if they weren't? what the fuck is your callout post on tumblr.com going to do?
by the way this includes all that "bad" porn. yeah like, even those ones yk? babyfur, feral, lolicon, shota, you know, fictional "bad" porn where there's ostensibly No Real Harm? like you've read the above and agree—can you apply the material in the real world now?
do you understand that you have no way of knowing someone's morality, whether they're an abuser or not, by the fictional porn they're into? that someone jerking it 24/7 to babyfur could be a pedo, or maybe could just view it as representative of their kink dynamics?
that someone jerking it to barely legal cishet porn could be a pedo, or maybe they're after the thrill of a fantasy they'd never pursue?
and, even if they're jerking it to "good" porn, they could be a normal person, or they could actually be a legitimate threat to others?
we've seen firsthand that fictional "bad" porn is the first wedge driven into leftist circles to target and take down marginalized people!
you must be critical about art, always! you must drive out any reactionary, conservative thinking! "my solidarity relies on the fictional porn habits of the oppressed" is not leftist, critical, or constructive! it's fed shit, y'all!
This. You can find it disgusting on a personal level without trying to ruin someone's life and reputation over it. Disgust is not harm. Upset is not harm. It is on YOU to manage your emotional response to the things you come across. It is not on everyone else to make the world palatable to you.
People have been and will be jacking it to freak shit forever. No amount of callout posts are ever going to stop that.
if I were writing this post today I'd replace "fucking stupid" with "being wilfully ignorant" to better communicate my point, but the rest of it still stands.
your viral callout post does not prevent harm. it is pure fearmongering.
